It kind of bugs me that some say a person was never a christian to begin with , if they left. Reminds me of the jws who were shocked after 22 years that I would ever leave, then have them say " She was never one of us" I don't claim to understand it all, thats just my humble opinion.
Thank you Littlebird.
It really is quite rude and belittling of the others intelligence to assume that their faith was never "genuine"