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  Does the WT attract needy dysfunctional type of people?

  by William Penwell in

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  in your personal experience, do you think that the wt attracts needy types of people?

  over the years, my experience is that they do attract very needy, insecure, dysfunctional, types.

  i had an acquaintance that i just basically cut off.

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  Not meant to be snarky, but why does any abusive system attract and foster dysfunctional types and their behaviors? The same parallels can be seen in any abusive relationship. Understanding this, would answer your question.

  Take a few steps back and look at what happens with abused women, (JW has quite a few of these), subjects of totalitarian regimes, salespeople for MLMs, (again, many times also JW), and you begin to see a pattern. Abused people have low self esteem and believe their abusers are there for their own good. It starts a positive feedback loop, (vicious cycle), that is difficult to break from.
  

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  Best pills meds or other to take before meeting?

  by Crazyguy in

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  thought it would be good to share what ones take to deal with the meetings.

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  If you need to take something just to get through, you really should be asking yourself if you should be attending at all.

  Most of the prescription drugs discussed here are not intended for long-term or regular use, (for example while you might pop a Xanax to get through attending a JW funeral, it does not mean you take one before every meeting). Most of these things are addictive.

  As for ADs, unless you really have a chemical imbalance, these too will do more harm than good over the long-term. So many JWs take these things precisely because they are in a depressing environment much of the time. I was on them for 4 years before I left. While taking them, I noticed if affected my normal ambitious drive at work in a negative way, (I was far less ambitious). Once I quit going to meetings, I did not need them anymore. 10 years later I still don't.

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  I heard a knock on the door, and...

  by rebel8 in

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  2. friends

  ..."we are"--at this point i began shaking my head no--"stopping by to share a scripture.".

  she had the wt and bible in her hand.. "please do not come to this house ever again.".

  "ok we will put you on the do not call list.

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  Rebel8 - Do you feel a need or desire to help or talk to cultists for any reason?

  (My first paragraph just disappeared, so the last two did not make much sense)....

  No. I have learned some time ago that people only accept reality when/if they are ready to.
  

  For those that are in the process of waking up however, and seek help in doing so, I am more than willing to provide some insight and assistance in general. It is a unique opportunity to assist one in exiting a cult, so I consider it a matter of paying it forward, having successfully done so myself.
  

  I have only seen the JWs in my development maybe two times in the almost seven years we have been in our house. I politely tell them I am not interested. I don't discuss my JW past with them.

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  Evil Bible

  by Simon in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  hadn't seen this site before, i thought i'd share it:.

  http://www.evilbible.com/.

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  BTT for newbies or fence sitters.

  For those that question "what if the JWs still have it right"...Always question the premise first.

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  What Is The Watchtower's Biggest Problem?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the organization has many problems.

  certain doctrines are problematic.

  the men who run the organizaion have issues.

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  Social evolution. (That is rapidly increasing in pace and scope).

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  Hello everyone. New here looking for info and friends

  by Harvard Illiterate 411 in

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  2. announcements

  i sometimes was redirected to this page from reddit or another ex-jw site but never bothered to sign up.

  i wanted to stay off the radar but since i'm getting dis-fellowshipped anyways and have no plans to come back what the hell.

  been 22 years in the truth........... ahhhh i hate to use that expression...... bad habit but you know what i mean.

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  Welcome!
  

  Gotta admit I love the avatar, maybe the best one on JWD! However, for your own good, please put down the cigarettes. Way too addictive, and really will seriously shorten what is already a short life. It took me five years to quit once I started with an occasional "social" smoke. No such thing, really.
  

  Nothing wrong with a little weed or any of the other stuff, however! Enjoy. Life is short.
  

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  Hey Everyone! Recently "DA'd!"

  by jacobm in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just "da'd" friday.

  i've been posting on here for years but do to anonymity, i had to start with a new account.

  would love to connect with anyone that i may know.

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  Congrats. I did it in 2007 and never looked back.
  

  A little aside. I worked for a telecommunications software company based out of Temecula for 10 years. Beautiful city and underrated wine country. I did try once to go to your congregation when I was there on a trip. When I called the KH to inquire of meeting times, I got some arrogant prick elder that went from love bombing me, (because he thought I was some off the street "interested" person), to a condescending ass once he found out I was there on business. I never bothered to go, (then or anytime thereafter).

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  Kids send in your Icecream money!

  by ttdtt in

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  brooklyn's `once in a lifetime' deal said to draw top investors.

  http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2016-02-16/brooklyn-s-once-in-a-lifetime-deal-said-to-draw-top-investors.

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  The comment at the end from Devine is nauseating. I used to work right next door to the Heights. Many of these buildings were near empty for years, (I have not worked there in 4 years). WTS waited precisely for the right moment to get top dollar.
  

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  A good perspective-setting NYT article on humanity's progress

  by done4good in

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  http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/?module=blogmain&action=click®ion=header&pgtype=blogs&version=blog%20post&contentcollection=opinion.

  interesting read.. d4g.

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  http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/?module=BlogMain&action=Click®ion=Header&pgtype=Blogs&version=Blog%20Post&contentCollection=Opinion

  Interesting read.

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  My cat died suddenly!

  by Fisherman in

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  2. friends

  i did not realize that they were symptoms that something was wrong with my cat -but i did notice that my cat was breathing a little differently for a period of about a few days.

  i also noticed prior and after to that, that on occasion, my cat would cry at the litter box, but that was a very seldom event.. anyway, about a week ago i noticed the symptom that my very loved cat was breathing heavy.

  so i called a taxi and i was going to rush him to emergency room for cats.

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  Sorry for your loss, Fisherman...I have been there myself. My current cat is 15 and I loathe the day she passes.

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