Posts by tremoka

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Muslim women turned into lesbians

by Paralipomenon in

i am currently studying islam as an academic curiosity.

really, the whole belief structure has me shaking my head when i come home.

the part i'm at now involves the afterlife, ie.

tremoka

Have you seen the international film Fire by Deepa Mehta? oh ya it's gotta have the fundamentalists steaming! hahaha

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Did you lead a double life as a JW? Are you leading a double life still?

by Bumble Bee in

as a jw, alot of us lead double lives.

i know i did.. in talking about our situations with my sister in law, realized that i now lead a double life as a "fader"!!!

my husband and i are "out" of the religion (my brother, sister in law and the kids too) but for the sake of family, they think we are still "in" although they know we are not active.

tremoka

That's exactly the point that I wrestle with Bumble Bee! I had a post on here about that a couple months back. For me it will be done, but when it's the best time for the family.

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Transcript Of My KH's Discussion Of Sept. 2007 KM QFR

by Justitia Themis in

elder.

bro.

I haven't sat through such BS in years. Holy crap things haven't changed! Same fear tactics used same repetitive crap over and over. I am so surprised people don't run out of the KH screaming! Having been away from it for a while, I can't believe people just sit there and take this shite! I feel sick now.

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Lordy Lordy, Look Who's Forty!

by Bumble Bee in

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friends

first time in 40 years memario had a proper birthday with cake and candles and singing!.

happy birthday memario!!.

bb.

tremoka

Hey Mem!

Still have any more of that yummy cake in your fridge? I actually had a craving today......

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I DID IT!! take a look.....

by memario in

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friends

this is my piercing ... from thread http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/139023/1.ashx.

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tremoka

I was not expecting that! Wow.

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You Must Push, Push, Push To Accomplish More, More, More

by The wanderer in

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friends

you must push, push, push to accomplish more, more, moreone of the major reasons in leaving the organization was the pressure exerted on the individual.

in the congregation.

it always seemed as if your best was never good enough and more could .

tremoka

That's why I stopped going. It triggered depressive episodes for me. When I was inactive my life was calmer and happier. Everytime I went back that destructive cycle would begin again.

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My disagreement with hubby on use of Jehovah's name around JW's...input

by megsmomma in

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friends

ok, this weekend i had a jw at my door and i sincerely gave a anti-wintess to him during which i did tell him i feel closer to jehovah than i ever have and i still believe in jehovah, just not the society.

my husband thinks i should have said "the lord" or "god" instead, because he thinks it sounds like i was being hypicritical in a way.. my take is that to sound like i knew what i was talking about, and to lessen the likliness of him turning his ears off right away, i should talk in a way he is comfortable with.. hubby thinks it is more beneficial to show you are free from their wording and say what you mean from your learning that jehovah is not god's only true name.. .

what do you say when talking to them if you get the chance?.

tremoka

I side with you on this one. Although I may use just God more than Jehovah. I may say Jehovah for that common ground you spead of 1-2x, but for the rest of the conversation to be true to my belief I'll just say 'God'.

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Santa Clause, Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy...

by changeling in

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friends

i recall witnesses saying how evil wordly parents were by "lying" to their children about these characters.

how witness children were fortunate that their parents always told them the truth.. so, i wonder, have you ever met an adult who was messed up because of having found out that santa clause and friends were not real?

are therapist's couches everywhere filled with these poor souls?

tremoka

Hey Kitten whiskers!

Last xmas was my husbands first and my childrens first. It was the BEST ever. Since we have JW's living in our house and we are Underground exjws, we did it at my moms. I felt like a little kid again! I'm bawling as I write this (I'm a friggin big suck LMAO) I have 4 other siblings and we all slept over!!! We had a blast!!!!!

My son didn't sleep alllll night, he kept asking how many presents there would be if they went from the living room to the garage! hahaha We were all excited and enjoying each others company (watching Borat :0 ) none of us slept.

Well my hubbys face that morning. I felt so blasted bad for him that his whole 34 years he'd been denied this tradition. He was moved to tears. It was very emotional for all of us. My first xmas with my family in 16years of me being a JW. My husbands and childrens first xmas.

So ya like you I am grateful my family has my experiences to fall back on because I don't think we'd have a clue where to start or how to do it or really what it's all about. My hubby had no idea what it was really about until he participated. Mind you he's a penny pincher but he had fun receiving! hahahah Memories, love for one another, TRADITION, celebration of life-that's what it's about!

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Doing laundry for men.......ARGHHHHHHH!

by restrangled in

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friends

tremoka

I make him live out of his laundry hamper! hahahaha If I put his clothes away he pulls them out again anyway!?!?! So I wash, fold and to his hamper they go!

I know I'm not a good little "christian wife" heeheeheehee

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How Would You or Did You Leave The Organization??

by minimus in

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friends

by choice, with a little help from the elders, faded slowly, disassociated????

how'd you get out?

tremoka

Couldn't do it anymore. I just couldn't do it. So I stopped thinking I'd just take a breather and get back when I had the strength. Then I read a psychology book for Women's Sciences that said No religion should hold a woman back as a second class citizen, degrade her, or hold her back in her pursuit of carreer or in looking after her needs. The light bulb went on in my head. Also my husband was raised a JW and he had many issues and I attributed most of it to his upbringing in the org. Emotional suppression, living based on appearances, double life style, etc. I did not want this for my kids and I saw I was instilling some of these very things in them.

I remember vomiting when I first started my research on the WTS. I quickly found I wanted NOTHING to do with this religion anymore. I continued to educate myself on mind control groups and the lies of the WT. I took time mending and healing.

My hubby and I would always talk about things we didn't agree with or like in the org. Then he read CoC and now we are planning our break. Deeply considering the best way of going about it for our circumstances! We will RESIGN I will call it. But it still may be some time until we have our affairs in order!

Never been happier! Life is amazing now that we don't have to contend with all the burdens and weight of JW living and expectations!