Posts by tremoka

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I DID IT!! take a look.....

by memario in

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this is my piercing ... from thread http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/139023/1.ashx.

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You Must Push, Push, Push To Accomplish More, More, More

by The wanderer in

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you must push, push, push to accomplish more, more, moreone of the major reasons in leaving the organization was the pressure exerted on the individual.

in the congregation.

it always seemed as if your best was never good enough and more could .

tremoka

That's why I stopped going. It triggered depressive episodes for me. When I was inactive my life was calmer and happier. Everytime I went back that destructive cycle would begin again.

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My disagreement with hubby on use of Jehovah's name around JW's...input

by megsmomma in

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ok, this weekend i had a jw at my door and i sincerely gave a anti-wintess to him during which i did tell him i feel closer to jehovah than i ever have and i still believe in jehovah, just not the society.

my husband thinks i should have said "the lord" or "god" instead, because he thinks it sounds like i was being hypicritical in a way.. my take is that to sound like i knew what i was talking about, and to lessen the likliness of him turning his ears off right away, i should talk in a way he is comfortable with.. hubby thinks it is more beneficial to show you are free from their wording and say what you mean from your learning that jehovah is not god's only true name.. .

what do you say when talking to them if you get the chance?.

tremoka

I side with you on this one. Although I may use just God more than Jehovah. I may say Jehovah for that common ground you spead of 1-2x, but for the rest of the conversation to be true to my belief I'll just say 'God'.

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Santa Clause, Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy...

by changeling in

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i recall witnesses saying how evil wordly parents were by "lying" to their children about these characters.

how witness children were fortunate that their parents always told them the truth.. so, i wonder, have you ever met an adult who was messed up because of having found out that santa clause and friends were not real?

are therapist's couches everywhere filled with these poor souls?

tremoka

Hey Kitten whiskers!

Last xmas was my husbands first and my childrens first. It was the BEST ever. Since we have JW's living in our house and we are Underground exjws, we did it at my moms. I felt like a little kid again! I'm bawling as I write this (I'm a friggin big suck LMAO) I have 4 other siblings and we all slept over!!! We had a blast!!!!!

My son didn't sleep alllll night, he kept asking how many presents there would be if they went from the living room to the garage! hahaha We were all excited and enjoying each others company (watching Borat :0 ) none of us slept.

Well my hubbys face that morning. I felt so blasted bad for him that his whole 34 years he'd been denied this tradition. He was moved to tears. It was very emotional for all of us. My first xmas with my family in 16years of me being a JW. My husbands and childrens first xmas.

So ya like you I am grateful my family has my experiences to fall back on because I don't think we'd have a clue where to start or how to do it or really what it's all about. My hubby had no idea what it was really about until he participated. Mind you he's a penny pincher but he had fun receiving! hahahah Memories, love for one another, TRADITION, celebration of life-that's what it's about!

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Doing laundry for men.......ARGHHHHHHH!

by restrangled in

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tremoka

I make him live out of his laundry hamper! hahahaha If I put his clothes away he pulls them out again anyway!?!?! So I wash, fold and to his hamper they go!

I know I'm not a good little "christian wife" heeheeheehee

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How Would You or Did You Leave The Organization??

by minimus in

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by choice, with a little help from the elders, faded slowly, disassociated????

how'd you get out?

tremoka

Couldn't do it anymore. I just couldn't do it. So I stopped thinking I'd just take a breather and get back when I had the strength. Then I read a psychology book for Women's Sciences that said No religion should hold a woman back as a second class citizen, degrade her, or hold her back in her pursuit of carreer or in looking after her needs. The light bulb went on in my head. Also my husband was raised a JW and he had many issues and I attributed most of it to his upbringing in the org. Emotional suppression, living based on appearances, double life style, etc. I did not want this for my kids and I saw I was instilling some of these very things in them.

I remember vomiting when I first started my research on the WTS. I quickly found I wanted NOTHING to do with this religion anymore. I continued to educate myself on mind control groups and the lies of the WT. I took time mending and healing.

My hubby and I would always talk about things we didn't agree with or like in the org. Then he read CoC and now we are planning our break. Deeply considering the best way of going about it for our circumstances! We will RESIGN I will call it. But it still may be some time until we have our affairs in order!

Never been happier! Life is amazing now that we don't have to contend with all the burdens and weight of JW living and expectations!

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Do you look forwards, backwards or sideways?

by mtsgrad in

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morning faders, da's df's and current witnesses,.

the whole of my life in the troof was spent looking forward to the end of this wicked system.

over 30 years of waiting for jehovah to sort out the ills of mankind.

tremoka

I like to live and learn. But I'm still dealing with the consequences of pas actions and this can get me in a pity party of regrets. Somethings you can never get back ya know????

I distanced myself from my unbelieving family. I'm paying for it greatly now that my grandmother has died recently. I can't get that time back with her! Not a day goes by that I'm not wracked with guilt and grief. I was there in the end but that still doesn't heal the pain of 16 years lost of family celebrations and relationship I lost. I can't believe I was stupid enough to let the borg influence my thinking to distance myself from my non believing flesh and blood.

IT HURTS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BADLY. This is what I am bitter about.

Looking forward, MY 13 YEAR OLD SON HAD HIS FIRST BIRTHDAY PARTY LAST WEEK!

I can make a change and make up for lost time with other family members. Every moment is valuable time. Not to be wasted.

Cheers to Everyone!

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HELLO

by memario in

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finally i made it!

this is my first post and it feels great!

great day to you all.

tremoka

Hellooooo Super Mario!

Congrats my friend! I'm happy your're here!

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Elders' wives and elders' kids - any different from the RnF?

by Inquisitor in

elder's wives - the general impression of them in my congregation is that they are not to be messed with.

ews are all smiles in front of guests but brutally unaccomodating to more familiar brothers and sisters.

they put much effort in making "good" comments at the meetings, with the occasional veiled insult directed at certain individuals (i suppose this is the only outlet for a lady in jehovah's patriarchy).

tremoka

It totally astounds me that this behaviour seems to be the same no matter what country you live in.

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On my own now

by dazednotconfused in

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hi everyone - i have posted only a couple times here but felt the urge to let loose a little bit today.

i am 41 years old, and after being brainwashed for the last 35 years, i can no longer continue as a jw - i have not been inside a kingdom hall in over a year, my friends and family have shunned me and i have very few associates outside of "the truth".. now i am not here to cry and feel sorry for myself.

but i would like to hear from some who are/were in a similar situation.

tremoka

Congratulations dazednotconfused!

It is overwhelming at first! But it's a fantastic ride! You will be astounded at how much you'll learn about yourself. I believe the religion stagnates all personal growth and we are never allowed the process of individuation. You can now become "you"

So I say this is where to begin. Go slow. Find something you are passionate about but needed to supress because of living a JW life. For me it was something as simple as signing up for guitar lessons and not feeling guilty for spending the time on myself rather than the guilt that I should be studying, service etc! It is a slow process but savour every moment. You are free! A whole world of possibility lies before you!

You also get to choose who your associates are for yourself! Getting involved in extracurricular activities will help you find those with simular interests. It takes time. Or extend to those you always wanted to be friends with at work but couldn't while a JW.

It all takes years to do this. Just be patient! Revel in all the baby steps you take and know it's for a better more fulfilling life! :)