Thanks everyone for your comments eo far! I do know that not all non-JWs are "bad". I guess it's just hard to get that mentality out of your head when you've been taught it for so long..and of course "bad" and "good" is a very relative thing..
It's understandable you get thoughts like that because you have been in a cult that uses mind control. It's hard for you to see it at this point, but they do a good job of making people doubt themselves and fear life outside the organization. They are like sound bites that go off in your head, "worldly people are all bad" "the Watchtower is the only safe place", etc. It takes years for this to go away completely. Just hang in there and give yourself some time to figure out who you are as a person and what you need in a partner. Once you do that you will be in a better position to know the right person when you find them.