The elder was married rather than a single elder. So he could get away with having kids to spend nights with "uncle" elder and his wife. Only the wife hated camping and he was often alone with them. But was an elder so nobody really fussed that much about it, officially, though many of us felt uneasy and brought it up.
That elder died about 6-7 years ago. He was only in his 40s but had major diabetes problems.
Yes, elders of kids, in my last congregation, received very special treatment. As did their friends when they too were in trouble.
No, you generally don't carry condoms when you are JW and not married. :)
And when get caught climbing in through another JW's window you need a reason if not sex. But they initially said the intention was just fun. Then agreed it had been taking place more than once and confessed to sex multiple times in the end. The condom question clarifies intent. If you show up with condom well there's a reason for it. That's disfellowshipping offense then because consider practicing rather than one mistake. Two judicial committees though. One for he and one for she. Ours decided 'she' should be disfellowshipped because they were clearly practicing it and only came clean after being CAUGHT. But the other committee (and an elder's son) went ahead and just did public reproof for him. So we could not DF our girl when they just reproved the elder's son for same exact things. Our committee was not happy because if you are a JW at least do it the right way. That stuff goes on all the time.