Posts by Dagney

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Sweet 16 - Happy Birthday to Us !

by Simon in

it's the forum's 16th birthday today!.

amazing that not only have we lasted so long but we're still thriving and growing.. thanks to all the people and often colorful characters who've contributed to the site over the years.

some are still here with us, some have since moved on, but all have touched each others lives in some way along our different journeys.. .

Dagney

Happy Happy Birthday JWN!!!

Thank you Simon and Ang for all the hard work and time put into this site.

It was a scary place for me in the beginning, but my friend Ann O'Maly kept telling me about discussions that were going on and eventually I peeked at the site, and became a member a few years later.

I met my first exJW here, a former mod, (I think), Sassy. Since then I have made many true friends from here IRL.

Here's to many more JW finding this place and creating new lives for themselves. Cheers!!

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Whatever happened to "YOU'RE WELCOME"? Has "NO PROBLEM" replaced it?

by Terry in

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wherever i go, i say "thank you" to clerks, servers, delivery people, hosts and hostesses and the response has become invariable: "no problem!".

have i aged to the point i'm now an old fuddy duddy who doesn't "get it"?.

is it counted mannerly to avoid, "you're welcome" in favor of "no problem"?.

Dagney

LOL. I think Simon is right. I don't like it either yet I hear myself saying it from time to time as well!!!

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I COLLECT QUOTES. . . Here are some of my favorites

by Terry in

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please post your favorites too.

my favorite quotations:.

you cannot change what you refuse to confront.. sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.. don’t think of cost.

Dagney

So many...

Stop looking in the rear view mirror...it's not where you are going. (Told to me by kindly exJW on here.)

Most people are doing the best they know how. When we know better, we do better.

You can't change what you don't acknowledge.

The Four Agreements...I use daily;

-Be impeccable with your word.

-Don't take anything personally. (Hard to do)

-Don't make assumptions. (Really hard to do.)

-Always do your best.

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Why is this year's memorial being held on March 23 (which is the 13th of Adar II on the Jewish Calendar)?

by outsmartthesystem in

i thought it had to be done on nisan 14????.

nisan 14 isn't until april 22nd.

does this have anything to do with an intercalary month being added to the jewish calendar this year or something?

Lost on how to respond...

by babygirl30 in

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so an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.

the story goes like this when we were jw's:.

- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.

Dagney

babygirl30...Great response! Perfect in fact.

NTS for future reference.

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Lost on how to respond...

by babygirl30 in

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so an old friend of mine from the congregation hit me up today.

the story goes like this when we were jw's:.

- this guy used to be madly in love with me but i didn't see him as anything more than a friend.

Dagney

The last highlighted paragraph is a doozy. But it is the cult mind speaking, and we don't speak the same language anymore.

If I felt consideration for the person, I think I would just answer positively and thank him for his thoughtful response. Keep the communication as such that if down the line he had issues with JW he could approach you. I make it clear I'm happy and well and glad they are the same. It seems to befuddle the JW's I know. They expect us to be "sighing and crying" in our lives. When we are not, they seem to not know what to say.

Good luck.

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Memoir by Prince

by Dagney in

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http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/prince-to-publish-unconventional-memoir-in-2017-20160318 .

hmmmm...i wonder if he will preach?.

Dagney

http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/prince-to-publish-unconventional-memoir-in-2017-20160318

Hmmmm...I wonder if he will preach?

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Dan Sydlik

by done4good in

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morning warship - he was the only restraint and i'm not saying that lightly.

i know there are a dozen others here who were in bethel back in the early 2000's who know what i'm talking about.

he actually kept me thinking this was jehovah's org because of his sincerity as if the holy spirit was operating in him.

Dagney

Dan used to pioneer in the S California area when he was young. Our congo brought him out many times to visit and give talks...he also gave the dedication talk to our remodeled hall.

One Saturday I was at MFS, and there was this older gentleman milling about in a baby blue suit. I didn't know who he was so I went up and introduced myself and he stuck out his hand and said, "Hi! I'm Dan!"

I will say he gave warm, funny off script talks...would say "God bless you all" to the congregation. He seemed genuine. I think he tried to do what he felt was right, but he was a company man...no inside apostate. Just back in the early days those guys could be more individual...they didn't all have to march in goose step.

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Latest on Greg Stafford

by Nitty-Gritty in

for all those who know who greg stafford is/was.

the former "apostate/apologist and author of three dissertations and other books, is on page 2 of the march 2016 meeting work book.

https://www.jw.org/en/publications/jw-meeting-workbook/march-2016-mwb/meeting-schedule-mar7-13/welcome-memorial-guests/.

Dagney

Nope. Not Greg.

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I am losing

by NoMoreHustle in

i haven't posted anything for a bit, but wanted to express how i am losing this battle.

it has been over 3 years now since i woke up about watchtower.

the battle that i am talking about is the tug of war with my wife (i adore her immensely), watchtower is winning, she simply will not give in to my so-called negative thoughts about the religion that we are in.

Dagney

After 20 years surely by now she should be able to discern the man you are without the help of anybody including the WT. If she uses the WT as an excuse to assault your value as a man and husband, there is a larger problem there than the religion.

Blaming you for her weakness is a a clue.

Hope things work out for you.