I am so sorry for what you are going through. Even as we understand we would probably do the same as Sol pointed out, now being enlightened about TTATT, it would be unthinkable.
I watched Cedar's recap of the Saturday session of the RC, and the message is loud and strong for them to shun. The speaker called it an act of love. It's infuriating.
Positive thought to you and yours as you navigate through these times.