We were never encouraged to develop our own individual goals and wants in order to live the life we are meant to live. So it feels weird to focus on ourselves to find that information.
But that is what it takes to live the life you should live...and not how others, (parents, WTBS), say you should live. Living fully your own life will give you a happy life.
Hurt will come, 100%. But the hurt comes from seemingly well intentioned others trying to make you stay in the box they think you should be in. If they were not so intent on that, there would be no hurt.
It's part of the journey but it is so much better if you start it while you are young. Be reassuring and confident with your mom, and maybe she will give you room to fly.