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  Can’t cope with being disfellowshipped…..Need some advice

  by xxBettyBoopxx in

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  this site is great, i have been lurking for a while now.

  but i can’t get reinstated and have used some of the advice already given.. i was df’d many months ago and go to all the meetings and do all the preparation for the meetings, but the jc committee keep refusing me.

  tomorrow at the clam meeting i am puting yet another letter in and will be called for another dreadful jc meeting.. 1. what can i say to the elders to show that i am truly repentant?.

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  Dagney

  Welcome Betty! Glad you found us.

  The advice is good here. Honestly, there is no replacing years of relationships that you have cultivated. Even if you are reinstated, you are different, they know you are different, and they also are different. Things will never be the same as you might think they will be. Life will always be cautious around you and you will carry the mark of "DF" forever.

  However, if you start building a life that you want to live while you are waiting for what you think you want, it will be time well spent. You will have the satisfaction of developing yourself into the person you were meant to be. Find a hobby or craft or volunteer work that you enjoy, and you will meet people that feel the same as you.

  Nothing worthwhile is easy, but the rewards are great. As much as you wish to be reinstated, it means nothing to the elders. JW's are all about punishing...it's very important to them. Those that miss meetings or don't meet a good average in service are always called out...punished. You can never win with elders. But you can win at your life if you try.

  Wishing you strength for the journey.
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  Latest Metal Detecting Find

  by cofty in

  1. social
  2. physical

  now the harvest is underway up north i can get out for a walk with the metal detector in the evening.

  i am lucky to live on a historic rural estate and i have permission from the landowner to detect.. this is a coin that popped up last night.

  it was only about 2 inches deep and had been tumbling around in the plough soil for the last 750 years.. it is a silver penny of king henry iii.

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  Dagney

  Nice! How fun is that!
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  Anyone else feel guilty about bringing others into the "truth", once you have learned TTATT ?

  by Dunedain in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i guess this is not so much about guilt, per se, but more so if you feel an obligation to reveal what you now know about ttatt, to those who you have studied with, taught the "truth" to, and are still in the borg ?.

  i am sure most of us, after learning about the evils, and lies perpetrated by this organization, must feel some sort of guilt for being the catalyst in "exposing" others to the cult.

  honestly, i feel none of us should actually, feel guilty though.

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  Dagney

  I did to one. The other two I haven't seen. I hope they find their way out.
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  In love with a JW girl

  by rastapau in

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  2. relationships

  need advise.

  i was in a relation with a jw girl for almost three years(im am not jw) and we are so inlove with each other until someone saw us from her congregation and she was disfellowed and that where the oddness happened.

  her family and friends are not talking to her anymore, she wants me to stop seeing and talking to her anymore not until i became a baptized jw.

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  Dagney

  Just remember, if you feel it is unfair now, it will NOT get any better.

  Do you like that feeling?

  Do you want to feel the unfairness every minute for the rest of your life?

  You have the power to decide how to live your best live. Choose wisely.
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  Trolley cart "witnessing" is getting ridiculous

  by oppostate in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i really fail to see how much actual "witnessing" is occurring with the trolley carts.publishers, usually pioneers, just stand or sit there not engaging anyone and count their time.. the only thing i notice that it's accomplishing is brand exposure for jw.0rg so the public is exposed to the logo and literature/poster card headlines.. take for example this "evening" witnessing by a pioneer elder while on summer holiday/vacation.. .

  is this not a wth kinda moment when you consider the years of slaving, knocking on doors, business territory and bible studies we had to keep performing so we weren't branded a "weak" publisher?.

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  Dagney

  The sad/disgusting part is how overly righteous they feel by doing this "work" as opposed to all the "worldly people" they hope will shortly be destroyed. And the "work" is basically nothing, nada, zilch...no effort on their part.

  The WBTS is selling them a fantastic line of BS. And they willingly obey because they want the pet tiger and mansion for all their "faithful and work."

  I don't know what I'm getting all worked up about...they deserve each other.
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  Rutherford Exposed: The Story of Berta and Bonnie

  by Farkel in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  it was made by a women who in later years wore crotchless panties and bras which had holes in the nipple areas.

  he not only knew the woman in question (she's now deceased), he has met her numerous times.

  up until recently this secret of her year's long sexual affair with rutherford was kept by the family.

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  Dagney

  slim, it's the picture of Joseph Balko who was the son of the caretakers at Beth Sarim when Rutherford lived there.

  Edited to add, Farkel started this thread which was initially about Berta Peale, a traveling companion and "dietitian" for Rutherford. It morphed into quite an investigation of the cast of characters surrounding da Judge during his presidency of the WBTS.
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  Rutherford Exposed: The Story of Berta and Bonnie

  by Farkel in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  it was made by a women who in later years wore crotchless panties and bras which had holes in the nipple areas.

  he not only knew the woman in question (she's now deceased), he has met her numerous times.

  up until recently this secret of her year's long sexual affair with rutherford was kept by the family.

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  Dagney

  Weird...it duplicated my post.
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  Rutherford Exposed: The Story of Berta and Bonnie

  by Farkel in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  it was made by a women who in later years wore crotchless panties and bras which had holes in the nipple areas.

  he not only knew the woman in question (she's now deceased), he has met her numerous times.

  up until recently this secret of her year's long sexual affair with rutherford was kept by the family.

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  Dagney

  I've just spend some time over the past few days re-reading this thread. When it first posted I was still warily looking at JW material on the internet, and this site we are all on now scared the beejeebers out of me! But...I could not look away. So many knowledgeable people and fascinating threads. It's all here folks...anything and everything you ever wanted to know about JW's and more.

  This is a masterful thread...amazing insight and information of the past. So many contributors. I miss Leo. Read anything and everything by her. She is amazing. I know she has gone on to wonderful things in her life.

  Thank you Simon for this place.
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  Woman's Purpose

  by StopTheTears in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm probably going to say some things here that will disappoint many.

  there are some that may look back over the years and say "man i really blew it" i'm not writing the following to scold for failures, but rather to help those who are young enough to put into practice what god wills for their life, and also to those of us who are in our middle years that still have time to change some things, in order to please god and find a peace that only being in his will can bring.

  first let me say that god didn't create man for you.

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  Dagney

  That was hilarious! Thank you for posting!
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  Hello all

  by WhiskeySix in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am new to this site and wanted to say hi.

  my wife and i are recently disassociated.

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  Dagney

  Yay! Welcome! So glad you both made it out! 👍🏻💐