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  How To Fade Away Cleanly?

  by SplaneThisToMe in

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  this is my first post and hopefully i can get some advice and input.

  i have been actively involved with the organization for a little over 10 years now.

  i began studying in high school, got baptized and my family fortunately did not.

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  Dagney

  Hey Splane, good on you for your decision to leave.

  FWIW, I didn't know what I was doing when I left, and I wasn't ready to set the world on fire, but I still had to be truthful when asked by family and friends why I "wasn't going to meetings." What I said was I had issues with the corporation, and "I'm taking it to prayer/or between me and Jehovah at this time." That really worked for me because nobody wanted to "go there."

  Not sure it would work in today's climate. I wanted to be clear to them it wasn't a passing fancy, and it wasn't personal as with a person or persons, I wasn't wounded or hurt or discouraged. I wanted them to know it was the policies of the corporation is what I had issue with and it was serious enough for me to take action.

  I wish you strength and peace for the journey. It is so worth it.
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  Recent JW Literature Trolley Experience

  by Athanasius in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  the j ws have set up a literature trolley in one of our local shopping centers.

  since the goodwill thrift store at the center has an excellent selection of second hand books, i stop by twice a month and buy a book or two that catches my interest.

  as a result i've become friendly with the j ws who mind the trolley.. usually the minders are two 70 something j w ladies.

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  Dagney

  So yesterday I flew back into LAX and was down in baggage claim retrieving my bag. I was rushing to get out to schedule an Uber when I had to return to the baggage claim area and take an escalator up to the departure area, where the Uber drivers pick up their fares.

  And there they were. Along the wall, with the trolley, each hold more mags, chatting to each other were two "sisters." At first I was like "oh wow you are here" when I saw them. I stopped in front of them for some reason, they continued to chat about some "sister..." They didn't bother to acknowledge me so I hurried on. I had to get to work.

  #1 I really need to work up something to say to them. Something short and sweet just to say something.

  #2 Oh my goodness...what an odd place to stand. Just along a wall in a busy Southwest baggage claim area. I just can't even believe anybody would stop to talk with them there. Maybe that was the plan...

  Odd times.
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  Captain Obvious: A Success Story

  by Captain Obvious in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  january 2012, at the age of 24 i “woke up” to the truth about the truth.

  march 2012, i joined this esteemed message board and was welcomed.

  this forum was such a help.

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  Dagney

  Congratulations! and Well Done!
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  We missed you at the meetings...

  by punkofnice in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  how many times have you heard that trope?.

  i found it more irritating than a dose of farmers on the bum.

  i've even said it when i was a brainwashed jobo drone.

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  Dagney

  "We missed you at the meetings."

  Me: Awww!! Thank you! Hugs.

  
  
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  Local JW mom among the victims of the Vegas shooter

  by TTWSYF in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  rhonda lerocque attended the kingdom hall of wilmington, ma.

  my brother and his family were part of that cong back in the day, although i don't know if they knew.. a mother, wife, sister, daughter, etc, etc.. please pray for her and all of those involved..

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  Dagney

  OMGosh...I have a JW on my FB, and she shared this from a page called "JW Brothers."

  The comments made me ill...
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  Tom Petty has passed away

  by sir82 in

  1. social
  2. current

  http://www.esquire.com/entertainment/music/a12766936/tom-petty-critical-condition-cardiac-arrest/.

  sad..

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  Dagney

  Pretty sad day yesterday. He had just finished a world tour ending up here with three days at the Hollywood Bowl just one week ago.

  RIP.
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  So today this happened...

  by Phoebe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  you all pretty much know my story so i won't repeat it but.... to say i'm being hounded by my local congregation is an understatement.

  today the cobe finally found us in.

  well, i refused to answer the door but my husband did.

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  Dagney

  Phoebe - how did you respond to the "command from Jehovah" statement about going to meetings?

  I had a message left on all 3 of my phones from a JW, former elder, who has kept in touch with me a few times a year since I left. Usually the convo goes okay, but I get agita every time I see his name pop up on my phone. I am wondering if he is going to do the same to me...try to get me back to meetings.

  Seriously, I shouldn't be this nervous. I gotta get a grip.
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  Coping With Parents' Becoming Jehovah's Witnesses

  by DNCall in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my sister recently wrote a short piece on the impact of our parents' becoming jehovah's witnesses in the 1950s.

  she was a teenager at the time.

  what is so striking and disturbing is that the same predicament faces so many teenagers to this day.

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  Dagney

  Hi DNCall!

  Thank you for sharing your sister's story. Wonderful they had such clarity at that age and got the heck out! I remember having to back away from school commendations and having cognitive dissonance. It just seems so ridiculous now to not pursue what you are good at. ***sigh**

  What matters is we are out now, right! *clink*

  xxx
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  "Please pray for me."

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  greetings, friends:.

  today, i saw an old friend in town, and, after we got caught up and finally said our goodbyes, she asked me to pray for her.

  family problems were eating her up.. how have you responded if and when you were asked this?

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  Dagney

  They are asking because they are looking for comfort. My prayer may not be what they think prayer is. I was and still am comforted and very touched by nonJW's, I think usually Catholic, who tell me they will say a prayer for me or a loved one.

  If they are older, or distressed, I just say "I will!" without going detail, and privately send positive thoughts.

  In another circumstance, I would just say "Sending positive and healing thoughts your way."
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  Make Your Excellent Point to a JW, But- Remember, it's a Mind Control Cult.

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  2. friends

  so i am reading from many that they have an excellent thought-stopper for jw's.

  (remember reasoning from the scriptures used "thought-stoppers?

  )"if you just show them [this scripture or use this logic or expose this problem with the organization], you will shut them down.".

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  Dagney

  Hi OTWO! waves.

  I echo your thoughts. All the JW's I know have seen this organization pivot so many times on issues and doctrine, they are used to it. Right now the focus is "Don't Give Up!" They make up their own reasons for staying, family, social, it's easier...hanging on to the hope of a pet tiger, a very strong tether. I am convinced you cannot argue with faith; it is a waste of time.

  With that being said, my little arrows are at the corporation. I tell them they are doing things that go against my conscience. They don't want to know or ask...so I know it raises a niggle in them.

  We can only hope more and more will have the courage to step outside the box.