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  Ex Wife(JW) Wants to pull my 8 year old out of school and homeschool

  by LowTech in

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  so i got a call from my ex tonight and she wants to pull my daughter out of school and home-school her.

  she thinks that the schools are getting so bad(in a small town of 15,000...?).

  my daughter loves school she doing great in school.

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  I very much appreciate all the comments and advice so far. Knowing my Ex, just saying "no" is not going to cut it. I've gathering a list of questions and points for her to answer even before I will give my opinion on this. This is what I have come up with so far:

  1. What are your motivations for home-schooling her?

  a. While they may have certain days dedicated to the “holidays” in the lower grades at school, She will soon be moving into Middle School and the number of these days will decrease as she gets higher in her education.

  2. Do you think isolating a child from problems is really the best way for them to learn how to handle them?

  a. Did you keep her away from everyone when she was a baby in order for her to not get sick, or did we take her out so she was exposed and developed a better immune system?

  b. Do you think keeping her isolated from things will in the long run will help her, or could it possibly backfire?

  3. What are her thoughts and feelings on the issue?

  a. She currently loves school. She is always talking about her teachers and her fellow students.

  b. Pulling her out of school could stunt her love of learning, have you thought about that and discussed what this would mean for her. And I’m talking about listening to her and her feelings and not just coercing your views into her.

  4. What program are you going to be using for home-schooling?

  5. Are you capable of dedicating the time that home-schooling requires?

  a. Do you think you are capable of properly teaching her, working enough to be able to provide for her, and do all this without becoming so stressed that it affects her home life?

  6. Do you know what is expected in all subjects at all grade levels, and do you think you can properly teach her these?

  7. What are your plans and schedule?

  a. Children need structure.

  8. How will you be able to teach her when she gets into areas that you have hard time understanding?

  9. Do you know what the state law requires for home-schooling?

  10. How are you going to teach her in the required areas? :

  a. Language Arts

  b. Social Studies

  c. Math

  i. Are you seriously going to be able to help her with questions in Algebra, Geometry, and Trigonometry?

  d. Fine Arts

  i. Schools take field trips to Museums, Art Galleries, etc. Are you going to be doing that?

  e. Physical Science

  i. How are you going to be able to teach science properly without hands on equipment that it takes to properly explain many of the areas of science?

  ii. Are you going to be able to provide her with demonstrations, models, and experiments?

  f. Physical Education

  i. Are you planning on enrolling her in gymnastics, swimming or dance?

  g. Health

  11. Do you realize that she may be required to take and pass the standardized tests and score appropriately for her age group or she may have to repeat grades, if she wants/needs to go back to public school ?

  12. Have you considered how hard a re-adjustment it would be for her to go back in to the public school system once she has been out for a period of time?

  Do you have any other thoughts or things to add to this.

  Thanks!

  Christopher
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  Ex Wife(JW) Wants to pull my 8 year old out of school and homeschool

  by LowTech in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i got a call from my ex tonight and she wants to pull my daughter out of school and home-school her.

  she thinks that the schools are getting so bad(in a small town of 15,000...?).

  my daughter loves school she doing great in school.

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  LowTech

  So I got a call from my Ex tonight and she wants to pull my daughter out of school and home-school her. She thinks that the schools are getting so bad(In a small town of 15,000...?). My daughter loves school she doing great in school. She talks about her teacher and friends at school.

  I have joint custody, but she is the primary. Do anyone know...Do I have a legal right to say "no" to home-schooling?

  I think this more of a trying to control my daughter even more than anything else. As it is, last year I let my daughter deceide if she wanted to have a birthday party. She did want to, had one, had a blast, but then a couple days later calls me crying that she didn't want one and she feels guilty about it. I mean seriously, who would badger their child enough to do this? My ex didn't even get a job for 2 years after the divorce and now is a part time waitress. She's not the sharpest tool in the shed and I can't see how she is going to be able to teach my daughter for very long before my daughter is needing more.

  I don't trust my ex. As it is I had a major argument a couple of weeks ago when I found out from my daughter that she was leaving her at home when she went to work out. Apparently she also, after my daughter fell asleep, would leave her alone in the apartment and walk down a few doors to her sister's apartment.

  Any help or ideas(and legal advice) would be very helpful.

  Thanks in advance,

  Christopher
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  JW Ex-Wife taking daughter out of school for holidays

  by LowTech in

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  when growing up, i don't remember being taken out of school for much, but my ex-wife takes my daughter out for so many holidays.

  i just found out that she took her out thursday and friday for valentines day.

  is this even legal?

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  When growing up, I don't remember being taken out of school for much, but my ex-wife takes my daughter out for so many holidays. I just found out that she took her out thursday and friday for Valentines day. Is this even legal? Any of you have any advice?
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  Rockford, IL, Former JWs?

  by alias in

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  just trying to get the pulse on who might be out there... support groups, meetups, etc.

  feel free to post or pm me.

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  LowTech

  I just a little south of you. Peoria.
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  Anyone live in Central Illinois?

  by LowTech in

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  i'm recently da'd and divorced.

  so i have very few friends to hang out with.

  anyone live near peoria?

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  I'm recently DA'd and divorced. So i have very few friends to hang out with. Anyone live near Peoria? I've started to realize how hard it is to start making friends again....lol

  LowTech
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  The Preaching work has ended and now the end will come... have you heard ?

  by thasmyquixtar5000 in

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  this one was too funny... sent to me by my brother an audio tape of a talk stating that the preaching work is now over and that witnesses are in every country in the world, except north korea, somila, and afganistan (excuse my miss spellings) but really this was just too funny so funny i could not even listen to the whole thing with out screaming in laughter.

  the brother goes on to say that they will not be preaching in those countries becaues jehovah god will never put his people in danger and allow them to be killed... hello... what about all those that died over no blood, and what about all those in africa rewanda that the brother told to refuse to except an id card sumilar to our ss card telling those poor brothers that it was a form of worship?

  i could not believe it but thought it was just tipical of the times, too many of the witnesses are leaving, and the love of the greater number has cooled the hell off... they are grabbing at straws right about now.

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  Maybe I'm putting more into this than there is...but sometimes I get the feeling that these things are allowed to be said and later denied to see how the R&F will react. Kinda like a poll to get peoples thoughts on things to deceide if you want to try something in the future.

  Just my thoughts.

  Christopher
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  World of Warcraft

  by Paralipomenon in

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  okay, geek confession here.

  today the expansion pack comes out for this game which oddly has, at last tally, about eight million subscribers.

  (more than the jw's) .

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  I have to admin I do, my sister and her husband and 10 year old daughter do, my current girlfriend does, my little brother does, and my dad might....

  Kinda crazy huh? BTW mine was delivered to my house at noon. Can't wait to go home.

  LowTech
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  WHOA! Elders don't care about me after all!!!

  by Schism in

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  2. friends

  hey everyone!.

  wow, i am amazed.

  about 3 months ago, i finally became nauseated about going to the meetings and i went from attending each one, to attending zero.

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  Its funny....a little over a year ago I fell into a bad depression. Basically had a hard time functioning around people. In the 3 months of meetings I missed at that time, not one Elder or non-relative called, send a card, visited, etc. So I know what you feel like. I kept thinking if they are the shepards, why don't they try. The first meeting back I tried, not a single person came up to me before the meeting(and I was there 15 minutes ahead of time like a good little boy). Only 1 person came up after the meeting, I eventually started walking out crying.

  Its funny, I always remember the Elders mentioning in passing conversation that the CO was visiting and it was time to get around to sherparding calls. Definitely love there huh?

  Christopher
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  Big Question

  by choosing life in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know there may not be an answer to this question, but i am truly interested in other's views.

  i know many are of various beliefs and some do not believe in god at all.. the question is: why does god not stop the suffering?

  i watch so many suffer for no reason and no matter how i try to figure it out, i always come back to the fact that a loving parent would not allow their child to suffer needlessly.

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  I've only been DA'd for about a month, so i'm not entirely sure what I believe compared to what I have been fed all my life. I however also have a theory that we are part of an experiment also....lol Ever seen "The Forgotten" with Julianne Moore? I sometimes wonder...

  Christopher
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  Please help with Child-Custody Issues

  by LowTech in

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  2. friends

  per audo sapere's suggestion i have reposted this with a different title:.

  i could use some advice on how to handle this situation.

  my wife and i are almost divorces (she has finally signed the papers...what an ordeal).

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  I very much appreciate all the kind wisdom in this reguard. It does sound like it going to be a long, tough fight. As much as I hate to admit it, you are all correct in the fact that there will be no reasoning with my ex. Its so easy for us to see their error now that we are on the outside, but when you are on the inside you have a completely closed mind. It is a sad thing really. I wish I could help my family to see the errors of the organization but that would only push them farther away. I'm still really struggling with the fact that my family is gone, but more so the fact that someday no matter how hard I try to open hr eyes, I may loose my daughter also. Thats the part that has kept me up at night this last week. I know with all my heart that I have made the right decision and will continue to try and help my daughter keep an open mind. Thank you all again.

  Christopher