My husband is awake,yay! We haven't been to meeting since February
So first of all- YAY! and YAY!
I read here and know,don't meet up! But my husband, ..............
....he is like... What's the big deal. It's all BS...I will tell them exactly what we said.... Hello! It's a bad idea right.
It is a bad idea to meet up. The less crossing of paths, the better. But faders have to compromise until they finish fading out of there. (And great job on that, by the way.) But you need to be very very short and say very very little. I tend to agree with Clambake: "I would blow the whole meeting out of proportion use it as an excuse to just not attend anymore."
Here's what I would do, as the husband. (No point in the wife saying anything, as they are man-oriented.) On the phone, or in passing in an open Kingdom Hall (not at a meeting with elders), I would say, "We are fine, we don't need to meet with anyone."
Let them bring it up, as you try to say goodbye or walk away. "Oh, the college stuff? We honestly answered a few questions about our college experience from some people who asked and we did not promote any path for others."
Then if they want to say more, "You know, I told you what happened. That was it." I would not agree to meet and I would not say more. I wouldn't say out loud that they are stumbling me. If I lost my cool, I might just say, "This gossip and exaggeration is really upsetting me." Then I would walk away and not answer their calls or show up at the hall for quite awhile. I would probably turn in one hour of "service" for a few months in a row then drop it to nothing.
But that's me. They have only the power we give them.
