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  Did an EX-JW wake you up to TTATT or did you put the effort to wake up yourself?

  by John Aquila in

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  how many of us were woken up by some apostate yelling false prophets at a convention?.

  how many of us were woken up by someone holding a sign and yelling, what happened to 1975.

  how many of us were coerced to investigate the wt because some ex-jw pulled up a bunch of old watchtowers magazines and told us to read the false predictions?.

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  The feeling that this religion just wasn't quite right kept building like a fire inside me, with doctrine change, a double standard for elders families or those of other connected ones. Nobody like Rick Fearon with a bullhorn would have woke me up. It had to be on my own. It just built up until I asked "What prevents me from googling 'Jehovah's Witnesses'?" So I did, and went anywhere it took me. The rest is history.
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  Who would you like to hear of leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses ?

  by wozza in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'll start off with this one:.

  some years ago when i was formulating my exit, i employed for some time an ms brother from another congregation.. i'd had a couple of young "worldly" lads work for me but they proved unreliable as they used drugs or alchohol and consequently would'nt arrive at work and such like.. so when i was was contacted by this brother and spoke to him and heard he'd worked at the australian bethel for some time on construction and wanted an opportunity to learn the trade of bricklaying ,i thought ,"great someone to finally trust and be reliable".

  he was in his 40's at the time and he worked like a trojan ,was honest ,really likeable and interesting ,could play the classical guitar beautifully ,had a beautiful family.

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  OnTheWayOut

  Besides my wife, mother, and in-law family, I would just love to hear about upper echelon members, especially governing body members, bugging out like Ray Franz did.

  He did so much for the cause and with these guys so "out there" now, imagine the damage a fresh whistle blower could do.

  Short of that, I would hope for the loved ones of my dear friends from the ex-JW community to wake up and embrace us all.
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  Is the end of Watchtowers hated No Blood doctrine in sight?

  by nicolaou in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i won't pretend to know things that i don't but just look at the incredible rate of change we've witnessed recently.

  it seems that since candace conti and the australian royal commission the watchtower are scrabbling around to shore up their finances in the face of unprecedented legal action against them.. abuse settlement claims are one thing but what happens when children die as a result of your religious teachings?!

  you can bet wt legal are arguing for a complete rewrite of policy to protect the organisation from litigation.. do you think their religious privilege will protect them forever?

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  The Oregon case is an example of how slow the process is. The state is trying to save infants from the religious beliefs of their parents and not from the religion itself. Headway toward elimination of that religion will come when someone, say a grandparent who felt the loss, successfully sues the religion over the matter.

  But the groundwork is there.

  I read a rumor that Watchtower eliminated the Theocratic Ministry School, largely in part because Australia and other places require background checks or other minimum standards of training for anyone involved in a "school" where children are enrolled- no exceptions. So Sunday School or Theocratic Ministry School would come up under that requirement. Watchtower's response to eliminate a "school" with children in it would be a solid reaction similar to the (hoped for) abandoning of the automatic disassociation for a blood transfusion. It may take one successful lawsuit or one aggressive new law in some country to bring that about.
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  How to deal with anxiety?

  by BlackWolf in

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  2. friends

  lately my mental health has been rapidly declining.

  i have anorexia and deppression, and my anxiety has become overwhelming.

  i have been to many doctors/therapists in the past, but because i have not been magically cured my parents dont want to get me any more help.

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  I would never give advice like this to an individual.

  Some people who think they need professional help (such as counseling) and don't get it because their parents interfere or think they don't need it, go outside of the home and seek it anyway.

  They might go to the school they would attend and approach the school counselor and explain that they are in this situation. The school counselor would be obligated to report such a problem to whatever social services are available in the area. Others would go straight to social services and skip the school counselor. If they didn't know how to find social services, they might start at a police station or a church.

  The reason I would not directly give advice to do such a thing is because it puts things in motion for people to investigate their parents and the homeschool situation and all.

  While I would not give YOU such advice, were it me- I would seek help outside the home. I have a history of a need for professional counseling and I wouldn't want to wait until it was too late. I hope you understand what I am saying.
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  The Iron Fist in the Velvet Glove

  by Lee Elder in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  the watchtower and jehovah's witnesses are fond of saying there are no automatic sanctions for taking blood.

  that they no longer disfellowship someone who takes blood.

  that they have a "free choice" in the matter.

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  When they say they no longer disfellowship someone who takes blood, they are telling the truth. The form clearly shows that it is the truth.

  The form will have the box checked that says the individual disassociated them self for taking blood. No disfellowshipping action from the organization, but an individual action that caused them to simply fill out a form.

  They neglect to say that this is the exact same result as if they disfellowshipped the person, but it's theocratic warfare (except for Geoffrey Jackson who never heard of such a thing).
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  My mom passed away yesterday....

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  thank you all for your sincere encouragement during these last few weeks.

  finally, she is at peace.

  i was with her , holding her hand when she died.

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  I am glad you were able to be there with her. So sorry for your loss.
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  Who Qualifies for TTATT?

  by John Aquila in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  when i first learn ttatt i started telling every one.

  ttatt will not help him, it will destroy him.

  all his family are jws.

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  OnTheWayOut

  Everyone qualifies for TTATT, but not all will respond the way we hope.

  It is also not up to me or you to make sure all get TTATT. By that, I mean that I will help where I feel I can do some good, but for the most part, my own course should be enough for any JW that wants to know more to simply ask. And I will occasionally engage strangers, but just a little bit.

  As far as a guy in his 50's, no matter his situation, and certainly someone younger- they have much life left and deserve to know TTATT. Again, it's not your responsibility. But if they asked, I would tell them whatever can help to show them the way.
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  OF DOGS AND BITES AND BIKES AND THINGS

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  the thought suddenly struck me plain and obvious: "these dogs won't stop until i'm good and bloody.".

  there were two of them; a mixed breed of boxer and pit bull; clean, white--collared, tagged and--for some inexplicable reason, ferociously intent on tearing me to shreds!.

  ah, but i'm getting ahead of myself.

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  At least the situation allowed you to work on your creative writing.
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  vent: Got into it this morning with my wife agian. younger son wants to go to a B-day, i said he could...she turned cult.

  by goingthruthemotions in

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  2. experiences

  yep, he told her that he wants to go a friends b-day...keep in mind it's not until december.

  well anyway i told her i didn't mind if he did and i would take him.

  yep, enter cult mode.....i hate this freaking cult.

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  OnTheWayOut

  I just wanted to offer some support. I know this is tough on you and your son.

  My wife is still a JW. I faded quietly and have not had to face anything like this, but if I had children I would do whatever it takes to give them a normal childhood.
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  Anybody else consternated about Jesus?

  by runForever in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i've read the bible as many of you have.

  a lot of it makes sense.

  i just can't believe.

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  OnTheWayOut

  There was a time when the very existence of Jesus was not even challenged. The best one could do was say that he was a man and not a god, but still along the lines of a radical thinker. But as times have changed, the ideas that he was invented gained acceptance.

  Even if there is some shred of truth in the stories (and I don't think so), the son-of-God did not return and was no more than a man.