CyberSex: Real or Fantasy!
I would like to tell you good people a story and when I'm finished I would appreciate your honest opinion as I know you wouldn't give me anything less.
My wife and I have been fighting about a situation which recently arose in our home. Actually, thanks to the wonderful feature "message archive" found in Yahoo Messenger, I found more than one EXTREMELY SEXUAL conversations with another man. These conversations were so sexual that it suffices to say that a cigarette would not have been enough. She probably smoked a pack. After finding these messages I saved them in a dirctory deep in my computer and waited for the next one. The next few days were excruciating. I could not sleep, I didn't want to go to work from fear that this "affair" would continue but I knew the archive was enabled.
I hated even seeing her log on now. Everytime she got on the computer I was very jealous as if she was making love to the machine itself. If you're a man you may be able to relate to this, or maybe not. My insecurity stems from my wife already having a "record" of this kind of thing but with a real person.
One day, I watched her log on and noticed that she was in the messenger preferences menu. I was at least 5 ft. behind her but she didn't know I was looking. That's when she changed her password, something she had never done. I knew then I had no more access to her messenger archives(previous conversations). That's when I exploded. I confronted her about the cybersex she was having and demanded an explanation.
Her answer: It wasn't real! The words, thoughts, and feelings that truly "existed" as a result of this experience were very real to me. She says they were ficticious but I told her the orgasm she had was not. She talks to this guy on a regular basis, even when I'm around. I didn't mind until now. She hid these conversations, snuck around talking after I was asleep, and willingly participated in step by step sex with this guy but "it wasn't real" yeah right!
She tells me it's no different than when I look at nude pictures on the net. That's what you're here for. Can you compare mutually exchanging ideas and dialogue to the point of extasy to looking at a picture. I could never sleep with a picture but if she really wanted to, she could meet up with this guy. Afterall, they already feel comfortable with each other and to me, that's how it all starts.
What do you think? I need help with this situation; my marriage is on the line. This wouldn't be such a big deal if she didn't already have a history and now I wonder if I'll ever be able to trust her. The bible says in Mark 7:20 "That which issues forth out of a man is what defile a man." This woman commited adultery in mind body and soul, therefore it was just as real as if she had physically done it. I'm not looking for an excuse to leave my wife. I just want to make a point. Can you help me?