exwitless

Joined

• started 78 topics
• posted 941 times   see topics posted on
• send a message

Posts by exwitless

• 
  26

  Are you comfortable knowing, that what you write here will stay forever

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  let it be this board or any other board, are you comfortable with the fact that whatever you post on the internet will be viewable for a long time.. maybe when you'll be very old, you'll find posts that you made a very long time ago..

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  Just as in any other situation in life, we all do or say things impulsively or allow our emotions to speak before we think. Having what we post in print is little different than the things we have said to others in our lives we wish we could take back. Once it's done, it's done. I wouldn't behave any differently here than I would if I were sitting in a room talking to you all.
• 
  28

  Name food/drinks JWs shouldn't have because of it's name

  by exwitless in

  1. social
  2. humour

  i saw another thread about "deviled eggs" and it made me think about this.

  i'll start:.

  deviled eggs.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  We have a deli nearby called "Heavenly Ham". (I don't know if it's a chain restaurant or just a local one.) Anyway, I guess only the annointed should eat there.
• 
  44

  IN YOUR OPINION...

  by LittleToe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ...what kind of thread topic produces the longest threads?.

  what interests you, and are you put off once the thread reaches ten pages??.

  lt, of the "starting a minimus-style thread" class.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  I love humorous threads. I'll never forget when LDB and I lurked on this site for a few weeks before we joined...There was the thread about making your own Watchtower cover spoofs. I laughed so hard, tears were rolling down my face. We really needed that laugh at the time. I still enjoy the laughs from this board.

  I also enjoy medical-related topics (that's the nurse in me.)

  I hate to join a topic that's more than about 3 pages long if it's a deep discussion (ie evolution vs. creation, atheism vs christianity, etc.). I'm afraid if I didn't read every single post very carefully before I join the discussion, I'll get trampled on for misunderstanding, misconstruing, and so on.

  Most topics that start out VERY long and drawn out are not likely to get my attention. (Does this mean I have a short attention span? )
• 
  28

  Name food/drinks JWs shouldn't have because of it's name

  by exwitless in

  1. social
  2. humour

  i saw another thread about "deviled eggs" and it made me think about this.

  i'll start:.

  deviled eggs.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  I saw another thread about "Deviled Eggs" and it made me think about this. I'll start:

  Deviled eggs

  Lucky Charms

  Boo Berry cereal

  Magic cookie bars (my favorite!)

  Can you think of any others? (Just havin' a little fun)
• 
  21

  Lithium?

  by spoils_useful_habits in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  recently one of my brothers was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder by a psychiatrist.

  this has hit me hard emotionally because out of the whole bunch we are the closest.

  i've always suspected something was up.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  6 y 3 m 15 d
  
  Micronesia, Yap

  He's not 6 years old, nor a female, nor from Yap. Just thought I might clarify this; don't want anyone to think that I am married to a 6 year old girl from Yap.
• 
  42

  More drama between my mom and I

  by reneeisorym in

  1. social
  2. family

  your great-aunt brittney died tuesday morning she was found on her kitchen floor dead.

  her funeral was this morning.

  omg .. my mother just sent me this email.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  Renee-so sorry to hear your bad news. It's dumbfounding how the JWs think sometimes. I'm angry for you; what your mother did is appalling. I can't even think of anything to say that's comforting; just so sorry for your loss and the ill treatment you've received.
• 
  21

  Lithium?

  by spoils_useful_habits in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  recently one of my brothers was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder by a psychiatrist.

  this has hit me hard emotionally because out of the whole bunch we are the closest.

  i've always suspected something was up.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  Bi-polar is the easiest of the chronic mental illnesses to treat.

  That's debateable...

  However... I must say this... I have dealt with BiPolar and BiPolar2 (they're different and type 2 is less dramatic, but more dangerous)...with several sufferers and have done extensive research and I found one thing that is OFTEN overlooked...

  Most General Practicioners MIS-PRESCRIBE the meds for both. They OFTEN prescrip anti-depressants (ie. Zoloft, Prozac, Paxil, Wellbutrin, Lexapro, Effexor, Celexa etc...) THESE RARELY WORK and will EXACERBATE your symptoms by magnitude... (and can hasten and magnify suicidal tendencies)!!!

  You need to see a Psychiatrist or a Specialist... or you could really be doing yourself a disservice!

  The medicines used for BiPolar and BiPolar2 are different... aren't familiar to most ordinary MD's.

  FYI

  P&C

  DItto, 100%. Bipolar disorder is NOT the easiest to treat; neither is any other mental disorder. They are extremely complex and are as variable as each individual person. P&C also hit the nail on the head about how there are vast differences between bipolar type I and type II. The medications for these types are definitely different. Lithium is generally used for bipolar type I.

  What's the difference between type I and II? Well, type I sufferers generally have fewer upswing and downswings, but they can last much longer than the mood swings of a type II person. A type I can be in a depressive state for months, followed by a "normal" period for months, then maybe a manic stage for months. A type II person's mood swings are much more erratic, having lots of ups and downs, sometimes just in a few hours' time. However, the swings may be triggered much more easily, and the person may come across as very angry or irritable at the drop of a hat.

  How do I know? Besides that I'm a nurse, I also have lived with someone for 13 1/2 years who has bipolar type II (LDB). It has been very difficult to find the right medication for him that doesn't have side effects that are worse than the disorder. That's why I can't stress enough the importance of seeing a psychiatrist for accurate diagnosis and treatment. Not a psychologist, not a family doctor. Nothing against them, but they don't have the extensive experience in treating psychiatric disorders as psychiatrists do.

  By the way, Little Drummer Boy is incredibly intelligent. He recently got his college diploma; graduated SUMMA CUM LAUDE with a 4.0 GPA. (Can't help myself-have to brag on him 'cause he doesn't give himself enough credit.)
• 
  15

  Anyone love home made icecream?!!!!

  by restrangled in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we recently purchased cuisanarts icecream maker.

  after a few mistakes, i am making the best icecream you have ever tasted!.

  30 minutes and its done....!

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  YES!!!! I love ice cream in general, but you're right, there's no comparison with home made ice cream. Plain old vanilla is my favorite home made flavor.

  I wish you could Fed Ex me some!! I'll just have to wait 'till this summer and get out my ice cream maker that's best used outside (leaks water and salt a little).
• 
  19

  Feeling a little sorry for ourselves...

  by exwitless in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  little drummer boy and i have struggled our entire married lives in just about every way: financially, emotionally, religiously, you name it.

  it's like nothing ever comes easy for us.

  just when one sorta good thing happens, something a whole lot worse happens and ruins our optimism.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  Thanks, you guys. You're all awesome. I tend to be a fairly optimistic person in general. I try to see the positive side of unexpected changes and I always try to make the best of what we have. I read a quote in my pocket calendar recently; I thought it was pretty cool:

  "If you haven't got all the things you want, be grateful for the things you don't have that you don't want."

  It's so true. So I haven't been on vacation for 13 1/2 years. So we are eeking the last bit of usage out of our old cars. So we have a too-small home. At least we don't have cancer; we don't live in a homeless shelter. We don't have to beg for food. At least that's the positive way I should be thinking of things. I try. But sometimes it just gets very frustrating, because we always try to do the right thing, we're law-abiding, we're honest and moral, we try to help others in need whenever we can. And we never seem to get ahead in life.

  It may seem like a scapegoat, but I honestly feel like the 14 years we were in the borg were nearly a complete waste as far as making progress in life. Now, in our mid 30's, we're both in college and struggling to make ends meet, as though we were 20-year-old college students just starting out. Only we have the added responsibility of a child and full-time jobs and a home to keep up and so on. In fact, I know positively that we would be MUCH better off financially had we never become JWs. Not only for the fact that we were taken advantage of by a JW couple, but also because we didn't buy a nice home when we could have afforded to, because we would have been "materialistic" to do so. I wouldn't have quit my good paying job to work in our office cleaning business we started so we could "spend more time in service".

  Oh, I could go on for hours, but I won't bore you all to death. I know a lot of people have a lot worse problems than I do. Thanks for listening to my self-pity!

  AK Jeff - I'll PM you shortly!
• 
  19

  Feeling a little sorry for ourselves...

  by exwitless in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  little drummer boy and i have struggled our entire married lives in just about every way: financially, emotionally, religiously, you name it.

  it's like nothing ever comes easy for us.

  just when one sorta good thing happens, something a whole lot worse happens and ruins our optimism.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
• 

  exwitless

  Little Drummer Boy and I have struggled our entire married lives in just about every way: financially, emotionally, religiously, you name it. It's like nothing EVER comes easy for us. EVER. Just when one sorta good thing happens, something a whole lot worse happens and ruins our optimism. We made HUGE sacrifices when we became JWs, then suffered for 14 years under borg control with the typical guilt and exhaustion that comes along with it. Then we struggled to break away from the borg, but we had to do it at the right time because LDB's job was subcontracted from an elder in our congregation. Once he was ready to quit, we DA'd. What a huge relief it was to be free of the nagging elder visits and phone calls; the looking over my shoulder when I was shopping for Easter candy so my son could have his first Easter egg hunt at age 8. LDB enrolled in college before we DA'd. I enrolled in distance learning college to further my nursing degree.

  The financial struggles are the worst. I don't mean to sound materialistic, but money DOES buy happiness, at least to some degree. We are so financially strapped, and we have been ever since a JW couple took advantage of us when we were very new "in the truth". They literally took us for thousands of dollars. We trusted them; and we're still paying for that mistake to this day-literally. Since we're trying to better our lives thru education, even though we both work, there is just never enough money. I'm not talking about not having enough to buy extra things or go on vacation. I'm talking about groceries and the electric bill.

  We haven't been on a vacation since we were married 13 1/2 years ago. I'm not exaggerating. No vacation for 13 1/2 years. We were hoping to be able to go on a little vacation when LDB finishes school this May, but no. There's no money. We kinda feel trapped. Our lives consist of work, school, laundry, dishes, helping with homework, fall in to bed exhausted, wake up the next day and do it all over again. No end in sight for now.

  Now don't you all worry about us. We'll get through it. Thank goodness we at least don't have the pressure of the borg on top of it all.

  Thanks for listening to my whining. Good night!