Serendipity-you're right about not being embarrassed. It wasn't clear from your first post that you weren't even home the first time. But anyway, I didn't mean to make it sound like "hiding" in your home is something to be ashamed of. On the contrary, I have been home many times and ignored the elders' knocks on the door. I feel that in my home, I am not obligated to answer the door or the phone just because someone decides to call or knock. If I don't feel like talking, I simply don't answer and I feel no guilt. It's quite liberating, actually. Good luck to you!
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I'm being hunted by an elder - would this work?
by serendipity inthis week elder z shows up at my house twice, unexpectedly.
the first time i didn't see him, but my daughter did and didn't answer the door.
the next time i decided not to answer the door since i didn't feel like talking to him.
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Anyone Diabetic To Answer A Question?
by Sunspot inis there anyone here that is diabetic that could answer something for me?
i am doing the finger sticking 4 times a day and have weird stuff happening.
i am very new to this and cannot afford the "training session" that my doctor wanted me to go to......just found out my friend was just diagnosed about the same time i was....and she cannot afford the same session either!.
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Sunspot-You deserve better counseling from your doctor who is treating you for diabetes. He/she should help you find diabetic counseling for free or at minimal cost. Try calling your local community health center or hospital. Also, if you have insurance, they will usually pay for a few sessions with a dietician. This step is critical for a new diabetic.
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I'm being hunted by an elder - would this work?
by serendipity inthis week elder z shows up at my house twice, unexpectedly.
the first time i didn't see him, but my daughter did and didn't answer the door.
the next time i decided not to answer the door since i didn't feel like talking to him.
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I say no-don't approach him or say anything about it. First of all, you would then be admitting that you knew he was there twice but you chose not to open your door. Also, you do not owe him or anyone else an excuse for being inactive. If he mentions anything to you, like the nauseating "We've missed you..." followed by a long pause waiting for you to explain your absence, just respond in turn "Yeah, I've missed you all too." (May not be sincere, but neither is their nosy "We've missed you" polite interrogation tactic.)
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Music, what are some single cuts that helped keep your sanity?
by restrangled inany artists, any time period........please let me know, i need some sanity.. r..
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Sorry, but I can't resist an opportunity to say JOSH GROBAN. Maybe not everyone's type of music, but in my opinion THE most talented male vocalist of our time.
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"Leaving the Truth" The Easy Way
by metatron ini noticed that we have a lot of new lurkers here - and, in particular, some elders who are agonizing over how to get free.
from the watchtower without causing too much damage to themselves.
here are some suggestions that have worked.
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Metatron-I can't say I totally agree with your tactic. No one should have to "pretend" to be ill and/or depressed to have an excuse for fading. Those who battle true depression might find this suggestion offensive, as it trivializes the seriousness of the illness. Leaving the JWs can be as easy as writing a letter, saying "I'm leaving". Regardless of how you do it, the consequences that follow leaving are the harder part to deal with.
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NEWBIES how many of you
by plmkrzy inhave joined in the past month or two?.
i can't keep up there seems to be so many so i wanted to start a welcome thread for new newbies.. sorry if this was already done recently.. note: the in-built search system is currently being redeveloped so i am not able to check for this topic without looking through tons of pages.. anyway...say hello!.
plm.
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Hi! I'm new since September 10th, the day my husband (Little Drummer Boy)and I mailed our DA letter.
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I'm new and nervous!
by kitten whiskers ini am new here and have been "lurking" for several months.
the discussions have helped me tremendously to break free from the society.
i want to thank you all for your help and heartfelt posts.
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Welcome, Kitten Whiskers! My husband and I just officially DA'd ourselves about 9 days ago. How wonderful for you that you and your hubby are in this together, like us. I know the nervous feeling, but it goes away pretty quick when you see how many people here from all over the world are on your side and understand how you feel. Keep us posted!
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I just got a weird phone call ,I don't want to be involved
by troubled mind inthe jw world is so full of weirdness i don't want any part of it anymore .
but i got a bit sucked in... this morning i got a phone call from a woman that has studied and attended meetings for over three years .
her mental stability and smoking has always kept her from progressing very far .
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Speaking as a nurse here-it is a classic behavior for schizophrenics to believe that they no longer have schizophrenia. They may have delusions that their doctors told them so. It sounds as though she is quite unstable mentally, and may simply at this time be in a more "normal" appearing mode. I feel sorry for her, as I'm sure you do as well. However, given the history of psychological problems, you should not get involved, for her sake and yours. Maybe you could suggest she speak with her social worker or psychiatrist for help in communicating with the elders. At least this would redirect her to the people who can better assist her right now.
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When A Loved One Leaves Jehovah
by choosing life inhas anyone read this article in the september 1, 2006 watchtower?
i can't understand why the rank and file can't see who is really causing the pain by seperating loved ones over personal beliefs.. one woman says about her disfellowshipped brother, "this has been so hard for me to bear because in every other respect, he has been a wonderful brother to me.
i especially miss him at large gatherings.".
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Yes, I saw this article. This is the one an elder left in our door last weekend, opened to the page with the little box called "Have You Left Jehovah?" We were insulted by this, not moved to want to come back. Little did he know (or maybe he did) that we were home when he knocked but we didn't answer, because we were busy writing our DISASSOCIATION LETTER!!!! BTW-it's been 1 week since sending our letter, and absolutely NO response from the borg.
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The WT Using Machines to Replace Humans in the Door to Door Preaching!
by frankiespeakin inthe reason for canning such a massive group of loyal workers with decades of service behind their belt was stated in the september km letter as:.
"improved technology has made our shipping and printing facilities more efficient.
this has reduced the need for volunteers in the bethel home.
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V-That is THE funniest picture I've seen on this forum, aside from the "Angels Watch You Poop" Watchtower spoof cover.Awesome!