i am already thinking of ideas.
my sister had an online relationship with a man from holland (they are now married in the us) anyhow, they would send eachother packages and the coolest things he would send was different foods from there... cookies the us doesn't have, chocolate spread for toast.... this is my first gift exchange since i was a kid, so anyone have some ideas?
( is this kosher to ask?
I love local artisan products. I'm an artist myself and I love to see what others come up with from various areas. I can say I don't like bath type products and clothing items. I love experiential gifts too.
HTH! Can't wait to pick out a gift for my SS!
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
I asked my husband if he would compromise with FS and he said, "I let you do what you want with the girls and you will afford me the same freedom. I will not compromise in regard to how I train my children in the truth." Makes me want to vomit. They will be forced to go even if they don't want to. However, they love being with their daddy, so I'm sure they won't mind going out.
Thanks for the quotes Blondie. I know he is trying, and he even said "Have I said anything to you about what you've done, anything?" No he hasn't, but actions speak louder than words, especially with me, and he knows that. I slept on it and tried really hard to imagine being back in and watching my partner leave the truth and how hard it would be. I found our daughters birthday hat crinkled up in a ball in the bathtub this morning. I think he is trying to keep quiet about it and internalize it and I don't think that is good either. I would love to see him in therapy, but that isn't going to happen.
I called him this morning at work to ask how he's doing and to reassure him of my love. I guess that is all I can do. I've got to get strong myself so I can get through the next two months of holidays.
Thanks everyone.
P.S. Jwfacts, I look at your post and find encouragement for the future. Thanks for sharing your individual success with me.
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
Oh how I wish I was strong enough to keep things in perspective; to look at my life from 10,000 feet. Unfortunately, I've always been extremely "sensitive" to others emotions and attitudes. When I was in my 20's it was so bad that I used to have IBS because of it. Now, I just end up crying a lot and having an extra martini!
The good news is that my girls have a mom who insists that they celebrate birthdays, do all the things their friends in school get to do, and bring them to a very liberal church where they learn about other religions (every other week). They are the reason I ultimately left JWs.
Tonight we curled up in bed together (the girls and I) and talked about Halloween. I asked them if anyone said anything about Halloween tonight at meeting. They said that one person said that Jehovah God hated Halloween. I asked her why a loving God would hate something innocent as dressing up as Cinderella and giving candy to those you love? My oldest agreed and said, "Do you know how the Bible says God is going to kill people? If God is loving why would he kill people?" That opened the door to some ground-breaking dialogue. We are coming along. I am just very protective of them and am really uncomfortable with them having to face angry householders at their young age. If they want to go when they are in their tweens, that is fine, but I'm just not okay with it right now at this developmental stage.
Thanks for all your posts; they have been very helpful.
Best regards,
Rebirth
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
skyking,
When I read stories like yours, my heart aches. Maybe because I fear that this religion will ultimately destroy my marriage and will make my girls children of divorce. I will try everything I can to prevent it. But I know there is only so far I can go.
Thanks
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
delilah, that was a very sweet-hearted post. I appreciate the encouragement. My therapist says that when my husband is backed into the corner, another person emerges: the mouthpiece of the JW religion. He really does become someone else when he feels religiously threatened. He says very mean things and I've learned to accept that it is not him saying those things but the brainwashed man who is speaking from rote.
Thanks again!
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
My mils worst nightmare:
Wow, that is some strong emotion in that post. I don't see my husband as being manipulative. He truly is a kind, caring, loving husband. I actually rule the house and he is okay with that. LOL! I just want to make sure this work, I truly do. I want there to be room in this marriage for all ways of living. I want respect.
Thanks for your suggestions.
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
troubled mind, Oh my, it sounds like what happened right before my husband started going back to the meetings. He had faded with me and started up full throttle when I started dabbling in celebrating Christmas last yr. It was as if he couldn't deal with the guilt anymore and seeing me do something so "wrong" pushed him back in.
I will keep my fingers crossed that things work out for you? Are there children in the picture? It simplifies things a lot if there isn't.
Good luck!
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
Pope, I'm not going to leave my husband because he is bringing the girls in the ministry. I don't want to leave my husband, I love him very, very much.
I actauly talked to my therapist about how I feel about the ministry and he was concerned too about the girls facing very scary, possible volital situations at the doors. I don't want them tramatized. I remember feeling terrified at a young age in the ministry. I don't want them facing this. I'm going to have to talk to my therapist about what to do know that he has said he won't stop.
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
Thanks Sam, He won't listen to a word I have to say about JWs. He believes I have it out for them and views me as a dangerous apostate. I wish he would listen to what I have to say, I doubt he would still be a JW if he did. Thanks for your post.
i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.
he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.
i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.
I have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls. He has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex. I thought he was moping because I recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of Halloween activities. It finally confronted him tonight about it and he said that he is depressed and mourning the loss of his wife (me) to this world. He is saddened at the thought of not having me to live forever with (as he put it). I've tried to reassure him that I love him just as much as I ever have but it didn't seem to phase him. He is almost sarcastic about my new way of living. He says I'm selfish. I found out he has bringing the girls in the field ministry (he slipped up and mentioned it this evening) something I didn't want him doing with the girls. He says, "Tough." I've okay with everything he does with them and don't complain, that is the only activity that I am not comfortable with a 4 and 6 yr old engaging in. I am beside myself. I really am wondering how to proceed. I love my husband very much, but I will not go back to living that life. I am trying so hard to give my girls a normal life without all the restrictions placed on them, but I am sick of being "punished" everytime I do.
My husband has refused to see a doctor regarding the depression. What can I do? I just want him to accept me and my new life. I want to live a happy life together with our girls and a mutual respect for each others ways. Am I being selfish, should I resign myself to living in a stress filled relationship?
