Posts by found-my-way

i always used to cringe when the watchtower "family" and "youth" books would stereotype men and women into two mutually exclusive categories: "men think while women feel.

"one trait is not better than the other they are just different...," i recall the books went on to say in so many words.

i'm well aware both men and women have excelled in science, etc.

found-my-way

FunkyDerek,

I humbly apologize if I came across as dogmatic or that I believe people should do one thing or another, that was not my intent...

Your view points are all true and correct. Yes, There are grains of truth in clichés, and in stereotypes alike. I agree with this. I do not dismiss them just because they are not politically incorrect, just that I find that they can hold people back from taking one another on a one to one personal basis...am i not very good at expressing myself, sorry if that doesnt make sense.

stereotypes can make others make rash judgements, and make wide sweeping statements like, ''you're just a woman, woman cry over every little thing.'' or ''suck it up, be a man, boys dont cry''. That is why I dislike stereotypes...just my opinion though, others might like them or find them useful, i just think they are archiac. just my opinion and that doesnt count for much...lol

sincerely,

~found

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Husband forgot our anniversary....again

by nsrn in

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i'm wide awake at 2 a.m., with my mind ruminating on stuff i should leave alone.

i wish i could turn it off in the night, when worries spin out of control.

let me list my concerns: this was my 26th wedding anniversary, and my husband forgot it apparently.

found-my-way

(((((((Nancy))))))),

Maybe your hubby just needs a direct sentence from you, just something like:

''The day we got married was a special day to me because you and I became one...You mean the world to me, and I am so glad that you are a part of my life....would you like to spend this special day with me?''

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Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior?

by The wanderer in

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can you see yourself with someone nearly 20 years your junior?i happen to work with a young woman who is 19 years my junior.

she is 21 and i am 40 years old.

recently, she let me know how .

found-my-way

Wanderer,

If you were 50, I could see how you would feel so much older,

but 40 isn't OLD!

yes, 21 is very young, but she will mature in time...

maybe you can say, look me up in 5, 8, 10years, and if you still feel the same about me, let's date then?

just a thought....

I just hate to see someone lose someone that they could have a wonderful time with just because of an age difference... if everything else is there, maybe give it a shot?

or are you afraid to because you think she might change her mind in a few months just when you have fallen head over heels for her, and she breaks your heart?

edited to add: sorry Wanderer, I posted this before seeing your post above mine...

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ARE YOU PSYCHIC..........................AND WHAT DID YOU THINK AS A JW ?

by vitty in

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i think all people can communicate at a higher level for eg how many can times do you and your partner think of the same thing at the same time?

or you can be thinking of a person and they ring you?.

but if you really feel that you are psychic or that you communicate with "dead people" how did you cope with it when you were a witness?.

found-my-way

LMAO! good one Terry

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Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior?

by The wanderer in

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can you see yourself with someone nearly 20 years your junior?i happen to work with a young woman who is 19 years my junior.

she is 21 and i am 40 years old.

recently, she let me know how .

found-my-way

As long as you both communicate similarily and have a connection that is beyond physical....and have alot in common to talk about, and do things together that you both enjoy, and if you both enjoy one another's company and you get along great, then age shouldn't be a factor.

just my two cents.

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True or False: Watchtower Male Stereotype

by YoursChelbie in

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i always used to cringe when the watchtower "family" and "youth" books would stereotype men and women into two mutually exclusive categories: "men think while women feel.

"one trait is not better than the other they are just different...," i recall the books went on to say in so many words.

i'm well aware both men and women have excelled in science, etc.

found-my-way

Hey FunkyDerek!

I love you man!

However, for some reason, there is a taboo in certain circles on acknowledging the obvious fact that men and women are also mentally different. Their brains are physically different and respond in different ways to various stimuli.
There may be stereotypes but they weren't just invented; they're based on the real noticeable differences between men and women.

I agree with you , men and women are different!

I was just saying that with emotions, usually it is personality that plays the leading role that affects how a person will react to various stimuli.

From my experience, and from my observation of different cultures and backgrounds, I have found that people are who they are based on different personality types, not necessarily their gender.

It is true that men and womens brains DO work differently, and we often communicate in very different styles,

I have seen where women can behave like the ''typical man'', and vise versa. There are nurturing fathers who stay home and care for their children, while the wife goes to work and prefers it that way because she knows her husband does a better job caring for their kids than she could.

There are men who cry and laugh easily and who show affection readily, and there are women who don't cry easily, who dont show much emotion at all...and who can come across as cold and aloof. Just an example of why I think stereotypes can be inacurate.

I am not saying this is the average of how men and women are, I know it is not.

I am just saying that based on seeing that men and women roles can be reversed and are interchangable, maybe that means personality plays a greater role in influencing how we behave more than the role that our gender plays.

I just think that if we all can let go of the old stereotypes of how men and women should or do /think/behave, it would benefit us a human race.

much love and respect,

~found