Posts by mimimimi

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Getting it out of my system, a VERY long introduction/outpouring..

by adimmedlight in

warning, novel ahead:.

after a few months of lurking on this site, i've decided to take the plunge...i don't really care so much about introducing myself, but somehow there is some relief in the thought of getting my little story out there, just getting it out of my system.

i am the oldest of 5 kids.

mimimimi

My heart goes out to you. With time and new experiences, things will become more clear to you. I too felt a lot of guilt when I left the JW's - it had been so deeply ingrained that you had to be doing more, more, more and watching everything you did, not stumbling anyone. You learn after a while that sometimes less is more. Enjoy your life. Remember that Jesus said we are to love God with our whole heart, mind etc. and we are to do unto others as we would have them do unto us. Those two commandments cover everything in our lives. They do not come with a set of rules and dos and don'ts. We can figure out what is beneficial to ourselves and others and if we are doing those things, we will have a good life and find satisfaction in it. Not that you will not have problems in life, but you can find ways to deal with those problems without the Watchtower's twisted input and have peace in your life.

Educate yourself, too, regarding the Watchtower Society and the mind control techniques they use and the corruption that exists in that organization. Look for guidance in other spiritual publications. At 12 step meetings they always tell you "Take what you need and leave the rest." Apply that in what you read. Fill your mind with positive things. Continue praying for others. That shows you have a good heart. God recognizes that in you and he will guide you along your way.

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I Don't Get It!

by John Aquila in

there are literally about thirty young single very good looking sisters in this one kingdom hall under the age of 30. that is just one kingdom hall.

in the circuit there are literally hundreds of young beautiful jw girls under 30 who are single and anxious to get married.

about two years ago, this one single good looking brother who is about 30 years old and who is an elder married this plain looking sister who is 59 years old.

mimimimi

Really, I want to say something nasty here, and actually did, but now I am editing my comment to get rid of it. Who knows why any of those people do anything they do. For someone to be in that faith and stay in it requires some mental/emotional illness on their part. It has to have something to do with that.

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"Deep Down , He Knows That It is The Truth"

by BluesBrother in

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this phrase i heard again at the weekend when a diehard dub was discussing his non believing, but much loved son.

"it is just that..... [insert any excuse here].

it is something that they all say about us, yet nothing could be further from the truth.

mimimimi

I have heard this so many times over the years from different ones whose children or other family members had left the organization - he/she knows it is the truth. I know my own mother believed this about me for a long time. But then we had a couple of conversations where I spoke up strongly about JWs and the wrongness of their beliefs and she finally came to realize that I truly did not believe it any more. She even told my younger sister who was still in "Virginia does not believe the same way we do". When I heard she had said that it was such a victory for me! My mother is deceased now - passed away from brain cancer in 2012 and I really don't see or talk to my JW family members much, nothing really in common with them any more. I still love them but I deplore their choice in religion and I hate the way they like to bring up things and people JW to me thinking that somehow they will bring me back to the fold.

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Ran into some JW's.......but this time I did the teaching ;) x

by snare&racket in

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so i went out today with my broken leg and got accosted by an old lady, with some magazines.. it was my first ever encounter with a jw in ten years, and i had said 'i know you are jw's, i'm not interested thank you.

" twice.....then she started talking about my broken leg and how wonderful we are made and how amazing the healing process is.... and that's when it all started...."i used to be a bethelite pioneer, now i'm an atheist doctor...".

she was with me a good 30 mins, her elder husband left very annoyed but she stayed, and she was dying to hear everything i spurted out, despite aggressively defending every point, from military engines to paedophilia.

mimimimi

Good for you! I'm glad that lady listened to you - who knows what seeds it may have planted and how they may come back to grow even with her staying in that mind control cult. And her husband with his 40 years . . . laughable how they measure their own self-importance by how many years they have been in the cult. I remember a convert in my last congregation being irritated by the attitude of born-ins - definitely some one-upmanship there on the part of the born-ins. Little do they know that they are all just a joke.

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Crisis of Consience market price (we are in a bull market)

by NewYork44M in

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i was considering getting another copy of one of ray's books and was shocked about the market value.

is ray's book worth $1,000?

perhaps, but it is a bit shocking.

mimimimi

I am absolutely shocked! I bought mine about nine or so years ago and the price was reasonable. Just yesterday I offered to loan it to someone and she had another source to borrow it from. I don't think I will offer to lend it so easily in the future now knowing what is being charged for it. I also have In Search of Christian Freedom. Thank goodness there is a PDF version of Crisis of Conscience. Is there also one for In Search of Christian Freedom? Does anyone know? Seriously, whoever has the rights to these books now - wonder who that is? - should have them reprinted. I am sure the Watchtower Society would be tickled shitless to see them cost so much so that lots of people cannot buy them.

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My sister knows I said she was brainwashed

by mimimimi in

around memorial time this year, i stated to my nephew on facebook that my sister was brainwashed.

stupid me putting that on a public forum!

he was offended because she continues to invite him to the memorial even though he has ptsd from his jw experiences growing up.

mimimimi

WingCommander and happy@last, I think you are right - no apology. I suspect she and I will not be talking again, but we talk so little now anyway that it will not matter. If I needed a hearing ear or companionship, she already was someone I would not go to. We really have so little in common.

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GB Partying after the launch of the NWT...

by hardtobeme in

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mimimimi

Oh, no! Too funny!

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The JW religion has just cost me my marriage & my family life

by jambon1 in

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after leaving the organisation 10 years ago i fought with everything i had to stay in my marriage and with my three children.

after a tumultuous number of years trying to maintain a happy family life while living in a divided home, it's finally over.

the religion is single handedly responsible for destroying my marriage and my family.

mimimimi

I'm so sorry to hear this. Hopefully, you can be a good influence to help your children out of this sick religion. As painful as things are right now, you can build a good life going forward. How sad that your wife chooses the organization over not only you, but your children as well. The organization will always come first, whatever life may bring for your children. How old are your children?

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40 years on - and still in Damage Control mode!

by Bungi Bill in

earlier this morning, i posted off to the the institute of engineers an application for membership as an "engineering associate":.

- today being just over 40 years since the congregation's retards elders made me abandon my apprenticeship.. (in this part of the world, the pre-1975 hype was taken to that level.

not being content to prevent young persons attending university, they went one step further and treated with hostility any youngster who would "tie up five years of their lives" by entering into an apprenticeship.

mimimimi

Best of luck to you! So many of us have regrets about following what the Watchtower Society wanted.
So many wasted opportunities! We have to concentrate on the positives and what we have accomplished otherwise and continue to accomplish what we can.

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My sister knows I said she was brainwashed

by mimimimi in

around memorial time this year, i stated to my nephew on facebook that my sister was brainwashed.

stupid me putting that on a public forum!

he was offended because she continues to invite him to the memorial even though he has ptsd from his jw experiences growing up.

mimimimi

Around Memorial time this year, I stated to my nephew on Facebook that my sister was brainwashed. Stupid me putting that on a public forum! He was offended because she continues to invite him to the Memorial even though he has PTSD from his JW experiences growing up. She pooh-poohs this as the cause of his PTSD, thereby negating his feelings.

Yesterday I found out that some helpful soul had repeated this comment to my sister. She is not on Facebook because she is married to an uber elder who does everything by the book, therefore she does, too, and I suppose it is still recommended they do not get on Facebook. So she is offended.

Brainwashing by Merriam-Webster dictionary - "Persuasion by propaganda or salesmanship." This is the secondary definition. The first one is "a forcible indoctrination to induce someone to give up basic political, social, or religious beliefs and attitudes and to accept contrasting regimented ideas". I apply the second definition of brainwashed to her because she, like me, is a born-in so she did not give up any other beliefs or attitudes to accept the WT indoctrination.

She and I talk very little - maybe 3 or 4 times a year and do not spend any time together. Her life is filled with all things WT and mine is filled with my family - husband, kids and grandkids - and living life. Our younger sister is the one she told about me saying this and I know our younger sister would like me to apologize or reach out in some way, but I am not inclined to do so. I think it is unfortunate that this was repeated to her and I regret that I was so foolish as to put this opinion up in a social forum, but there it is, done and over. I am sorry she is offended, but not for what I said.