I went out with a non-dub at age 18 and we talked about getting married, but I just couldn't do it...too much pressure to conform. I then married the requisite jerk dub after doing what passes as dating in dubland for an agonizing 11 years. Now that I am out, I have yet to meet any ex-dub people in the flesh. When I first started dating I thought it would be nice to date an ex-dub because he would understand where I have been (in dub-hell), but I don't think it matters really. I do have some high standards when it comes to men and that at least weeds out a good portion of them right off the bat. I just want some semblance of normal from whomever I date...no weird cult ideas shaping the direction of our lives. I know I would not marry a dub again and I am not even sure about the marry part, but maybe marriage is totally different outside the Borg...at least I sure hope so or what is the point?
FreeGirl2006
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Would you have married a non JW
by JH inwhen you were a good active jw, would you have considered marrying a non jw or was this completely out of the question..
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WHO ELSE IS GOING TO THE MEMORIAL THIS YEAR???
by Mary ingeeze, the memorial to remember your place in the organization jesus christ is next tueday i think.......anyone else getting roped into going besides me?
i'm trying to talk my brother into going....just so i'm not the only slacker there.
i know whats going to happen.
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A big plus in being disfellowshipped and treated with a full-on dose of
true Christian lovebeing ignored by once-upon-a-time friends and family....I never have to go to a Memorial again. Not one invite has made its way to my door...live in gated community right across the street from a KH. I am waiting for a guilt call from one of my nieces (ages 6 & 11) as my family uses them to relay their expectations of me..."Auntie Freegirl when are you coming back to the hall", "Auntie Freegirl we are sad because you are going to be destroyed", "Auntie Freegirl don't you love Jehovah and us anymore?". Nothing like screwing up another generation of young minds.It will feel strange not attending as this is the first one I have missed ever, but just can't summon enough interest in the Borg and its crap to go and if no one is going to speak with me...well, no point in putting the energy into being a warm body in such a cold place. I think I will just go out and have some drinks with friends and enjoy the full moon.
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Could do with a little help
by fifi40 incant really explain to much at the mo am emotionally numb but think i may be about to bring an end to my marriage,,,,,,,,,,and inside i am falling apart
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FreeGirl2006
Fifi,
My heart goes out to you! Hang on, take it one minute at a time and breathe. It will get better. This great group of people will hold your hand all the way if you let them.
Freegirl
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I Received Real Good News Today
by FreeGirl2006 ini want to thank everyone for your support the other day when i wrote about my stepson being in an accident and just finding out about it because i got the hospital bill.. this morning i was walking down the hall at work and looked up and there was my stepson.
he came to see me!.
this is a great place to come for love & support when we get kicked by the borg...does it ever end?
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I want to thank everyone for your support the other day when I wrote about my stepson being in an accident and just finding out about it because I got the hospital bill.
This morning I was walking down the hall at work and looked up and there was my stepson. He came to see me! And I am taking him out to lunch today. Isn't that awesome! I did not even send the letter out yet, but that is okay because now I get to say it to him directly!
This is a great place to come for love & support when we get kicked by the Borg...does it ever end?
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SCANNED MEMORIAL INVITATION
by Mary insomeone was asking for a scanned copy of the memorial invitation, so here it is, front and back.
i've uh, revized it a bit to say what they really mean.
please feel free to distribute to anyone you think might be interested in attending.
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FreeGirl2006
Mary, you are sooo talented. I am still laughing hysterically over this.
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Some outrageous counsel I received once ...
by Frequent_Fader_Miles ini was reading an earlier thread about ridiculous counsel and i just had to share this one with everyone.. you know how sometimes around christmas time merchandisers would package their products in a more "festive" wrapper?
the largest bread company here does that every year.
well one yuletide season (when i was about 7 years old), i was helping myself to a couple slices of bread and my aunt saw me.
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My personal favorite in the outrageous counsel category goes to....(drumroll please)...the elders who did a shepherding call on me & the X at our request. We explained the marital issues and no bible was cracked open...rather we were told we needed to go on a long weekend without the boys. Hahahah.
Yeah, that saved our marriage.
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Upset & Need to Vent to Compassionate Ears
by FreeGirl2006 ini am so grateful to have a place where my experiences being treated like one of the walking dead can be understood and empathized with.. i was opening my mail last night and there was a bill from local hospital.
i opened it a bit confused because i have not been in a hospital in 2 years.
it was a detailed bill for my stepson.
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jgant -
I wonder if your X would know how to treat you if the Watchtower ran a QFR regarding the matter? I am sure the Witnesses could benefit from a comprehensive list of activites under "necessary family business".
What is a QFR?
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Upset & Need to Vent to Compassionate Ears
by FreeGirl2006 ini am so grateful to have a place where my experiences being treated like one of the walking dead can be understood and empathized with.. i was opening my mail last night and there was a bill from local hospital.
i opened it a bit confused because i have not been in a hospital in 2 years.
it was a detailed bill for my stepson.
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Thank you all for your kind words...just what I needed. My stepson is 19 and a regular aux. pioneer--nonamegiven. Yes, I love that the people willing to own their mistakes take the hit and those that are just pure evil...well, you get the jist.
Take care - why not write your step son a letter and tell him you love him. Have it delivered in a way you know he will get it. All you can do is love from your side - you can't force reciprocation. Hang in.
Good idea Jeff. I think I will do just that.
I did not even think about being responsible for the hospital bill, but thank you for point that out Scully..definitely need to call them. As far as the X...as horrible as he was/is to me...he is a very loving father and would die before he hurt his kids (well, with the exception of the religion thing that is).
You guys are the best!
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Upset & Need to Vent to Compassionate Ears
by FreeGirl2006 ini am so grateful to have a place where my experiences being treated like one of the walking dead can be understood and empathized with.. i was opening my mail last night and there was a bill from local hospital.
i opened it a bit confused because i have not been in a hospital in 2 years.
it was a detailed bill for my stepson.
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I am so grateful to have a place where my experiences being treated like one of the walking dead can be understood and empathized with.
I was opening my mail last night and there was a bill from local hospital. I opened it a bit confused because I have not been in a hospital in 2 years. It was a detailed bill for my stepson. It scared me and all I could think was "OMG, he died and no one called me". So I text the X because I get sick when I have to hear his voice. He texts back that stepson is "OK". No details, so as I start to dial his number to speak with him, he calls me. I ask what happened and at first he says he just broke his arm. I say, they ran all those tests for a broken arm? He says, well he was in an accident. I ask what kind. I finally, after much teeth pulling, get the story...the kid almost died in a serious accident in January and was in the hospital for a week. The X claims he did not call me because the kid requested that. Might be true because the kid is well & truly indoctrinated in the Borg and then again the X is not known to me for his honesty. I say "I raised this kid for 8 years. I was more a mother to him than his own and you don't call me???? If he dies, are you going to have the compassion to let me know?" He says "I don't know". Of course, that is his standard response to pretty much any question he is ever asked.
This just makes me so sick at heart. I hate the Borg and the X. This True Christian raped me 8 times, cheated on me twice, never once did he confess his sins. I do something stupid, have not one, but two breakdowns over it, confess my sin (because the X hounded me to do so), make 100% amends for what I did and I am the one who gets kicked out because I was not emotionally well enough to endure the
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By their deeds you shall know them - aka JW's who aint that christian
by LaniB infirstly some background.. when i was 21 i went to live in sydney and left my congregation in tasmania.
until then i had never seen the bad side of the borg.
being new in town and staying with my non jw sibling i immediately checked in with the local congregation and soon found a fellow witness to share an apartment with.
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That could be my story you told. I moved in with the darling of the congregation: a pioneer. This piece of trash was sleeping with any man who asked. She brought home guys in the middle of the night...I was the bad girl of the cong. because I worked full-time, I went to (gasp!) college. The roommate would tell people that I was doing the crap she was. Guess who was believed?