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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

depressed

Odrade - what secrets about what innocent people? I'm sorry but I don't recall what you're referring to. Maybe you've misunderstood me.

The only thing that I did was forward the blog to his workplace, which consisted of 5 people. According to the website marriage builders, you are supposed to let everyone know of the affair. As for mentioning the gay guy, well, that was already public knowledge, and I didn't say that he was gay, all I said was something along the lines where my husband didn't want to accept a couch that the gay coworker was offering him because it might have had an inkling of ass sex. lol

So, Oldrade,

I'm supposed to seeth in anger, and feel very neglected, all the while "protect them" by being confidential? Oh, no honey, YOU can do that when your boyfriend/husband cheats on you, but I didn't and I don't have the least regret of doing so, and what's more, if I could rewind back time, I wouldn't have done anything different.

Call me unstable, or any other name that you wish, but I've reacted very normal for a hurt woman, and frankly, I'm tired of hearing people like you preach the self rightousness when you yourself have never gone through what I've gone through, and frankly, you really have no clue.

Also, please realize that his whore has been harrassing me at work to try to get my boss to fire me. Correct me if I'm wrong, by why the hell would the whore want to have contact with me? She continues to send me emails - AND those emails, I forward right to his self-righteous parents. That was a VERY good thing that I did, since after I forwarded the emails to his parents, she stopped harrassing me.

Get a clue, if anything, the parents and my ex husband should thank the almighty that blogging and forwarding a few emails are all I"ve done. Do you really really think I've done wrong?? I mean, like really, have you ever heard of Betty Broderick?

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

depressed

wow, odrade that was so mean..

Not sure what to tell you except that everyone is different. I highly doubt that you've gotten cheated on by what you thought was your "faithful" husband of ten years. You know, that's a trauma in itself. One year is not sufficient time for most people to get over something as drastic as what happened to me. Remember, this whole thing happened suddenly.

Odrade - I'll get over it when I'm good and ready. No offense to you, but my choice is my choice. And if I want to prove him to be a liar, then that is my choice as well. I'm glad that I'm growing confidentally this way. Negative opinions just do not influence me any longer. That's what 10 years of pioneering, and 5 years of bethel service does to ya.

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Bethelites?

by VanillaMocha73 in

did anyone know fred curry?

he left bethel in the 90s, injury, went to live with mom.

scott zeida?

depressed

no, don't remember any of those people. I was there for about 5 years in the mid 90's.

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Bethelites?

by VanillaMocha73 in

did anyone know fred curry?

he left bethel in the 90s, injury, went to live with mom.

scott zeida?

depressed

no, don't remember any of those people. I was there for about 5 years in the mid 90's.

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Something creepy just happened here.........................

by Warlock in

as some of you know, my office is a converted garage.

the day has been fairly still here, and all of a sudden the front door started shaking like someone was trying to open it, as if it was locked.

when i heard it start to shake i looked up and the door was moving as if someone was trying to get in.

depressed

the next time that you hear the doors rattle, just ask it what it wants. Say, "Come out here and lets chat". If you can provide me with the lottery numbers, that would be ideal!

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

depressed

sunspot, thanks for your warm words.

His whore other woman had sent me another email where she tells me that she was just lying and that she's just his friend. Yeah, "just friends" co sign on car loans, and they kiss each other in the office.

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

depressed

I wonder - how do people change so drastically? My soon to be ex husband used to love me, and he'd tell me. We never once had a fight were divorce was even mentioned. He used to tell me that he loved me everyday. Now he's laughing at my pain with the bitch. I don't understand how his conscience doesn't bother him - especially being raised in the borg. He must be really evil now if he's laughing at my pain, and using my pain as an indication of how "touched in the head" I am.

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

depressed

anyway, my soon to be ex husband's dad is the PO of the congregation, his mom is a regular pioneer, his sister is in Gilead with her husband. What I'd like to know is that since my soon to be ex husband was in bethel, and a "fully baptized" JW, could his family now ex communicate or disfellowship him on the basis of this email alone??

Do we know if the witnesses still disfellowship based on astrological readings/?

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

depressed

anyway, my soon to be ex husband's dad is the PO of the congregation, his mom a pioneer and his sister and her husband are in gilead.

My soon to be ex husband (who went to visit the fortune teller with the other woman) is baptized and used to serve in bethel. Is this email cause for disfellowship? Can his dad like now see the damn light?

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

depressed

So his "worldly" bitch emails me again. She tells me that her letter is a lie, and that I behaved "crazy" because I forwarded the email to his witness parents. After I ignore her, she sends me another email. She claims that she did not commit adultery, (yeah right), and again says that I'm imagining things. Instead, she forwards me another email where she mentions that my ex husband and her went to see an astrologist!!! I gladly forwarded the email again to his parents!! This is an exact copy of the email I forwarded to his parents: (By the way, the text messages she refers to are the ones I caught were she mentions to my husband that she'll be thinking of him wrapped around her, and that she wants to have his little girl) Also, I took out my name and substituted it with "depressed"

To witness parents:

from bethel to astrology. unbelievable.

-------- Original Message --------

Subject:	Explaination of the text messages - now you know
Date:	Fri, 16 Mar 2007 17:09:46 -0400 (EDT)
From:	xxx@aol.com (The other "worldly" woman)
To:	depressed (me -the poster)@xxxx.com

In response to your current comment on the text messages: Ever since the first time you asked me about the text messages I knew if you heard the truth you would never believe it. This is what happened - believe it or not ...... On a Thursday night in early March I had an appointment to see a tea left reader in Yonkers at Katies Cottage on Central Park Ave - Her name is Roisen - She only works on Tuesday and Thursday nights and I am never able to go because it would require me to get a babysitter (and I am too cheap to pay a babysitter to go with my friends... ) - anyway, my kids had plans and I really wanted to go so I made an appointment for 2 people to have readings. Another friend really wanted to go too but canceled at the last minute. I was very disappointed because I really wanted to go for months and now that I had a free evening and an appointment & I had to go by myself. I know many people who have been to her and had very upsetting readings - I really didn't want to go to the 6pm appt by myself. I asked a friend from work to go - He was teaching class that night and couldn't go - I asked another friend from work to go - She wanted to go (and eventually DID go but not that night as she too was busy) so I asked another person from work - he too was into astrology etc and thought it would be fun - That would be "depressed's" husband. We took separate cars to the appointment. When I arrived I found he was already there. We had a short discussion about who would go first (if you go first, after the 30 minute reading you have to sit by yourself, analyzing the info you just got - all by yourself - if you go second, when you come out you have someone to talk to at least). We decided He would go first. He came out and said he thought he was going to throw up - I went in for my reading - when I emerged 20 minutes later we shared the stories of our readings over a Guiness (it is an Irish Pub and I still had 35 minutes before I needed to retrieve my kids) ..... the two stories were so funny, heartbreaking and similar - also a good chunk of it was crap, which we both knew. We spent 34-40 minutes talking about the readings and went home. The next few days we joked about it on and off all day at work - because of the nature of the work we did sometimes we would see each other all day and sometimes not for days - when business things were going on we would text each other instead of call - saving time - sometimes we texted the joking references from the readings too - Unfortunately depressed got caught in the cross fire from the readings and the text messages - they were always sent in good fun, never with the intention to hurt anyone - I had no idea their home life was so volatile or I never would have asked him to go to begin with - I had met depressed in person and had been in their company as a couple - I never knew their relationship was in trouble - actually, it was none of my business if it was - well, she intercepted the messages, when he was sleeping and flew off the deep end - breaking the phone in two pieces, shoving the work boots down the garbage shoot - you know all the stories - That is where the text messages came from - PS - The reading was 100% "on" about some things - other things she said just made me laugh like "you will have a baby girl with him - I laughed - with "who" I asked - Roisen replied with "Your fine looking Scorpio Friend ....... That is the joke - that is where the messages came from - believe it or not .....In HIS reading, she told him "You will have two sons and a daughter - When we sat down to compare notes on the readings we found that funny, weird, creepy, crap. You can pass judgement all day long about whether or not we should have gone, whether or not we should have joked about it, whether or not I was over the line about texting the jokes back and forth - I can see that debate but it was really done very innocently and got way out of hand - depressed flew off the end of the ship and never returned - she was last seen spinning around in a circle like a crazy person. Well, the wait is over - that is what happened. I had no idea (The Tea Leaf lady didn't tell me all this would be the outcome a year later). Look - I didn't just fall off the Apricot truck - was I out of line for having an inside joke with a married man? Maybe - but I had met depressed - we had talked a few times - I would never have done it if I thought for a minute this would be the result. Depressed? I am sorry for texting your husband about an inside joke - it got out of hand and you got hurt. I am sorry. PS - Depressed? You should go and see her - she is across the street from Yonkers Raceway - Tues and Thurs from 6pm - 9pm - The cost is $30 for the reading and for $10 more you can have anything you want to eat on the dinner menu (I recommend the Shepards Pie) - it will change your life! It sure changed mine!