As for real freinds and an exit strategy, I've got both.
Met a buncha nice folks from Australia that I just love. So...my 'exit strategy' is to move halfway across the world :P. And yes, I know it will be insanely hard, and I HAVE put a lot of thought into it. I have nothing in america. I lack even the social skills to make new freinds (although apparently I'm very charming online ;) ) . I have everything I've ever wanted there: real freinds.
Also, we really were great freinds. It just seems that she works in a world thats black and white. She either likes you, or hates you. The thing that bothers me, is that I did nothing that any other 17 year old boy wouldn't do. I like girls, it's just a fact... I never acted on it, nor planned to act on it. (I'm a good little boy) So that she would so completely turn on me is what gets me...
And I don't like things to stay UNRESOLVED. It kills me not to be able to FIX it...even if she ends up hating me forever. But I think I took a buncha the advice with me. The last day of the convention, I wasn't totally depressed when I saw her walking around (Actually....did you see what she was wearing? Ugh...).
And I also saw the most beautiful girl I've ever seen....to bad she's a JW (no, I'm not considering her, just kidding :P ) .
I'll be finished with school the end of this year, so I won't go public school. And we're poor. We already paid for all the homeschool stuff, so I won't let it go to waste.
I think I've got the lesson now tho. JWs don't make good freinds. As such, I've lost just about all my JW freinds. The ones I have left I'm fully prepared to leave at a moments notice. If they dropped off the face of the earth, it wouldn't bother me.
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Stupid teenager(me) needs some nice words... *extremely long, sorry*
by Anony-Mouse inso we were just freinds.
i was just becoming good freinds with her best freind's brother, which is now gone.
so i smile back and say "good, not much.
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do i go with my gut instinct???(long, im sorry, but i need help)
by theinfamousone inso, simply put, i am in love... and love makes a man do some really stupid things.... love makes a pretty damn intelligent man feel pretty damn stupid quite often as well... so here's my story... i have been dating this girl for almost a year now... she is beautiful, sweet, and really just everything i imagined in a life mate... she lives with me... she doesnt work, while i do full time, and also go to school... i make very good money, so that does not bother me... but heres where it all begins... a few months ago, she went to cuba with her sisters, and imoved her into my place while she was gone, her idea, not mine.. now we keep our condoms in a certain place.... anyways, her box of condoms was gone, with her... when she comes back, our little box of condoms is empty.... instead of asking her about it, i explained it to myself as she must have given them to her sister.... .
while i am gone at work, i usually give her a call on my breaks... i notice that she never answers the phone between 6-8 pm.. home or cell... her explanation is that she is always in the shower... the problem with that is that she is always coming out of the shower when i get home.... i get home at around nine... so either she is taking a 3 hour shower or she is taking two showers a night..... she disappears off the face of the earth everytime she goes home to visit her family... like shes not home, shes not answering her phone and only ever calls me when she is in her car....her explanation is that she is at a cousins house.. conveniently, one that i do not know..... last night she went to a wedding... it was over at 11, i know this because she had told me, nd a friend of mine tht was there said that it ended then,,, it was a dry wedding, no dancing... very religious people... i was supposed to meet her at 130 today, i got to the train station that she was coming to, 15 minutes early and waited over an hour there... finally as i decied to walk back home, she gives me a call... i will be home at 5, meet me at the train.... of course, i have been calling her since last night at 11 to tell her i would meet her at 130 as she had planned... i made brunch for her, which is now in the garbage... i was scared shitless she had been hit by a car or dead since her phone has been off since last night.... i asked her why she is so late, i was helping move things until 3am last night... bull shit.. all the gifts were given prior to the weding and the bride and groom had already moved into their new place.... i know because she has told me in the past.....her phone was dead according to her... but all of the sudden, she is able to use it.... no charger, but she can use it..... i did confront her once, and she exploded on me!!!!
like screamed and screamed and said she was insulted i even asked... textbook defensive behaviour right????.
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I like to give people the benefit of the doubt....but everyone here seems to think she's up to no good.
I think so too. But I wouldn't just kick her out.
I'm a fan of the direct approach. I hate going behind backs to find out what someone is doing. But the direct approach led nowhere for you. Showing up early means you might find her in the middle of something you won't like. If you can deal with that, that's what I'd do.
Just stay calm if there's a guy there. I think you can get in trouble if you beat someone up, even in that situation.
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A truly pointless topic . .
by nicolaou injust wanted to get the 3000 post monkey off my back.. .
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200. Lol.
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Lonely
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new invention that will save lives
by shadowofbathory inlets say that i have invented a contraption that removes all contaminates ( organic and inorganis ) from any sample of water, including desalination process.. what would be your marketing plan ?
who would you approach initially?.
would you sell the technology to a firm that would take care of marketing and distribution?.
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Umm.....wow :O .
I wanna know how it works....promise I won't tell anyone :P .
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Stupid teenager(me) needs some nice words... *extremely long, sorry*
by Anony-Mouse inso we were just freinds.
i was just becoming good freinds with her best freind's brother, which is now gone.
so i smile back and say "good, not much.
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Thanks....I mean it.
I think this is enough to get me through the night.
Also, one of my good freinds (from australia) logged on outta nowhere. That's also making me feel less alone.
Think I can function at the convention on 5 hours sleep?
"Turning it around" also doesn't seem like something I'd do. Technically, since I can't talk to her, and I can't look her in the eye, I'm 'shunning' her... She apparently doesn't give a damn. But I don't want to get aggressive. -
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Stupid teenager(me) needs some nice words... *extremely long, sorry*
by Anony-Mouse inso we were just freinds.
i was just becoming good freinds with her best freind's brother, which is now gone.
so i smile back and say "good, not much.
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I rarely ever go out seeking kind words...but I'm super down right now. Unfortunately, this being a forum, it's going to take a while before I get a return, but I can't sleep anyway.
Now the story I've been too embarassed to tell to anyone but my closest freinds. Some of you heard the begining, worded poorly, a while back (you won't remember it), but I never finished it:
There was a girl, JW and everything, that I had a major crush on. Yes, I relise liking a JW like that is stupid, I knew that then and now. But I'm 17, I'm a hopeless romantic, and I'm alone. Cut me some slack.
Basically, we hit it off perfect. She was attractive (In my eyes), and I loved her personality. Don't think I'm shallow either, there were plenty nicer looking girls I coulda chased after at my fingertips.
Even now, I realize that was the happiest time of my life, no doubt. I forgot that the meetings were horrible, because she was there. Service was fun, I had someone to talk to. Boring JW "get togethers"? Not boring anymore, I had a freind.
Despite having a crush on her, I knew we were only freinds. She treated me a bit nicer than 'just freinds', but I knew better than to start a relationship with a JW. Especially so young....she's 2 years younger than I am.
I was planning on just waiting for the feelings to go away. I knew it was inevitable. There was no way she'd ever leave, but I most certainly would. I always entertained notions of us 'running off from the JWs into the sunset', but I'm not quite foolish enough to give that any probability.
So we were just freinds. But the problem is...I have no experience with girls. This was my first female freind at all, since I was 5. I let my deeper feelings bleed through, and people noticed.
For 2 weeks, I got the cold shoulder...When I pressed forward for conversation, I got insults, and not so polite jabs. I was worried I had said or done something wrong, so 2 weeks after it first started...I asked her. Of course, not the courage to do so in person, so I used an IM program.
She asked me straight off if I liked her. I don't like lying unless its necessary. So I told the truth. She then told me she didn't feel that way about me, despite how she ever acted (Tell me what you think....I was invted over to her house on several occasions, basically unsupervised) .
She said that maybe we shouldn't talk anymore for a while. I was completely stunned...I said some stupid things (nothing mean). Basically that I didn't think it would be wise if we remained freinds...
For a week I was on the verge of tears, cried once or twice....I couldn't stand it. I knew I'd regret it if I just let a freind go like that. There's nothing I value more than a freind. The people you CHOOSE to be with, not just family.
So I asked her, once again with the IM program (mistake), only a week later (mistake), if we could be freinds. Her best female freind was also online. They decided to both attack me at the same time, and exchange notes with each other while doing it. I'd seen them do it before, didn't think it was all that nice of them, and had asked they never do that to me....
I was informed that I was no longer allowed to speak to her at all. Lest I be punished. My words were misunderstood, twisted into ammunition.
What once was a blessing is now a curse...She's in the same bookstudy, same hall, and her mother and my mother are best freinds. I was just becoming good freinds with her best freind's brother, which is now gone. I can't be around him while I feel like his sister could kill me at any moment. It feels wrong.
Whatever few freinds I had are now cut in half. I don't have the desire or energy to maintain any of the freinds I have now. I'm incapable of making new friends. I'm homeschooled, and I only have face to face access to JWs.
Sure I keep up apperances as if nothing happened. But now I'm more using them to keep from going insane. I don't like having fake freinds, especially when I'm forced to.
Since then, I don't exist. She doesn't hear me, she doesn't see me. If I'm talking to someone, and she decides she wants to talk to them, I am no obstacle, I'm invisible. If I am for a moment mentioned in that conversation, I am just as quickly dismissed...
I talked to her last 3 months ago. While the majority of the pain is gone, I still feel it.
But she was there...
I did 5 laps around the colleseum, to get her out of my head. It accomplished nothing other than burning calories.
Later that day, I for some reason found myself talking to her best freind's brother. I don't want to be impolite, so we talk rarely. His sister walks up to ask him a question...
His sister has a little smile on her face, asks me how I'm doing, what I've been up to...I want to give a good impression, I'm not angry at either of them, I want to be respectful of her wish not to talk to me. So I smile back and say "good, not much."
I don't know how to interperate this. I didn't get the sense that she was angry, as I have before.
I have to go to sleep early, so I can wake up early. But all I can think about is her...Why does she ignore me? Is she angry? Guilty? Does that smile on her freind's face mean I'm no longer hated? Or am I the butt of a joke and don't realize it? Why can't we just get PAST this and be freinds again...?
All I want is my freind back.
Everytime I play a scenario to bid for freindship...it ends in absolute disaster. I thought I knew both of them well. But this whole situation clued me into a darker side I ignored. Neither of them are all that nice....why do I even want to be freinds? Why do I CARE what they think?
If I go to her freind first (I won't approch her first, I'm not allowed to speak to her), I get the feeling I'll be rejected immediately. If not, I'll be eyed with suspicion. Even if I do get past her freind, and manage to get a few words in, she probably hates me, and will have no problem TELLING me that in front of everyone to see...
The only answer I can come up with is....I am weak. I have noone to hold me and tell me everything will be OK. Noone is there that I can talk to. Anyone who could possibly give a damn is in no position to help. And above all....
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We are we almost all black now? Especially CO's.
by coaster infor the past couple of years at my district conventions, i have been unable to actually listen to most of it, so my mind is in many places.
one such place was to count people in several of the other sections as to blacks and whites.
section 132..42 white and 137 black, section 133..36 white and 144 black, and so on.
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NC is pretty much that.
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For the women...
by erandir inso, i'm curious as to what you think about the lovely comparison the wt makes to women from the bible...and it is seriously intended as a complement:.
"charming mountain goat".
"lovable hind".
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I never have, nor ever will be attracted to mountain goats....
ESPECECIALLY ones with nice butts....
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More reason to watch your children on the Internet
by TD in.
i was way beyond mad when i read this:.
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Anony-Mouse
I think it's very important to monitor, but only to interfere if necessary.
If a girl flirts with a boy from school online, that's fine in my book...(until I become a father :P )
But if she goes off talking to pedophiles, then it's time to step in...
This website compromises the saftey of children. There shouldn't NEED to be a law to protect that.