Thanks for all the great advice! I have one more quick question. Why is it that whenever you speak to a JW about another religion they look as though they are going to throw up on you? My mom will either snicker like THEY are all crazy or tell me a big long reason of why this religion or that religion is bad.
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Why is it everytime.....
by WANTMOMBACK in..i speak to my mother about any type of current event she tells me how the end of the world is coming.
she always says that people do not care for one another anymore and tells me that is how the end has been described as b eing.
it is driveing me crazy!!
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Why is it everytime.....
by WANTMOMBACK in..i speak to my mother about any type of current event she tells me how the end of the world is coming.
she always says that people do not care for one another anymore and tells me that is how the end has been described as b eing.
it is driveing me crazy!!
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..I speak to my mother about any type of current event she tells me how the end of the world is coming. She always says that people do not care for one another anymore and tells me that is how the end has been described as b eing. It is driveing me crazy!! She is constantly telling me I need to teach my children before it is too late. I love my mom but I feel like she gets loopier everyday. It kinda makes me nervous. I never know what I can say without getting a 20 minute sermon on what I need to do and how much she loves me and my kids then I spend the rest of the day feeling like crap!
Her and my father spend winters in south florida imagine the stories she tells me everyday that she watches on the news!!!!! I always tell her that we just have better media coverage now and that there have always been good and bad people. "NOOOOOOOOO MA'AM that is simply not true!" she always says. Sometimes I feel like if it's coming then I wish it would just come on dammit because she is driving me mad.
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What can you do with a heroin addict?
by katiekitten inor more to the point, what can you do with your cousin who is in love with a heroin addict, lives with him, has a child to him, is regularly beaten by him to the point that she went into a womens refuge last year, and supports him with all her income because she is the breadwinner.. sigh.. i just got in touch with my cousins again after several years, and i find out my beautiful cousin has been brutalised by this fuckwit for years.
but until she is ready to see hes ruining her life nobody can do anything to help her.. the whole family has given up on saying anything because she always goes back to him.
she loves him.
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What a terrible situation!! I can absolutely identify with it though. My mother has lived with my abusive father for over 35 years although sometimes can be really good, the times that are bad are unbelievably horrible from smashed teeth to name calling to just about anything you can imagine. I wish I could give you some magic answer that would free her of this monster but unfortunately there is not one. Just love her and support her but be certain that she knows where you stand as far as your feelings on him and his treatment of her. Talk to her about the safety of her child and make sure she understands that it is her sole responsibility to protect this child and give it a secure a secure and happy childhood. 29 years old is so young to be dealing with such a problem. Drugs can grip a person so tight that they really have no conception of the pain they are inflicting on the rest of us. My brother was a crack addict for years and it seemed liked everything he touched turned to shit. (excuse my language , but there is no nice way to say it) He has ran up bills, all but deserted his children, and isolated himself from anyone who really ever cared. I guess the bottom line is there is no help for someone refusing to help themself. This goes for her as well as her heroin addicted boyfriend. I know this wasn't much for advice but I know how you feel - helpless. Give her a good tight squeeze and just be there for her until she can see he is not worth it.
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I can't be proud of my kids!
by WANTMOMBACK intoday i went to my daughter's school and they sang "america the beautiful" and i videoed her.
i do have a question though!!
how do most people explain to their children about why grandma and grandpa never come to their birthday party or any holiday function?
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When I was registering I put that for the reason that I was worried my sister would find this. That's all!! But I can understand the confusion!! LOL
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I can't be proud of my kids!
by WANTMOMBACK intoday i went to my daughter's school and they sang "america the beautiful" and i videoed her.
i do have a question though!!
how do most people explain to their children about why grandma and grandpa never come to their birthday party or any holiday function?
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Thanks for the advice I just really am at a loss for now. My mom was such a fun and non-judgmental person before she got reinstated and now that has all changed drastically!! MY kids adore my mother but they are still very young so I guess time will tell. I know it may sound silly or perhaps even selfish but I do want my mom back!! And when I am with her I don't want to hear about how great the assembly was or what a wonderful talk they gave at the hall or she has to go study because some stupid something or other. Sorry but this is the only place I can really go to rage about this! I know they don't celebrate any holidays and they make damn sure that we don't enjoy the ones that we celebrate!! but they do enjoy having baby showers and anniversary parties and weddings. I know these have pagan origins too ( well I think I know) Seems like she has one to go to every other day!!! I always feel like these people mean so much more to her than her real family. She always says what good hearted people they are and they are so kind and giving and blah,blah,blah....
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I can't be proud of my kids!
by WANTMOMBACK intoday i went to my daughter's school and they sang "america the beautiful" and i videoed her.
i do have a question though!!
how do most people explain to their children about why grandma and grandpa never come to their birthday party or any holiday function?
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Today I went to my daughter's school and they sang "America the beautiful" and I videoed her (like most good parents would do) In the meantime my mother was watching my other child and when I got home I really wanted to share this video with her but I couldn't because I would get the same evil eye that I have come to know so well. I wish things could be normal like most families. I never get to share any joy with her. Except the day they were born. After that it is all pretty much doom and gloom.
I do have a question though!! How do most people explain to their children about why grandma and grandpa never come to their birthday party or any holiday function? The older my kids get the harder is it to avoid this question.My mom does tell my kids that Jehovah wouldn't approe of this and Jehovah wouldn't like that and my daughter is like "Who is Jehovah?" Although she has a mild understanding now. I'm not sure I want her to fully understand. My mom wants me to read her The My Book of Bible Stories but I don't think my husband would be very happy about it. I just don't know what to do. I can't teach my kids anything because I don't really have any knowledge about religion. Any advice would be appreciated
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Hello! My mom is aJW and I have lots of questions!
by WANTMOMBACK inmy mom has been a jw for most of her life.
she was df in 1989 for having an affair.
our lives(me and my borthers and sister) became unbearable because she didn't leave my abusive father.
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wow that is funny you say that because I always get the feeling that my mom wishes(secretly) that something would happen to us so we would make it through. I have tried every angle with my mom but I can't make any progress. My life has been so screwed up I have seen my dad beat the living s$%t out of my mother and one of my siblings and then deny doing it and she will also deny he did it until the time comes when she is angry with him and then she doesn't minimize it anymore but as soon as everything is OK again then she goes back to the land of denial. I don't know how someone so pious and devoted to her religion can overlook some of the things that she does. for instance my dad's gambling(he is not a JW) his degrading attitude and the beating of his children. I can't understand why she won't leave and when I ask she says because he hasn't given me reason!!!!!!! HOLY SHIT ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?! She misses meetings only for things she deems necessary. Such as vacation or dinner with people she hasn't seen in awhile or out of town company. OK OK I am rambling again Sorry!!!!
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Hello! My mom is aJW and I have lots of questions!
by WANTMOMBACK inmy mom has been a jw for most of her life.
she was df in 1989 for having an affair.
our lives(me and my borthers and sister) became unbearable because she didn't leave my abusive father.
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thank you so much for all the advice. I will see what I can do.. I have a feeling nothing will work she will say that I am an apostate and that will be the end of it. She is absolutley consumed with this. Every free moment she has is dedicated to underlining and reading and finding other people to read it(the watchtower) to . I wish I could her but I truly don't think I can and the sad part is I think the only reason she went back to be reinstated is so she could talk to my aunts! Now everything from music to magazines to just about anything you can think of she says has some sort of demonic link to it. She didn't want me to buy something at a yard sale because she said the people who owned it may be into demonized music or rituals or whatever. I can't take the crazy anymore
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Hello! My mom is aJW and I have lots of questions!
by WANTMOMBACK inmy mom has been a jw for most of her life.
she was df in 1989 for having an affair.
our lives(me and my borthers and sister) became unbearable because she didn't leave my abusive father.
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Hello Anitar!! To answer your questions No I don't live with my mom, I can very rarely speak to her without her quoting scriptures and telling me the end is near. But I only live 1 1/2 miles from her. I love her very much. I just wish she could see what I do and she wishes the same about me!
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My heart hurt today at all the wasted years in the ORG.
by purplesofa init was on the history of the morman religion.
one of the docs i work for is morman.
i always try to find something to chitchat with the docs with, so i asked him about his religion.
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i'm so sorry you are having a bad day. I am not and have never been a JW but my mother and her whole family are JW's. It is a very confusing and scary to me. I have absolutely no understanding so maybe you can explain some of it to me. I know you must feel very alone. My mom was DF in 1989 and reinstated in 1998 what a lonely , isolated time for her. She would see her own sisters and they would not speak to her but instead walk by her as if she were a stranger. Just wanted you to know you have a friend.