Posts by AllTimeJeff

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leaving the wt - why?
by rockmehardplace in
1. jw
2. friends
so for some people, there is the one breaking point that makes people leave.

for me, not so much about doctrine, but about how people treated one another.

i always heard that we show we are the true religion because we have love among ourselves.
AllTimeJeff

At first, it was rather selfish, (and I maintain, its not only proper, but right to do this for yourself): To wit, why promote a religion and way of life that has hurt you for senseless, defenseless reasons?
JW's are always fond of pointing out how bitter those who leave are. How convenient! Of course, this is tantamount to condemning the 9/11 widows for being pissed off because of what happened to their partners. (remember that? there was some backlash)
JW's hurt me, destroyed my marriage, and as an elder and missionary, I got to see how they destroyed other people and families as well. I was almost killed in an overseas country that ships young indoctrinated people overseas in groups of 50 twice a year to spread their poisonous propaganda to the ignorant in ill informed. How could I promote that? How could I stay in it?
I firmly believe that the reason to leave must always be personal, whatever personal reason it is for each individual. Without real damage, unfortunately, people will stay around with a dull sense of pain and a dull questioning of why they are in pain, never realizing that the reason is the cult they belong to.
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How many on this board are multi-millionaires?
by worldtraveller in
1. jw
2. friends
palin refers to herself as one of the little people, as in the above post, but i believe she has quite a bundle in assets and cash.. so multi-millionaires are "little people"?

don't you have to be filthy rich to be an elitist?

yet more hypocracy from this thumper..
AllTimeJeff

I am rich in life experience and wisdom.
The current exchange rate for this is currently unknown. Checking the temperature in hell right now for an update.
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Banner day for Canada!
by poopsiecakes in
1. social
2. physical
3 medals today!!

gold & silver in bobsleigh and bronze in 5000m speed skating - i'm so pumped!!.

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AllTimeJeff

I am watching Mary Carillo do logging. (NBC, gotta love it...)
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Banner day for Canada!
by poopsiecakes in
1. social
2. physical
3 medals today!!

gold & silver in bobsleigh and bronze in 5000m speed skating - i'm so pumped!!.

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AllTimeJeff

Looks like Super G, of course, it could be downhill skiing...
and yeah, its a DVR.... ;)
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Banner day for Canada!
by poopsiecakes in
1. social
2. physical
3 medals today!!

gold & silver in bobsleigh and bronze in 5000m speed skating - i'm so pumped!!.

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AllTimeJeff

I am watching the tape.... So don't ruin it for me...
Ah hell, never mind, I don't care....
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Sinfest
by leec in
1. jw
2. friends
is anyone a fan?

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archive.
AllTimeJeff

Never heard of it! Looks hillarious!
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I Hate This Game!
by Aeiouy in
1. social
2. relationships
aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggghghghghghghhhhh!.

i'm slightly frustrated.

about a month ago, i lost the most amazing girl i've ever known.
AllTimeJeff

And...
I have no idea why I am giving advice to you tonight.... Sorry. Thats not my thing.....
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I Hate This Game!
by Aeiouy in
1. social
2. relationships
aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggghghghghghghhhhh!.

i'm slightly frustrated.

about a month ago, i lost the most amazing girl i've ever known.
AllTimeJeff

A word on "using things to your advantage" I don't mean that to mean "be manipulative."
What I mean is, you want what you want. For you to be happy, you have to find the right match for you, even if its for just where you are at the moment. There is nothing wrong with pursuing a woman to make you happy....
....so long as you aren't pretending to be someone you aren't.
I have seen it in myself, and other ex JW, but just because we haven't as of yet discovered who we are doesn't mean that the authentic us isn't lurking just under the surface.
So be yourself, you may attract who you should be with. It beats pretending to be different and attracting someone who thinks you are someone else...
If that made any sense, thats all on you. Congrats....
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I Hate This Game!
by Aeiouy in
1. social
2. relationships
aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggghghghghghghhhhh!.

i'm slightly frustrated.

about a month ago, i lost the most amazing girl i've ever known.
AllTimeJeff

Vowelboy (said with affection) :)
Something just occurred to me, be yourself man.
Women like individuals. I use the word 'quirky'. Don't play the game. First of all, you are a former JW, so lets be frank, you don't have game at the moment. This is the first girl after leaving the borg? Then she likes different. Trust me, I didn't realize just how different JW guys act after they first leave. I am sure (though I couldn't possibly know for sure) that exiting JW women are similar.
Use it to your advantage. Don't pretend that you are a player, otherwise, you are going to come across like Steve Martin and Dan Akroyd in those old "2 wild and crazy guy" skits.
There are some silver linings for being a JW and coming out for dating. You aren't going to be a mega player at the bar, so don't play that hand. You have different cards, and they are good cards. Learn them, learn yourself, you'll be good dude.
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I Hate This Game!
by Aeiouy in
1. social
2. relationships
aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggghghghghghghhhhh!.

i'm slightly frustrated.

about a month ago, i lost the most amazing girl i've ever known.
AllTimeJeff

Its not that women don't want that, but they want to be around a man who possesss himself.
There is a way some men act that when they treat their lady like a queen that they come across as needy.
On the other hand, she could just be a b*tch.
Sorry if that isn't helpful.
Also, I think your viewpoint of women... well, I can't agree with it. I understand the need to rant, so thats cool. I hope you understand that feedback is a part of putting this stuff 'out there'.
Just to sum up, women want to be treated better then a queen, they want to be treated as an individual. She may have saw you treating her like a queen, but more importantly, she may not know why you treated her like a queen. Just a thought.