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  Are there things you can't get rid of?

  by faundy in

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  for instance, i still can't bring myself to say 'bless you' when someone sneezes.

  i still cringe when saying 'good luck' and even now i feel i am being really naughty when shopping for a birthday card for someone.

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  BA, smart-ass comments (or attempts at them) get tiresome after a while, you know.
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  Are there things you can't get rid of?

  by faundy in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  for instance, i still can't bring myself to say 'bless you' when someone sneezes.

  i still cringe when saying 'good luck' and even now i feel i am being really naughty when shopping for a birthday card for someone.

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  For instance, I still can't bring myself to say 'bless you' when someone sneezes. I still cringe when saying 'good luck' and even now I feel I am being really naughty when shopping for a birthday card for someone.
  
  Are there any others who are the same?
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  My Latest Poem

  by Abandoned in

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  betrayal.

  pounded in the kidney,.

  in the middle of a hug.. couldn't tell what hit me,.

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  Achoo! Oh no, I've got the sneezes
  The cough and cold and chest that wheezes
  Keep locked up, away from breezes
  That filter through drafty doors.
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  Mum aged 22 dies for Jehovah

  by MidwichCuckoo in

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  mum aged 22 dies for jehovah.... http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article427045.ece.

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  To be honest, what disgusts me the most is that these sorts of articles are fodder for those on sites such as these who revel in the misfortune of others in order to add to their vendetta against the witnesses. There will always be more to this story. The girl will have died not from refusing blood but from complications after birth. As soon as I read this article my heart sank not because of the death of someone only a year younger than myself, but because I knew that this site would today have a field day tearing up their family, the congregation and their beliefs for their own personal vindication. There is no need for the bitchy comments, the verbal attack on the family or indeed on the witnesses themselves for this. I agree this forum helps those who have been personally affected by the society and come here in order to be mentally condoled, but I was disappointed that once again this site features articles that many simply love to grab hold of and devour in order to bitch and moan once again about the society.
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  Apathy

  by faundy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was thinking earlier about the way that in the field service the main thing the witnesses encounter is 'apathy.

  ' i was wondering what people think of this.

  are people really more apathetic about life and the future, or do you think that they simply don't wish to discuss it on a saturday morning with the door open, letting all the heat out of the house?

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  I was thinking earlier about the way that in the field service the main thing the witnesses encounter is 'apathy.' I was wondering what people think of this. Are people really more apathetic about life and the future, or do you think that they simply don't wish to discuss it on a Saturday morning with the door open, letting all the heat out of the house? Do you think ignorance really is blissful? We were taught to feel sorry for the apathetic ones, to pity them. Now, I think that in some cases ignorance really is bliss- I'd rather be classed as 'apathetic' rather than worry constantly that Armageddon is going to strike any moment and that I might be destroyed simply for doing less than my quota for service or for thinking the occasional wrongful thought about someone in the hall...
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  What is with the JW hate towards the depressed?

  by 5go in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  why do they treat the like the have sinned a great sin ( oh wait i might of answered it doh!

  ) when they are just down a bit..

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  One of the symptoms of depression is a lack of motivation. What suffers when you're not motivated? Field service and meeting attendance, of course. So obviously they're going to treat you with the 'you need a shepherding call because of your poor meeting attendance' rather than 'we want to come and see how you are and cheer you up without even opening a Bible.'
  
  Here's what works: 1) People being understanding. 2) People saying the right things and knowing there's nothing they can do but support you through it. 3) People still realising you're a human being with feelings and emotions.
  
  Here's what doesn't work: 1) Elders calling round to offer encouragement with scriptures. 2) People who think dragging you out in field service will make you feel tons better. 3) People who say depression is Satan's tool to infuse 'wrong' thought. (These are all true.)
  
  One sister I went to see for professional counselling told an elder I was seeing her. Er- CONFIDENTIALITY ALERT!!
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  Why would a young sister marry an old brother?

  by JH in

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  2. friends

  i recall a ms brother about 62 years old dating and marrying a sister about 30 years younger.

  i respect their choice and if they are in love, well good for them.

  but i don't think it's to the best interest of the younger one...... do jw's accept bigger age differences in marriage than other religions?.

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  I have why anyone would want to marry someone so much older than them. Despite the fact that I have always known I wasn't into men anyway, I have always attracted men who were older than me. Sickeningly, one of them was a much older and very close relative and I was disgusted, I now have no contact with him although the rest of the family does.

  When I was 18 a widowed elder in the hall asked me out- he was 42. His wife had been dead for only two months, and again this turned my stomach; even though we got on well beforehand the trust was completely gone then and I didn't want anything to do with him any longer. Then, another widowed brother (these are both elders, by the way) came on to me at least three times, and each time I told him to quit. I even confessed to him that I was gay and he STILL tried, as though he thought he could 'turn' me. I have always hated this kind of male attention, particularly by men who are a lot older but try to act younger. By the way, both are still practising elders in different congregations, and both are remarried. It is one of the things that drove me away, ultimately, as I feel that these men's positions of trust and responsibility were totally misused and taken advantage of.
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  the life is hard to me

  by zhangyigzcn in

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  more than two months i come back to china from germany, where i have stayed four years for study.

  after graduation i went to home immediately in order to live with my family.

  before leaving germany i got visit from jehovahs witness and started to study bible with them.but regrettably the study has continued only for few months.

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  Dude- wrong site. I think what you are most likely to get is people telling you not to go ahead with it on this site. I would say, though, that it's your personal choice. That's if you're not a troll.
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  Which movies make you cry?

  by averyniceguy in

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  even though i am very manly, i need a good cry!

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  The Green Mile- I cried like a bitch at that one. When John Coffey asks for the mask not to be placed over his head because he's scared of the dark, I actually had my head in my hands and was sobbing.
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  how was it for you.....

  by Iron Rod in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have a question for everyone regarding your personal experience with the brainwashing techniques of the wt.

  (its amazing that i can even say that now.

  once was a time i would have bristled at the mere suggestion that the society brainwashes people.

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  I had a problem with a few things but more recently after getting older and especially reading other people's posts I realised how strangely obsessed the society is with sex- not only does it come up in so many of the publications but people I have spoken to who have had committees with the elders for sexual 'misconduct', if you will, have amazed me at the way the related how the elders want to go into so much detail. They want to know exactly what happened in great detail. And I don't tihnk it's up to men to tall married couples exactly what they can get up to in their private time together. Of course I am only talking consensual here, but that's the point. It's between the couple and them alone.