Posts by cindylouhou

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Judicial Committee Preparation

by Marvin Shilmer in

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judicial committee preparation.

recently a friend inquired about how to best prepare for a judicial committee hearing from the prospective of the subject individual.

at a minimum i recommend the following:.

cindylouhou

I have known decent people who have killed themselves due to the emotional trauma of being shunned by their own families and life-long friends.

Anyone who kills themself over being df'd has serious mental problems.

Well, anyone who kills themself for any reason obviously has some major screwed up brain matter.

Side point a little off topic: My grandmother committed suicide. And I pretty much have no affection for her at all. Suicide is selfish. My mother and aunt have never been the same. Who would do that to their own children? I can only forgive her remembering she was nutts.

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Calling all elders and former elders (need advice)

by nonamegiven in

wow, i'm asking elders for advice, how strange.

anyway if you want to know my history and where i am look at my first 1/2 dozen or so posts, it'll bring you up to speed.

here's where i need advice.

cindylouhou

I'm not talking about different levels of status within the congregation.

I am saying it doesn't matter if he is deisfellowshipped or reinstated if he has no desire to be at the meetings anyway.

If he is just doing it for his family the change in status means nothing. They know him better than anyone.

Get it?

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Judicial Committee Preparation

by Marvin Shilmer in

jw
friends

judicial committee preparation.

recently a friend inquired about how to best prepare for a judicial committee hearing from the prospective of the subject individual.

at a minimum i recommend the following:.

cindylouhou

This is just a silly post. Why on earth would you bother going to a judicial committee meeting with such a bad attitude?

Just write a letter and disassociate yourself if you feel that way. No sense in having any meeting.

For anyone who sincerely wants to know what to do in a judicial committee:

1) If you did in fact do something wrong, admit it, show that you are truly sorry, be humble, expect the worst punishment and hope and pray to god that they are merciful.

Are elders perfect? NO

Do they have some sort of power to ascertain the truth? NO

Could they disfellowship you by accident even when you really are repentent and have changed? Yep. they make mistakes. But it only takes about 6 months to get back, and chalk it up to a lesson learned.

2) If you are wrongfully accused of something. They need two witnesses. If they have two people lying ....oh you could be in trouble. Satan may have you on the run. But like I said its not the end of the world. Write a letter after you are disfellowshipped explaining why the elders are making their decision on incorrect information. If that doesn't work....do the 6 months and realize that we are just human and the elders thought they were making the right decision. Forgive and get back to the meetings. Satan is one sneaky guy. Oh how he can make a mess that seems like Jehovah is not with you. IF YOU HAVE TRIALS......BLAME SATAN....not imperfect humans who for the most part believe they are trying to do the right thing.

Think about this too...Why are all these wierd problems happening in our congregations. THAT IS WHERE SATAN IS WORKING THE HARDEST. Its all him!!!!! Don't let go of your faith please.

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How many JWs do you know do the turkey-thing (Thanksgiving) each year?

by cyberguy in

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its amazing how jws operate.

when i was an active jw in florida (usa), many jw families had a turkey dinner with friends and family on thanksgiving day!

in fact, a number of elders participated in these family get-togethers, they just happened to have a turkey dinner on the same day as the thanksgiving holiday (usa).

cindylouhou

There is nothing in the bible specifically prohibiting celebrating Thanksgiving. It is basically just another way the organization promotes being seperate from the world.

Turkey is good. MMMM...with gravy and mash potatoes.

Yeah it is cheap to buy that time of year and everyone has time off work/school so it gives familes/friends a chance to get together.

It would be silly to forbid gathering together on the holiday.

It would be silly to forbid eating turkey or pumpkin pie and other traditional Thanksgiving foods.

You know what, think for yourself. It it bothers you then dont eat the turkey.

If not then, who cares. And who cares what other people are doing.

There is alot more important things to be concerned with than what brother elder is eating for dinner on Thanksgiving.

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Calling all elders and former elders (need advice)

by nonamegiven in

wow, i'm asking elders for advice, how strange.

anyway if you want to know my history and where i am look at my first 1/2 dozen or so posts, it'll bring you up to speed.

here's where i need advice.

cindylouhou

What is the purpose of being reinstated then? If you are doing it to make things better in your family it won't work. It is simply a status. It doesn't mean anything. Now you have a green card instead of a red one. The card without anythign else has no meaning. And it will be evident to those around you if you have the right motives.

If I were you I would not bother with the effort. It just doesn't make sense because your family is going to know better than anyone what is your true spiritual state.

If you really love your family and want to be with them, spend some time reflecting on what is in their best interests.

Either way now or at Armagedon you will be separated from your family. And that is your choice.

Maybe your family is better off not having you drag them down?

If JW is the way to go....

Do you want to be a stumbling block between your family and their everlasting life?