Reniaa,
Disfellowshipping is one of the most hurtful actions that can be taken against
another human being. It tears families, friends apart! I did not see my son nor my grand
children for 15 years. I have 6 great-grandchildren I have never seen. My son died last
November and I did not hear about it until a week afterwards. We were not allowed to
be part of his memorial or to grieve with the family!
I saw the testimony of an elder who under oath said that 'disfellowshipping does not involve
family, it only involves the congregation'.
I sent it to my son, asking: "Is this a different policy than what the WT had before?" and he sent
me copies of the 1981 WT which says in effect: "have nothing to do with them". This is part
of that video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6iCzxajZxqs&feature=related I do not know where to find the original.
I know from personal experience that Witnesses will not associate with or communicate with those who are disfellowshipped.
I commend your attitude, but would venture to say that nothing you can say to those who are part of the WT hierarchy (GB, Elders, COs, DOs) will accomplish anything in changing their policies, esp. because you are a woman and they do not listen to women in the WT organization. I know from personal experience. I asked a question of an elder once regarding my understanding of a scripture and he told me to 'go home and ask your husband'. My husband was at the meeting with me at the time. I consider this extremely condescending and know that it happens often in the congregation. I wish you Jehovah's blessing and guidance in your walk.
Love and hugs,
Velta
