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  So Smart you become an idiot.

  by Sparkplug in

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  have you ever known people that are quite genius?

  they amaze you with the intelligence they have and yet in everyday life they just do not have the brainpower that god gave a goose.

  i married two of these type of people and i always had to wonder how things like the universe, god, science and quantum physics can be spoken with ease...and yet the simple things absolutely escape them.

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  J-ex-W

  Good post, J-ex-W.

  Which part? The descriptive part or the "Hi, My name is J-ex-W, and I'm an ADHD/ sleep deficit/ sugar addict?
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  I think I am loosing my mind.

  by reneeisorym in

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  let me share yesterday with you all.

  yes, a monday.

  i think i was only operating with half of a box of french fries.

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  J-ex-W

  Renee------ You just described " a day in the life of " for me!! Thank you for showing me that I'm not the only one.
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  So Smart you become an idiot.

  by Sparkplug in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  have you ever known people that are quite genius?

  they amaze you with the intelligence they have and yet in everyday life they just do not have the brainpower that god gave a goose.

  i married two of these type of people and i always had to wonder how things like the universe, god, science and quantum physics can be spoken with ease...and yet the simple things absolutely escape them.

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  J-ex-W

  Have you ever known people that are quite genius? They amaze you with the intelligence they have and yet in everyday life they just do not have the brainpower that god gave a goose.

  I married two of these type of people and I always had to wonder how things like the universe, God, science and quantum physics can be spoken with ease...and yet the simple things absolutely escape them.

  Actually, it's a myth that this a smart-person syndrome. It's more descriptive of a number of potential undiagnosed problems: ADD or ADHD, sleep disorder (delayed sleep phase syndrome, e.g.,--sleep deficit in general), problems with blood sugar regulation, a mood disorder (possibly mild), OCD, schizotypal disorder, an autistic spectrum disorder.... In other words, regardless of intelligence, people can have undiagnosed issues that affect everyday living and decision-making and follow through in a way that is maddening to the people around them (and even themselves, if they recognize it). It can be anywhere from mild to severe.

  And the more intelligent a person is, the later they are likely to be diagnosed--because they have been successful in employing creative coping skills up to now. [And the more frustrating it might be for loved ones who don't understand this, because they SEEM like they should be able to handle everyday, ordinary things...they certainly are intelligent enough.

  Personally, I'm one of those--late life diagnosis of ADHD, primarily inattentive type, which we are just now realizing may really be due to an underlying chronic (and very difficult to treat) sleep disorder (delayed sleep phase syndrome). I can take statistics and trigonometry and understand all of the concepts--I know what I'm supposed to be doing--but I can't balance my checkbook to save my life. I am a master at planning, coordinating, and organizing, but when my sleep or blood sugar is off-kilter, I can leave one appt. and forget where I'm supposed to go next...leave the room and forget what I was going after...etc., etc. It's a constant balancing act to stay on top of that--the sleep/ blood sugar AND the spaciness/ forgetfulness.

  I wasn't kidding on a different thread when I said a friend of mine nicknamed me something to do with my forgetfulness, but I can't remember what it is....

  Plus, I have a highly intelligent friend with bipoar disorder (tends to mania end, seems unusually 'uplifted' most of the time) who is so distractable and disorganized that I had to place a boundary on our friendship that says I will visit with him outside of his [mountain of a mess!!!] home and NOT try to go shopping with him again. I'm distractable enough on my own...I have a hard enough time keeping myself on track--I can't keep track of his tangents on top of my own! And yet, we can have the deepest discussions on a very abstract level.

  So...whomever it is you're noticing this about, watch and see if you notice any of these other things too. And just remember...dumb people can be ADD or bipolar too....
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  JW's "Genius" Brainwashing Technique - DID YOU FEEL THIS WAY?

  by Good Girl or Bad Girl? in

  1. watchtower
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  i'm sure i'm not having some great big ephinany that no one else thought of, but to me this is sorta big to realize:.

  so many people in both congregations i attended as a witness were soooooo depressed, severely, traumatizingly depressed, i would say.

  they would all comfort each other and say that satan was attacking them personally and their depression was proof of it, and that this was the "best place this side of paradise" they could be.

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  Good girl--------- GOOD CALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You hit the nail right on the head, and very succintly too.
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  I cant please everyone

  by Junction-Guy in

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  so i will do what brings pleasure to me.

  i have a long term plan that just came to me last night.

  i want to take the message that jw's are a child destroying, family wrecking cult to the public.

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  J-ex-W

  I hope you all wont hate me, but this is my personal way of exposing the dangerous WT Cult to the world.----------------Dave

  ...hate you? More power to you!!!
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  When we say "I'm proud of you" are we elevating ourselves above others?

  by Paisley in

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  i don't mean when we as parents tell our children we're proud of them for a certain accomplishment or approved behavior; but when one adult tells another adult "i'm proud of you for (doing this or that)", possibly implying that in our opinion the approved action should have been done sooner, are we elevating ourselves above them?

  could it even be a left-handed compliment?

  as in "im proud that you've stopped beating your wife.

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  J-ex-W

  JWdaughter, I agree with your response wholeheartedly.
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  When we say "I'm proud of you" are we elevating ourselves above others?

  by Paisley in

  1. jw
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  i don't mean when we as parents tell our children we're proud of them for a certain accomplishment or approved behavior; but when one adult tells another adult "i'm proud of you for (doing this or that)", possibly implying that in our opinion the approved action should have been done sooner, are we elevating ourselves above them?

  could it even be a left-handed compliment?

  as in "im proud that you've stopped beating your wife.

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  Another aspect of this is when people say they are proud of themselves for what they consider some little accomplishment. Seems to me if there were anything to be proud of, someone else would tell them they've done a good job.

  Anyway, it always seems a little sad when people do that. What do you think?

  It's good and healthy to be proud of your own good accomplishments and to express that fact. We deserve to acknowledge the good in ourselves and appreciate our own strengths, talents, accomplishments, etc.

  If someone CAN'T do that, it indicates a problem: Low self-esteem and/ or a hyper-critical eye to self and/ or others. Also, if were unable to do it for ourselves, then no matter how great or grand our achievements may be, some people--because of being ensconced in abusive environments--would never hear that praise. Now how sad is THAT!
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  When we say "I'm proud of you" are we elevating ourselves above others?

  by Paisley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i don't mean when we as parents tell our children we're proud of them for a certain accomplishment or approved behavior; but when one adult tells another adult "i'm proud of you for (doing this or that)", possibly implying that in our opinion the approved action should have been done sooner, are we elevating ourselves above them?

  could it even be a left-handed compliment?

  as in "im proud that you've stopped beating your wife.

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  J-ex-W

  To me, saying, "I'm proud of you" is an expression of joy and increased esteem for the person/ person's action. It can be, I'm proud of you for getting over your fear. I'm proud of you for doing a good job at something or making a good effort toward it. I'm proud of you for doing the hard work it takes to take a look at yourself...so many people find this so difficult, and yet you did it..... All kinds of things.

  It says I really respect and see great value in the action you took. Nothing about it at all says "I consider myself above you." ...Unless what you really mean is not 'I'm proud' but instead, 'It's about time.' Now, that's a different attitude and a different matter!
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  Prince Still a Jehovahs Witness ??

  by mah319 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  hi everyone, i have only posted here a few times.

  i come here once in a while to see whats going on.

  anyways, i was was wondering if prince was still a jehovahs witness.

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  J-ex-W

  He had no obligation to throw a party and if he is a JW I doubt he would have felt it worth taking the risk.

  For Prince this party would not be just a social event. It is a business-promoting marketing event (strategy). [music/ entertainment industry!] Ninety percent or more of the people invited would be potential future business partners or people who could refer him to other people. Establishing a presence for himself where fame and connections can rub off. I have a friend who's a pharmaceutical sales rep for Pfizer, and he and some other friends of his [with a marketing degree] all agree that 'wining and dining them' is the way to drum up more (as in bigger number) business connections. He moved out to Vegas with Pfizer and within a few months was number 2 sales guy in his area. [doesn't have to be parties...just relaxed, informal elbow-rubbing]

  The elders could, I'm sure, be persuaded to accept this kind of thing as a necessary 'evil' to industry Prince is in and, therefore, excuse it.
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  Do you tend to think that many things "go without saying"? I do...

  by Paisley in

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  after an eye-opening conversation with an old acquaintance yesterday, someone i don't know well but thought i had some clue about .

  we've all heard it said "i'm not a mind reader you know, speak up!

  i didn't know you felt that way.

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  I say, Say something. Communication is the lube that makes for less friction. He could also feel 'it goes without saying' that if you were bothered...you would SAY something. Just MHO.