Perhaps every wife who has experienced sex abuse by her husband and received patent non-support from the JW elders and other higher-ups should email the author's address (at the bottom of the article) and request a secondary article be written addressing the same crime on behalf of sexually abused wives. He makes passing reference to the rape of adult women here, but it's a subject that, like pedophilia, deserves to be presented front and center for all to contemplate and see. Email the author your stories, people--any adult wife or girlfriend who HAS been abused in this way or KNOWS SOMEONE who has been (or is being) abused in this way.
Posts by J-ex-W
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8NewsColumnist: Putting the Stop to RSM (Religiously Sanctioned Molestation)
by AndersonsInfo inputting the stop to rsm.
(religiously sanctioned molestation): .
how churches, police, grand juries, and judges can work together.. .
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Too tired to argue
by hambeak ini am just too tired to argue anymore.
my sons funeral was a few days ago and i am the pariah.
i just want to give up.
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J-ex-W
Too tired for now...but DON'T GIVE UP!!! Support and love and understanding is here, as you know, which is why you posted on this forum. I am so sorry to hear about your son. You certainly don't need to feel that extra pressure from the JW crap during your grieving process!!! Please, please, please immerse yourself in the messages of love and support on this board and from other ones in your life who RECOGNIZE your tremendous value and treat you accordingly. Much love and long, comforting embraces to you! Stick it out.... You deserve much better. Hold out for better.
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I just emailed the Dr. Phil show
by J-ex-W ini just emailed the dr. phil show with significant aspects of my story--not just the jw stuff but with being a large part of the complicated picture and said i would be willing to air my issues on their show.
the hidden horrors of marital sex abuse and of sleep-rape, specifically, must be exposed to the general public.
too many believe that it's not even possible to rape a sleeping woman...and they are soooo wrong, as my firsthand experience attests!!!
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I did it! I just emailed the Dr. Phil Show with significant aspects of my story--not just the JW stuff but with being a large part of the complicated picture and said I would be willing to air my issues on their show. The hidden horrors of marital sex abuse and of sleep-rape, specifically, must be EXPOSED to the general public. Too many believe that it's not even POSSIBLE to rape a sleeping woman...and they are SOOOO WRONG, as my firsthand experience attests!!! There are issues within issues that need to be addressed here. I responded to their upcoming show topic of, Do you need help resolving an ethical dilemma? I told them I need help resolving SEVERAL--all of them intertwined (and all of them significantly impacted by the JW influence in my life and over the lives of my family).
Does anyone else want to speak about anything, on that same episode, perhaps, should the show call me? I'm thinking of JW cover-up related stuff (sex abuse, especially, by not only pedophiles but by JW husbands of their wives--or of JW wives by their worldly husbands) and of the significant efforts of NON-help made my the JW elders when approached with requests for legitimate help. ANYONE who would even contemplate lending their face/ voice to this forum on the Dr. Phil Show, please respond to this thread here. I'm tired of protecting everyone else at my own expense. I need some kind of justice, if only of the kind which says, That which is covered will be made uncovered. [paraphrasing] And, certainly--anyone who wants to--feel free to write your own story to the Dr. Phil Show to expose the evils that thrive under WTBS cover. (If you do, it would be nice if you'd say so here, so others can be encouraged by your courage.)
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Sent my Disassociation Letter
by love2Bworldly inwell i sent my letter of disassociation to my relative's kh.
i got really burned out on her nuttiness so for my own sanity and emotional/mental health i had to do it.. i feel very sad because i know i hurt this person by some of the things i said in the letter; i cc'd the letter to several people in my family who have also been hurt by her nuttiness.
i wrote the letter and mailed it in a bad frame of mind.
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Juni-- Your description of events is dead on. Especially how the congregation members treat those they view as spiritually weak: It's entirely dependent on how self-righteous they are. Only some very few are genuinely glad enough to express it when they see a weak one making the effort to attend meetings and struggling to apply the 'principles.' So many are, instead, caught up on the outward manifestations of applying the 'rules'--the unwritten ones being most important. [and most unattainable]
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SEX CRAZED ELDER CAN'T CONTROL
by DannyHaszard inthis is again top ranked news for jw keywords worldwide.
ex-elder can't control sex urges.
"he masturbates and fantasizes, so of course, he'd touch a girl.
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What that article about lacking impulse control...and being since he was molested at age 6...
My ex-husband told me that he was, not molested , but exposed to pornography around that age (or so) by his older brother, who was exposed to it at age 11 by an adult farmer neighbor. They were a large family [eleven kids!] living on an isolated rural farm property in North Dakota at the time, and the children's emotional/ social/ educational welfare was being neglected-- in favor of 'spiritual pursuits'--by both ELDER dad and PIONEER mom. The children wereleft to their own devices far too much of the time, and since the oldest was exposed [mindset infected, I'll say] in this manner, the 'infection'--of sexual perversion and abusive behavior--spread in like manner, down through the five boys who were first and then onto the four sisters that followed. [The two boys on the tail end, I suspect, got the least of the wrong stuff through the family, though I don't know that for sure.]
My point is, my ex- said he remembers being 11 years old and humping a snow bump. He had already been exposed to magazines and physical abuse and witnessing/ hearing about his oldest brother sexually abusing girls from the farm next door to them. [Don't know if it's the girls and the adult guy farmer are from the same farm.] My ex- is # 4 in his family, and he has told me that # 5 in his family was forced (at around age 5) to watch an older, early teen adolescent girl take off her shirt, at the orders of the eldest brother. From what my ex remembers, his younger brother was crying. Neither he nor the girl wanted to participate; neither knew how to stop the situation.
He also said he remembers being around 8 yrs. old and being talked into bringing a ladder and holding it for his oldest brother under the same girl's bedroom window. He thought it was great fun and was enjoying having his older brother's good graces shine upon him for once. He said he remembers hearing the girl screaming. He started to break down at this point in telling me--like I'd never seen him do, and haven't seen from him since. He refused to finish the story and left my apartment instead. What he did say, right before covering his mouth and starting to really cry, was, "I think he raped her. He only pretended to like me so I could help him rape her." He seemed horrified at this new understanding of events...a 21-year-old's understanding as opposed to the previous 8-year-old's. [We were dating at the time he shared these things with me.]
The whole thing was a triple shock for him: The recognition that the screaming most likely was for rape, or attempted rape... and that he had been hoodwinked into being an accomplice...and that it was duplicitous evil carried out by his own brother. This had actually been one of the few positive memories he had of his oldest brother, up to this time, till he was able to recognize this!
Anyway, like the elder in this story, early exposure to mentally poisonous sexual messages infected my ex-husband's brain so that he went on to molest at least two of his sisters, for sure--AND TO MOLEST, SEXUALLY HARRASS, AND OUTRIGHT RAPE ME, both when I was his girlfriend and when I was his wife!!!
These sex abusers start out abused themselves, first, it's true---but they keep on spreading it and spreading it unless or until someone finally puts the screws to them hard enough to make them STOP [and, even then, they stop only for a time!]. My ex-husband is still in " good standing" in the congregations because of the 'two witness' rule, with no one knowing of the crap he has pulled, because such things are kept quiet--while I sit on the outs for having had CONSENSUAL sex with someone else a year after the divorce was finalized!!! [That qualifies as me having committed 'adultery,' BTW--not just as premarital sex, but as marital adultery!!--because the divorce itself was not due to adultery. That meant that, supposedly, we were still married in GOD'S eyes and not free to marry another person. The only options would be to get back together--and stay together--with my extremely abusive ex-, or to stay separated, or legally divorced, but UNMARRIED, NOT DATING, AND ABSOLUTELY CELIBATE for the rest of my life, or until he found himself another victim and freed me through his own posti-divorce "adultery."
WHAT A ---- SCREWED-UP ---- IGNORANT ---- SPIRITUALLY DEFUNCT ---- SEX ABUSE - PROLIFERATING SYSTEM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
>WHOO! < Sorry...had to get all that out there. Ya know, it feels better to know that, at least SOMEWHERE, this stuff can get heard and, hopefully, do someone else some good........It certainly doesn't get heard and attended to in the congregations. Hope y'll are having a nice day.
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I Don't Believe in God, or wait, Maybe I Do. . . a little wisdom please?
by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit ini am conflicted as to whether i can or even want to believe in god.
(using capital g out of respect) i can't separate love of god and my jw life.
i pioneered for 10+ years, and thank goodness for that, because i can now easily memorize anything and read upside down.
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For those of you questioning what the 'borg' reference is all about, it's from the old 1980's "Star Trek: The Next Generation" TVseries and subsequent big screen movies. The BORG was a group of (I think) half-man/ half-androids who were connected telepathically and literally shared "one thought, one mind" and were obssessive in fulfilling that one purpose. Calling the organization 'borg' refers to the extreme to which the JW's as a group tend to apply that scriptural admonition to be of "one mind, one line of thought." [Sorry for not citing the scripture--don't have my Bible next to me; too lazy to get up...bad JW!]
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Which meeting goes first ?
by 5go inif the gb.
me the school because it would allow more time for brow beating in the service meeitng wihch would be one hour.
then no one would complain about thier kids being up way past thier bed time on school nights..
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NONE! We need all five. Which of your hand's five fingers would you cut off?
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Did You Ever REALLY Love "Jehovah God"?
by minimus inlooking back, honestly, do you think you ever really loved jehovah??
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J-ex-W
Minimus-- Would you mind elaborating? What do you mean about having mixed emotions? Mixed emotions telling you what?
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Did You Ever REALLY Love "Jehovah God"?
by minimus inlooking back, honestly, do you think you ever really loved jehovah??
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CORRECTION:
I'm NOT letting them take away my faith in a creator. [I omitted the word 'not' last time.] Oops!
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Did You Ever REALLY Love "Jehovah God"?
by minimus inlooking back, honestly, do you think you ever really loved jehovah??
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Absolutely. Still do pray to him for encouragement and boldness, but this time in support of a life well lived, a life that demonstrates appreciation by experiencing joyfully the whole world full of people and things he has provided for our enjoyment...by appreciating the variety and beauty among humankind just as much as among foliage.
I guess what I'm saying is, I'm letting the Borg take away my faith in a wonderful creator--however we may understand him/ it/ whatever--even if they have built up and then destroyed my faith in the GB, etc. I still look around and think, there must be a reason we are here, and there must be something/ someone behind it all. I may not presently know, or ever know, what that something is...but I can believe it is for a good reason, a worthwhile one, a try to live my life in like manner.
Absolutely, I've loved Jehovah...my creator...our creator.... Absolutely, I still do. Whatever falsehoods man may have built up around the origins of our existence--it doesn't change those origins. I appreciate, prodigiously, the fact that I'm here!