There are very dear people on this forum, and they can become friends, but online friendships are limited. You need face-to-face contact with people near you. I agree with the other advice on this thread: join a club, volunteer somewhere, find something you like to do and join some group that does that. I've made friends through knitting, amazingly enough, and I made several friends by volunteering at the local community garden. Get out of your house and get involved in some activity. Try a walking club, go to school and learn a skill, even -- gasp -- go to a local church to meet people. Just make it some really innocuous religion like episcopalians.
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Need Real Friends
by FlierMate ini have been to various mental health message board for years.
however, i cannot find any real friends there.. since my disassociation from the jw, i have no group which i belong to.
i have tried even multilevel marketing scheme in order to make new friends but unsuccessful.. .
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REACTION from my neck of the woods...
by problemaddict inas some of you may know i am in the midst of a fade, working on the family coming along (new thread to update there).
most mf my close friends are still jw's to varying degrees.
i would say most are couples that are around our age (25-35), and they attend maybe 90% of the meetings, go in service on sat, pioneer in april, and have a couple bible studies etc... in general the good kind.
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I think the crazies are multiplying. I blame Obama somehow.
haha!!!
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When Real Life Becomes Fiction
by TD inthis is a spin-off from the argo thread.. who here has read the 'little house' books by laura ingalls wilder?
were you disappointed when you realized how much could not possibly have happened the way it was told?.
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People don't seem to realize that Laura Ingalls Wilder was a novelist, not a historian. It's fun that you can read her books as fiction and then read some of the many books that tell about her actual life. Her daughter, Rose Wilder Lane, was interesting, too, and the struggle between Rose Lane and her parents was interesting. Rose Lane was a reporter who traveled all over and was quite famous in her own right, but she was always somewhat jealous of her mother's success as a writer. Lane's fiction is very much a copy of stories her mother told, a pity because Lane was a decent non-fiction writer.
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Things are about to get interesting....
by msconcerned inup until now people have just looked at me in a wierd way after i have shown them some bible verses and asked "what does that mean".
i have just resigned as an ms, so i expect things to be a little bumpy from here.
i have such mixed emotions right now, many years in the truth and now the doubts im having are messing up my head.
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doubts are a good thing. They make you think and ask questions. I'm glad the forum helps -- keep in touch.
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People who actually practice detachment seem to be really annoying to those who don't.
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Hi Coco!
I think I would have made a good judge, too. I can see and understand many sides of an argument, and I am pretty good at seeing what is important and what isn't, what the real issues are.
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People who actually practice detachment seem to be really annoying to those who don't.
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I guess I'm just ranting.
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People who actually practice detachment seem to be really annoying to those who don't.
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gosh, I haven't heard that song in years!
Am I using the word detached correctly? I can't get involved in their emotion, take sides in their dramas, or make rules for other people. Yet, when they aren't in control mode, they are interesting people and quite fun to be around. Why do humans always want to make rules for other people?
I think a lot about what community means. To me it means that we don't run our lives as if no one else counts. We accept some rules, and compromise sometimes, because it's better for the group, but we're individuals and as long as we're not harming anyone, we run our own lives. Having a group activity or goal shouldn't mean that we have to walk in lockstep formation.
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Cherish Your Doubts
by TotallyADD inreopened mind and i came across this reading today and i would like to share it with all of you.
for me it was really eye opening and i hope this will help many here to understand why we take this stand against the wt.. cherish your doubts.
cherish your doubts, for doubt is the attendant of truth.. doubt is the key to the door of knowledge; it is the servant of discovery.. a belief which may not be questioned binds us to error, for there is incompleteness and imperfection in every belief.. doubt is the touchstone of truth; it is an acid which eats away the false.. let no one fear for the truth, that doubt may consume it; for doubt is a testing of belief.. the truth stands boldly and unafraid; it is not shaken by the testing.. for truth, if it be truth, arises from each testing stronger, more secure.. those that would silence doubt are filled with fear; their houses are built on shifting sands.. but those who fear not doubt, and know its use, are founded on rock.. they shall walk in the light of growing knowledge; the work of their hands shall endure.. therefore let us not fear doubt, but let us rejoice in its help.. it is to the wise as a staff to the blind; doubt is the attendant of truth.. robert t. weston.
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One of my little old neighbors said recently that it isn't enough to question authority. She said you have to challenge authority, demand answers.
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People who actually practice detachment seem to be really annoying to those who don't.
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People around me seem to think detachment means uncaring. I think I'm minding my own business and letting people get on with their business without my interference. My sister definitely thinks my detachment means I'm uncaring.
I find life is a lot easier if I don't try to control other people, if I expect them to pull their weight but don't expect them to please me. I don't care about a lot of stuff, including possessions. Well, maybe I care about my computer to the extent that I would stab you with a fork if you try to take it.
All these folks seem to have an agenda, and they push push push to get other people in line with their agendas. I do have to say, watching it all develop is interesting, but I'm kind of tired of being considered uncaring because I'm not a control freak.
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Well, partly it's a drama playing out in the community garden. I don't really care what other people plant, or whether they pull weeds, or when they plant. I just play around with my own plot and mind my own business. The ones who are obsessed with controlling other people push and push and push to get me on their side. I just keep saying I don't really care what other people do. They are starting to feel very frustrated with me. What can I do? I really don't care. Live and let live. They keep saying I need to "contribute," which means take their side in the drama. I do contribute -- I keep my garden up, I volunteer to take care of the compost pile, I chip in when cash is needed for something. I just don't want to control anyone else. I think that as we're all adults, the fewer rules the better. We know how to behave.
My sister gets frustrated with me too. I don't get involved in family drama. They're all adults, they can figure out how they want to live without my input. Free will means having the right to make the wrong decision. Unless it affects me, I can't get worked up about it.