Welcome to the forum Blueday,
I married an unbeliever many many years ago when i was still a very active JW, yes i was counseled by the elders about having an unbelieving partner and how hard it will be and that by the scriptures that you shouldn't be unevenly yolked and all that goes with it. He supported me in what ever way and it was great he let me do what i felt within the JW and i eventually left on my own free will and have felt so much better for it. We decided that when we have children that they were not going to be brought up as JW but will know about them and when they were old enough to decide which religion they chose was fine with us. We also celebrate all holidays. It will be a hard long struggle if he is truely into the JW. All i can suggest is for you to just be supportive in what he does as in time he will decide what he wants to do. Have a deep and meaningful talk with him and find out what he wants over the next 5 years and does this fit in your plan as well talk about the future what about children how will you both bring them up, will they celebrate the holidays or will he be a bystander and let you and the kids celebrate? Helen
helncon
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My boyfriend is a JW and we want to get married but I want him to get OUT
by blueday ini'm am so heart broken to see my boyfriend with so many internal strugles.
he is a good man, a good god fearing man and this is why it has been so difficult for him to leave the jw's religion.
we love each other so much and we want to be married but he fears the consequences of marring somebody who is not a jw.
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Congratulations to the newly weds!
by Crumpet inplease join me in toasting our two friends, dedpoet and fullofdoubtnow who have just exchanged vows.
linda and trevor - we love you so much and know that your happiness will join you together for so many years to come.. congratulations!.
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helncon
To Trev and Linda,
May all your happiness last a life time
Helen
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helncon
Congratulations Abandoned.
I hope your feeling better for it.
Keep on going
Helen
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helncon
Hi Winnie,
I live in NSW but sadly a long way from where you are.
I'm up near Armidale/ Tamworth area.
Helen
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On a (minor) downer
by Fe2O3Girl inand it is all vicarious, but boo hoo.. i had a phone call first thing this morning from a good friend i used to work with, to tell me that one of our old colleagues had collapsed and died at work yesterday.
it wasn't someone i was close to, he was a quiet bloke, but nice, with a great dry humour.
and he was only in his forties.. so i ring another lady we used to work with to let her know the sad news, and she tells me her husband has pancreatic cancer and secondary liver cancer.
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helncon
(((((((((fe203girl)))))))
Hope your day gets better
Helen
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My little brother
by PaulJ inwoo!
anyway, a crazy thing happened yesterday.
my little brother came online and we chatted.
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helncon
Hi Paul
Now he is back in contact I dont know quite how to behave. I dont want to offend him or I prob wont hear from him again.
I had the same problem last year my brother stopped talking to me a few years ago and out of the blue he rang me up and asked for some help with our mums new house.
At the moment we really only speak if he rings up and make the effort so basically i have left it up to him and his wife to make any contact.
So my advice well its really up to you if you want more contact but just don't talk about the JW but one day he may come around and realise that his is missing his big brother.
Helen
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Do you still or ever did confess your sins to God?
by JH inok, where do i start?
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forgive me god for posting on this forum.... there, i already feel better .
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helncon
I never confessed any sin when i was an JW or when i was out and i'd say i will never confess.Even though i may have committed JW sins when i was one. Never really worried about it nor felt guilty.
I look at it this way everything i have done i don't regard as a sin but just way of finding out how things are and how they work.
Helen
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Really Bad Day Today!
by winnie ini woke up to my kids all sick, a letter in the mailbox (put there sneakily sometime early this morning) saying that we should 'return to serve jehovah and become one of the family again' (cannot understand the association of meeting attendance = being part of a family.
family is family no matter what they choose to believe.
) and to top it all off, our 10 year old dog who has been really sick past week, had to be put down a couple of hours ago.
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helncon
(((((((((((winnie))))))))))))))))))))
I hope your day gets better
Helen
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Do you recall your "point of no return"?
by JH inwas there something special that happened, an event or maybe a deception, that triggered your point of no return as a jw.. .
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helncon
I really can't remember my point of no return i think it had to do with various of events that had happened.
I had lead a double life for most of my high school years and got worse when i was able to drive.
Thinking back i could never understand why they would treat DF people the way they did and that i knew from personal experience that the JW were never there when you needed them it was family.
The way they had treated my dad and uncles over the years also annoyed me.
I had enough of all the gossip within the cong about me and another brother who happened to be a close friend to one of my brothers and we all would go out sometimes all innocent but in their eyes we was being chaperoned. And what made it worse he lived accross the road from us.
In the end i just moved to another area and faded.
I was reading another post by gordy and i realised that when i got DF was that time they were seeking out inactive ones lucky me i was doing wrong so hence the DF after 6 years go figure.
Helen
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A Big Warm Hearted Thanks!
by bigwilly into those here that mad me feel welcome upon my recent return, i feel a bit like the prodigal son (poor analogy).. after making this my first board over a year ago, i have meandered the exdub cyber community and made many good friends as well as meeting some truly amazing people.
i feel i've established myself amongst the discussion boards and earned a reputation of sorts (hopefully positive).
i have always checked in here, tho sporatically, and recent board politics and accessability have led me back here.
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helncon
Hey BW,
Well it was a supprise to chat with you the other night after a long time not chatting with you and i was upset that i had to go, but hey plenty more chats to come.I hope
It has been a great pleasure in meeting you and that we see you more on JWD.
Keep on rockin'
Helen