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  Philosophy of ambiguity

  by helncon in

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  1. don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things.2.

  one tequila, two tequila, three tequila, floor..... 3. atheism is a non-prophet organization.. 4. if man evolved from monkeys and apes, why do we still have monkeys and apes?.

  5. the main reason santa is so jolly is because he knows where all the bad girls live.. 6. i went to a bookstore and asked the saleswoman, "where's the self-help section?

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  Happy Easter

  by helncon in

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  just don't get egged.

  http://egg.d21c.com/egg.swf.

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  Is it just because i was raised a JW?

  by helncon in

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  yesterday (sunday) we went to our daughters church for family service as they have these at the end of each term for the kids club (sunday school) and if you don't know about my beliefs that i don't have any and i am one not wanting to have anything to do with any religion.. anyway there are a few things that caught my attention during this service as i normally tune out but they were talking about how jesus was telling a parragul (sp?

  ) about sowing the seeds and then it all came flooding back of the memories about how the jw used this, and you know it was strange as this church was saying things almost identical to what the jw would say.. this is not what i was wanting to mention but i thought this was interesting.. so after all the service they have a morning tea for everyone afterward and i got talking to the minister/father/pastor (don't know what the head person called) wife and the subject come about christmas and i told her that this was not as important as when jesus died and that he wasn't even born on 25th december she was taken back that he was not born on this day as i told her he was born earlier in the year and i explained how this is the reason, she was gob smacked!.

  i thought this was common knowledge so i wonder if she will go back to her husband and ask questions if this is true.. so i ask the question is it common knowledge that jesus was not born on this day and it is a pagan holiday or is it a jw thing.

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  The date has now been set i now will have a step mum :(

  by helncon in

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  well where do i start as of the 21st of april 2007 i will have a step mum 2 step sisters and a step brother, and i think even a few step neices and nephews.. i will only ever see them officially on this wonderful happy one day that my dad gets married.

  oh great joy !

  other than this time i will never have anything to do with them.. now when i got the phone call to say that this wonderful event was happening it came to me that after the words that my dad had spoken to me only last week stating that he had been told by the elders that his is to limit his contact with his df children or he will be facing df himself.. when i go to this wedding i will be saying congrats to my dad and i will be sitting in the front row and will have lots to do with him as i'd say this will be last time i will ever have contact with him.

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  Has anyone or know of anyone that has had a TOF?

  by helncon in

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  2. medical

  when i was born i had a tof (trachea oesophageal fistula laymans terms the oesophagus doesn't join to the stomache and needs to be rejoined commonly it attaches to the lung.

  ) done when i was 12 hours old.. just wondering if anyone else out there ever had one or know of a family member or a friend that had the same condition.. i was thinking about starting up a network of people with this condition as it is only in recent years that those who survived at my age now are becoming parents and was hoping to get some feedback about any fears you may have had or any other complications that you may have had since having this done.. i have been lucky with no complication since i was born though i do still get the tof cough, and i also have 2 very healthy children.. i suppose this is why i stayed with the jw as i always thought it was a miracle that i was saved and that all the cong had prayed for me to get better.

  but then i thought later in life that it was the doctors that saved me not the jw and that they didn't really even help my parents in this distraught time.. you can email me at [email protected].

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  Update... Re my dad scriptual divorce

  by helncon in

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  2. friends

  well i thought i better give an update of some events that have happened over the last few weeks with to a post that i put her about how to get a scriptual divoce on no grounds.. was i in for a wide awakening i had a father daughter chat with my dad and it seems that back in july/august last year he was slightly a naughty boy and was 'privately reproved' and that he only just told me on a visit just a few weeks ago.

  well was i shocked that this had happen and that if he had told me earlier i think i would have been able to get my head around alot of things a bit easier.. so now i know how he got a scriptual divorce.. anyway this solved one of the mysteries that i had, but then it opened a huge problem that my so called witness brother put an allegation to the elders that he was dating someone before he was legally divorced and that they wanted the ins and outs of why he was privately reproved and that it should have been made public if not df (even though they very rarely attend meetings and that they are in complete different congs).

  so then my dad had to face the elders in his cong and now what suppose to have been a smooth transition has now been a big delemia to the point of his fiancee is ready to walk away and that they even have had to postpone the wedding till when, no one knows.. even i can't believe that all this is happening.

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  why do............

  by helncon in

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  elders have to know everything and i mean everything !!!!!!.

  you know this morning i got woken by my dad and apparently he got hauled into an elders meeting last night and was told that he has to put his wedding on hold (see previous post) because my so called active brother sat down and had a chat with them and told them that my dad owed my mum money ( which is getting sorted out anyway damn solicitor taking their time) and i thought the whole idea of my brother and his wife were to have a chat about their marriage, anyway they also brought up how my dad is getting married so quickly and how did he get a scriptual divorce ( which no one know's how he got one).. i even rang my mum ( i was very upset by this time) and said my mind on that my dad deserves to have a life and that even though my brother doesn't have much contact with him he should leave him alone even if he doesn't agree with what he is doing .

  he left us ( me and my brother) alone when we made our choices so why can't they leave him alone.. so why do the elder have to know about my dads personal life(as he has done nothing wrong) when there are more than others who ned help..... you know, now i know why i left so much crap that goes on that is really needless they don't need to know everything.... or do they?.

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  Have you ever.........

  by helncon in

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  found that music has helped with you getting over being a jw like a song or even a few lines out of a song that just says exactly how you feel.. i know that over the years i have used music as an away of escaping sometimes just from everyday life.

  untill a few years ago i found the right song for gettting over the pain and i just summed it all up.. you want to kow what it is?.

  well i have always liked metal/grunge even when i was a jw i hid it though and a few years ago i stumbled accross this band and one of their songs just hit home with me!.

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  How to get a scriptual divorce?

  by helncon in

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  just wondering on how it is possible to get a scriptual divorce as my dad needs to get one but as much research done i can't see how he can get one but he says he has spoken to some elders and that they have said it can be granted but on what grounds?.

  i know if you have committed adultery and extreme cases disertion but other that these is there any way else.. you see my mum basically up and left my dad and they have reconciled once but now its definately over and have a legal divorce, so would disertion come under this catorgory?

  also my mum has battled mental illness(mainly major depression) for as long as i can remember can he do it on the grounds of mental capacity?.

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  What would you do in my situation?

  by helncon in

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  hi, im new here but have been looking at lots of web sites for exjw's and i can't seem to get any answer in what im looking for.. i have a bit of a delemia i am df and my dad (jw) is getting remarried to a jw in march and i am wanting to go but the thing is i haven't been to a kh for a very long time and where they are getting married is the one that i grew up in and for this not sure where i am to sit.

  do i have the right to sit in the front row or do i have to treat it like a normal meeting?.

  can anyone shed any light on this?.

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