Hey Mavie, I just had this happen myself, though at least my mom took the time to write me that I was living in a "cesspit" and risking "my precious little boy's life" and a bunch of other crap. I wrote her a letter back that said thanks for the concern, I'm happier than I've ever been, and oh, by the way, if you send me another letter like that, all your letters to me will be marked "RETURN TO SENDER."
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I got the 'prodigal son' treatment from my parents last night
by mavie inyep, i opened a letter and received a highlighted 5 page print out from the watchtower library cd.
i find it somewhat insulting they think i'm lost and wasting my life.
i'm curious to see how others have responded to this kind of treatment..
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Hi - I'm new here too
by dazednotconfused in30 of my 40 some years on this mortal coil have been spent as a witness.
once i was old enough to realize the meetings were not a place to play and run around i understood the gravity of my situation.
"just love jehovah and do his will" i was told.
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Welcome to the boards, DnC! This really is a great place to recover your self, your dignity, your identity. I'm pretty new myself, thought it'll be a year this coming Memorial since I set foot in a Kingdom Hall. This community is very supportive. They've seen it all, experienced it all and there is always someone who understands what you're going through. I know what you mean about the family - my mom just wrote me a letter bewailing how "short the time is." Like that's something we haven't all heard over and over and over again. Still waiting.... Anyhow, welcome and check it all out, if you're like me, you'll be spending HOURS here, lol!
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Today Is My Point of No Return - Or Is It?
by TheMan inalmost every night, i would get a phone call from my book study overseer, asking how i was, where i was.
whereas witnesses, when they experience hard times, stop going to meetings?
of course, my wife and i want to leave the witnesses, and i don't want to offend anyone in the process.
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IsaacJ says: Just remember one thing: when they bust their butts to make you feel bad or guilty, they are doing it for themselves. Not for you. They will swear it is for your beneift, but they are fooling themselves. It's all about them and their need to force you to believe. That, and that they're probably jealous as hell that you're out and they're still trapped! *snicker*
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Were YOU a JW Who Was Always Afraid, Depressed or Ill?
by minimus inwhile i was an elder (in 2 congregations), over the years, i saw most witnesses that suffered from s o m e t h i n g.. either a witness had chronic depression, mysterious ailments that were never clearly diagnosed by a doctor, or were in fear.
afraid to offend another brother's conscience.,afraid to upset the elders.
afraid to grieve the holy spirit.
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Absolutely - I suffered from migraines, depression, I was sick to my stomach from guilt because I could NEVER live up to what was expected, even when I was a regular pioneer with studies and preparing for meetings, doing all the readings, everything. I never felt like I was good enough.
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The Sunday Thread!
by Crumpet ini just spent a helluva a long morning in bed even though i was awake early, then did some yoga before breakfast and a piping hot shower.
now i feel like i still have a whole fabulous day to enjoy doing exactly what i want.. in my other life i used to dread sundays.
i would read my book to take my mind off the imminent boredom right up until we got to the hall doors and then 2 hours of monotony would follow - the sickening nerves of making myself answer up, often choking mid sentence because i was so nervous, but worse was to come.
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Then: Sleep as late as you could, harangue kid into getting dressed while you struggle into meeting clothes, try and find magazine, bible and songbook and search futilely for something acceptable to keep six year old with ADHD busy during mindnumbing meeting. Arrive and make tedious "happy shiny" smalltalk with the other drones, grab child as he races by causing dirty looks from old biddies, sit in uncomfortable seats listening to some old blowhard for 45 mins and then through another 45 mins of the craptower, checking watch repeatedly sure you're stuck in some temporal loop while your child goes nuts. Escape, errr, leave the hall as quickly as you can to go home and get out of clothes and turn child loose. Now: Sleep late. Get up and wander around in comfy chenille bathrobe sipping coffee and feeling rested. Read newspaper and visit with small person, also in comfy pjs. Load up schoolbooks and laptop and head to the coffeehouse to do schoolwork and sip coffee. Oh yeah, MUCH better.
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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*SNORT* Wish I could say I'm surprised but I can't. Stupid gits! And they'll expect you to be GRATEFUL for them humiliating you, too, ya know!
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My Bethel Esperience Part 19
by new boy inbesides almost getting mugged a couple of times.
the closest, i came to getting hurt while at bethel was in the summer in 1972, at the allentown pa district convention.
i think its name was "the divine endurance" .
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That's just horrifying. Thanks for sharing your stories, new boy...
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Get A Load Of This Anti Watchtower Site!
by minimus ina preview of what's coming in january is on this link, it sounds scary to me!!!!
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http://www.sixscreensofthewatchtower.com/.
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ROFLMAO Nathan Natas!!! "And every eye shall see the website..." NOT *snicker*
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I found these, I still get a laugh out of them
by Mastodon in.
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and the blank one so you guys can create your own!
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ROFLMAO!!! I LOVE the Armageddon is coming - LOOK BUSY!!!
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WoW I got the new campaign tract it sucks.
by 5go init's an overglorifed memorial invitation.
it's only one page it looks like someone made it at home.
they handed them out at the service meeting.
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Hmmm, Having been an elder for 15 years, that up till last Auguest, I never heard of not counting the DF'ed for any meeting. They are not allowed to attend meetings in private homes but ehy have always been counted. The practic that our CO advised us was to make our annual invite to return to the meetings just before the memorial, so that they would be there too.