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  Would You See A Therapist or Doctor To Help You Get Out of JWs???

  by minimus in

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  there are a number of people that have been "out" of the organization for years yet they almost seem to live for the "old days".

  they might still be bitter , angry or depressed because of their past.

  but in a strange way, it seems like they never really want to get back into reality, into the real world.

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  hmmm, I was seeing a therapist for something else entirely when I left the dubs, or so I thought, but after a couple of years I've come to realize that it was all part of the same thing. I would never have been able to leave the dubs and stay gone if it hadn't been for the things about myself that my therapist helped me learn, like, being an intelligent, articulate woman who wants an education is a GOOD thing! It's not for everyone, seeing a counselor I mean, because the bad ones can really eff you up, but the good ones, well, it changed my life.

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  The Depths They Will Sink To.....

  by sweet pea in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  having almost gotten over my jw ex-best friend telling me she could no longer be my friend, handing me back my spare keys, sending a note and present to my kids with not even a 'dear sam', shunning me in the park, etc, etc she now sacks her immigrant cleaner (who became her cleaner due to my recommendation a year ago) by text message.

  cleaner phones her to check out what's going on and she tells her you can no longer clean for us as you work for sam and my husband wants us to have no connection whatever - you may tell her things about us and we don't want that.

  charming, another kick in the stomach for me and a great witness to the cleaner (who ironically we found out a few months ago has a father who is a witness!).

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  And likely she feels so smug and sanctimonious about being "submissive" to her husbands wishes to have no connection to you! Talk about priorities being upside down! ARGH!

  brunn
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  Are you making progress?

  by nvrgnbk in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we're all in different stages of exiting the jw organization.. how do you feel about where you are at today, compared with a year ago?

  do you see positive growth in yourself?

  or do you feel stagnant?.

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  I actually was going to start a thread similar to this, nvr, but more along the lines of are you happier since you left the dubs? And I mean, those of us who are truly leaving/have left, not the ones still trying to decide. I know I'm much happier and I'm definitely making progress. I took my son trick-r-treating for the first time this Halloween and we both thoroughly enjoyed it, with no pangs of guilt, or even thoughts of "what if someone sees me" crossing my mind. I'm moving ahead with my divorce and, the biggest sign of progress to my mind, I no longer feel like I need to preface any story or experience I share with, "I used to be a Jehovah's Witness." It still comes up, but it's no longer the way I define myself. And that truly feels amazing.

  Thanks for asking, Nate!

  brunn
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  I finally passed it !!!!!!!!!!!

  by Kudra in

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  no, not gas, not a kidney stone... .

  i passed my phd exams!!!!!!

  ugh.

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  Amazing accomplishment! I'm very impressed!

  brunn
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  Name Things You Wanted To Do As A JW But Couldn't--- That You Do Now

  by minimus in

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  when you were a witness, there must've been things that you really wanted to but couldn't because you were not able to.

  give us some examples, please..

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  Watch X-Files, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, the Lord of the Rings trilogy, all the Harry Potter movies, R-rated moves and TALK ABOUT THEM!!!!!!

  brunn
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  Funny Kingdom Hall Scandals

  by lovelylil in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  in one hall i was in, we had sister self-righteous.

  you know the type, always pointed out how spiritual she is and how much she does for jehovah.

  anyway, one time she invited me and my two kids over to swim in her pool on a hot day and i told her i could come but that i had my nephew up from ct for a visit and asked if i could bring him.

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  HOOOOT!!! I love it, Big D!

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  Do you "shun" posters?

  by changeling in

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  you don't need to name names (please don't), but do you delibertely not post on certain people's threads?

  is it to make a point?

  is it because you don't like what they stand for?

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  I don't necessarily "shun" certain posters, though there are a few that seem to be a little more prickly and ready to take offense than others. You learn which posters are willing to engage in a conversation vs. which ones are so dogmatic there's no room for an exchange of ideas, but on the whole I very much enjoy reading everyone's opinions. Even the lighthearted "silly" ones that break the intensity of some of the more serious topics.

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  Our JC

  by besty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  dear brothers .

  you are aware that i am not present this evening following medical advice from our family doctor.

  i will attempt in this letter to give you some idea of why that is and how i feel.

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  Besty, that is far and away the best disassociation letter I've seen posted yet. I especially enjoyed how you hammered them on their "warm Christian brotherhood!" I hope you and your family enjoy your new life and that you find the support you deserve and should have received from the Borg.

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  this video

  by arc123 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4mwiqkgy-y

  what do you think if this guy??

  not sure how he gets away with his stuff......

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  Made me laugh out loud several times. Reality indeed!

  brunn
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  Incense...

  by *summer* in

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  do any of you enjoy lighting incense?

  if so, what is your favourite scent?

  which reminds me...i always light a stick of incense an hour or so before the "girls" show up for study.

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  I love burning incense, but my ex hated it so I never used it unless he was going to be away for several days so I could air the house out and not have to listen to him gripe. Smells are much stronger memory and emotion cues to me than visual stimulae so its very comforting to me to burn sandalwood or mountain juniper (think that's what it was). I can't wait until to be in my own home so I can burn incense any damn time I like!

  brunn