My mom shuns be completely with the exception of giving medical information about her side of the family when the need arises. I've often wondered what it would be like to have at least occassional contact with her. Either way, it seems heartbreaking to me.
jamiebowers
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The ongoing saga between Princess Boo Hoo and the Queen of Guilt
by Princess Daisy Boo inmy mom and dad live about 40 minutes drive away.
i am avoiding seeing them and land up making silly excuses not to drive over there, even on a long weekend like this one, just because i do not feel like dealing with them - dreading dealing with the kids mentioning easter eggs, or a guilt trip about the memorial.
avoiding dealing with the fact that mom is hurt because of what i told her.
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Elders come to see me...
by NanaR ini am now roman catholic :-).
the easter vigil mass (at which i was baptized) was 8 p.m. yesterday, and we had a meeting at the church yesterday morning.
so i went home for the afternoon to get ready for the evening.. so who else would show up at our door (during the three hours or so i was home all day) but two jw elders.
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jamiebowers
Please, for your sake and that of your family, write a letter to your local kh and tell them not to call at your house anymore. Congrats on the baptism!
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I used to cut the Borg some slack...but 10 years out?...The BASTARDS!!!!
by Alpaca ini've been out for 10 1/2 years.. in the early days, after my departure, i was just glad to be out and going back to school.
i felt sorry for those who were still in living a life of delusion and failed/false dreams....and, in fact, i still do feel sorry for the r&f dubbies.
i used to even cut the borg's leadership some slack, thinking to myself that they were just caught up in their own delusions.. but, the longer i've been on jwd the madder i get at the borg leadership's outright deception, lies, coverups, and self-aggrandizing behavior.
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jamiebowers
Hey, don't feel bad. I've been out for more than 20 years, and every once in a while I just get furious about the child abuse cover ups and fall out from disfellowshipping. I was disfellowshipped when I told the elders that I wanted no part of an organization that insisted I either stay with a crazy jw husband or remain single until I could prove adultery on his part. This guy was dangerous. He beat me, he threatened me and was committed twice by force to mental institutions by doctors and judges. He did wierd sexual things to himself and terrorized me for almost 7 years. But he would go and cry and confess to the elders, stop seeing his psychiatrist and taking his meds and beat the hell out of me or do things to scare me like drive into oncoming traffic. The elders solution was for me to be a better wife and wait on Jehovah. After he was committed the second time, I was running for my life and hardly wanted to wait around to see what he would do next, adultery or otherwise. I was also advised by a ms that he was a homosexual, so I could just see him hanging out with guys and me never being able to prove adultery, since women probably weren't his thing, except for maybe cover. Do you know what really pisses me off? To this day, he can socialize with my mom all he wants to, yet the only contact I have with her is when I need medical information about her side of the family. Yes, it is infuriating, but you can't let it eat you up. Regardless of how evil the WTB&TS is, my mother has a choice, and she chooses them--nothing I can do about that. But I warn everyone I know about their abusive nature towards women and children.
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Help me :-S
by slimboyfat ini feel awful at the moment.
there are lots of interesting threads on the go and i want to participate but i haven't got the energy.
i also wrote a long post about the sept km but i haven't finished and it's not current any more anyway.
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jamiebowers
Sometimes it is too painful to breath, but please keep doing it! Nothing lasts forever. You may wake up tomorrow morning and feel great!
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Shunning taken to the extreme
by unbeliever inthere is this xjw i know that i grew up with and we have kept in touch over the years.
he was df'd as a teenager, moved away and never looked back.
"k" has family he keeps in touch with.
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jamiebowers
The worldly family that K keeps in touch with may find it too difficult to mention what's going on his life to his parents. I know my worldly aunt dreads talking to my mom about me, because it just starts the whole conversation up again about why she is shunning me. My aunt always winds up crying. It's just not worth the effort for her to go through it over and over again.
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Sharing my sad news with you
by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit inmy great nephew, 8 months old, was killed yesterday.
so far appears to have been murdered by his sitter, a couple with whom my nephew and his girlfriend have been living.
they beat and drowned this little baby.
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jamiebowers
So sorry for you and your family. Will say a prayer for you tonight.
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Living as a former JW
by yknot inwhile i personally have not yet made this jump (final meetings will be first week of june).
i hear many wishing me "happy easter" i wonder how many of you have adjusted?.
i don't think i can unlearn that most holidays are "pagan", after all even the history channel confirms this fact.
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jamiebowers
Life can be difficult, even as a non-jw. Take the time to celebrate everything you can. There are lots of things that have pagan origins, but we and the jw's still use them (names of days of the week, months of the year, lipstick, etc). When I started celebrating holidays, I made it a point to do something or include someone who had no one/nowhere to go. We celebrate every holiday to the fullest, (except St. Patrick's Day, because we don't drink) with big dinners, cookouts, etc. Our summer parties are legendary in these parts. I found that there are many avenues to encourage spirituality and provide moral lessons to kids. Something on the news, problems at school or with friends, etc. Good luck and God bless (and don't feel uncomfortable accepting my good wishes for you!).
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It is official. I am an elder now!
by outofthebox init happened last night guys.
i got early to the kh and the boe came to talk to me.
they ask me to read the bible and asked me a couple of questions.
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jamiebowers
Good luck! I hope you can get your family out, but in the meantime, please keep us informed about what's going on with the borg. It's my only way of knowing what's going on with my mom. Make an effort to be kind to women who are dragged into a jc resulting from domestic violence and rape. Please also go to the authorities in the case of child molestation.
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Classic JW misconceptions. Then & now.
by jambon1 in'if you go to college you will come out an evolutionist'.
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jamiebowers
Smurfs are demonized.
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Why exactly do you come to this board?
by R.Crusoe ini wondered if anyone, after starting to post here after so long being worried about doing, now just does it because they acn and hasn't stopped to ask why the still feel the need or even pleasure.. so why do you come here?.
do you know?.
it's not easy to completely explain what it is substiruting for imo!.
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jamiebowers
To keep up with the WTB&TS. Although I know it would be against their best interests, I have this overwhelming fear that the borg is going to do something crazy, like mass suicide or something. My mom is still in. If I ever got wind of something like that, I don't know what I would do, but it at least makes me feel better to know what's going on. Also I like to offer words of advice and comfort to those who are being hurt by this evil empire. And knowing that people are out there who have experienced the same unfairness makes me feel less wierd. "Wordly" people can hardly believe my story. Can you imagine what people think when I tell them my mom can't talk to me, because I divorced an abusive husband and refused to remain single for the rest of my life or until I could prove adultery on his part? Can you imagine how freaked out they are when they learn that my crazy ex-husband can socialize with my mom all he wants to? It's been more than 20 years, and it still seems unreal to me!