Posts by jamiebowers

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Finding peace

by Nickolas in

this is for those of you who are familiar with my periodic rants about being married to a jehovah's witness.

you won't be seeing any more of them.. my wife and i were up before dawn on friday and spent the entire day on our boat, trolling 10 miles from shore and talking.

we talked about our lives together, the ground we've covered in the 40 years since we met as university freshmen.

jamiebowers

Nic, I am so happy for you and your wife. There's nothing better than a meeting of the minds with someone you love.

When she finally finally caved in to the idea that his decision could be "right" for him, I brought in the 800-pound gorilla. "But you always always always allow Watchtower to decide things for you. If a man beats his wife, she can divorce but never remarry if he remains celebate. Even if he went to jail, she could not remarry." She hemmed and hawed.

OTWO, it's such a shame that your wife can't really see the truth about the Watchtower's vile control over people. My jw ex-husband wasn't just beating me...he was strangling me and terrorizing me by driving towards a tree or into oncoming traffic, and then would veer back on course at the very last possible moment. The last few days that we were together he outright told me that he was going to kill me and then kill himself. He was crazy enough that a judge ordered forced committment to a mental institution. Last year I completed the Mosaic exam featured on Oprah that scores the likelihood of domestic violence ending in homicide. My situation scored a 9 out of 10.

Yet the elders showed up to my home unannounced and uninvited and pressured me into remaining in this marriage. When I refused, they informed me that I would have to prove adultery on his part. They made it seem like those were my only two options; remain in the marriage or stalk the guy who was threatening to kill me. Still a full fledged believer, I was so desperate to make them understand how frightened I was that I said I would da myself before doing either one of those things. Their answer was, "Don't bother. We'll df you instead."

A few months passed by, and I had moved twice, assuming I was df'd. My jw mom and step-father showed up, again, unannounced and uninvited to ask me if my husband had scriptural grounds for divorce. In that moment I realized that I would never be free of this man unless I "confessed". I had already given up all legal claims to our home, spousal support and all other marital assets, and then my own family was used by him against me. All because that is what the Wathtower dictated.

And the sad thing is that there are thousands who have suffered even more than I did. All because the Watchtower says so.

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I thought the world was JEHOVAH'S

by Tired of the Hypocrisy in

a few years back, my son who i tried hard not to get in too deep with the borg was at a football game with some witless kids and a few like himself, parents halfway in the borg.

well he and his brother who was doing all he could to be smiled upon by the elders arrived at the playing field and were just sort of mingling and waiting for the rest of the people to show up, when one really judgmental elder's kid asked another boy why he had worn a south park shirt to the game.

the sputh park shirt kid was pretty sarcastic and answered the question with a question.

jamiebowers

I thought Satan was ruler of the world

That was my first thought too.

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Went to my first meeting today anonymously!

by TimothyT in

hi everyone.. jack and i decided we would go to his local kingdom hall this morning.

although i have no interest anymore in being a jw, i think its still nice to have regular bible discussions, etc, which can give you something spiritual to think about each week.

i love it and i think its damn good for you.. today, jack and i walked in, a little nervous, but were greeted and welcomed like friends.

jamiebowers

Unitarians, in the US, at least, are accepting of gays and have interesting sermons on Sunday, as well as social events.

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sigh

by C.O.B.E.Beef in

jw
friends

this is my first time participating in a site like this , so please.

forgive me if my approach is clumsy.. my story is not extraordinary and hardly interesting, so thanks.

in advance to this forum for extending the bandwidth for my own.

jamiebowers

Welcome to JWN. Here you will find helpful tips on dealing with the truth about the "truth". The fallout of your newfound discovery will probably be the most painful experience of your life, but it will also bring freedom and happiness in the long run. This is the place to rest your burdens and share your knowledge and eventual joy.

As far as being a hypocrit for maintaining your position in the congregation, you'll get no criticism from me. Do what you have to do to save yourself and your famly. Good luck and God speed. Eventualy you'll come to the contented conclusion that part of growing up and living free of delusion means not having all of the answers.

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How can i make my cat drink?

by highdose in

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friends

its the height of the summer here and i think my eldery cat is not drinking enough.

his urine smells strong like human patients that i used to work with did when they hadn't drunk enough.. hes got fresh water down all the time, but hes not touching it?.

jamiebowers

Try distilled water in case he has a UTI. If he goes for more than a day without drinking or starts to hang out near his litter box, Rush him to the vet. His UT may be blocked, and cats die very quickly from that.

If he is blocked and you're not already feeding him a premium brand of at food with a low ash content, please start.

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How can i make my cat drink?

by highdose in

jw
friends

its the height of the summer here and i think my eldery cat is not drinking enough.

his urine smells strong like human patients that i used to work with did when they hadn't drunk enough.. hes got fresh water down all the time, but hes not touching it?.

jamiebowers

Try distilled water in case he has a UTI. If he goes for more than a day without drinking or starts to hang out near his litter box, Rush him to the vet. His UT may be blocked, and cats die very quickly from that.

If he is blocked and you're not already feeding him a premium brand of at food with a low ash content, please start.

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I read this on Facebook

by jamiebowers in

http://www.silentlambs.org/rickbrown.htmsilentlambs alert!.

please click on link for photo.

i couldn't copy and paste it from the article below.. inmate photo, id#55989.

jamiebowers

but I don't know of anyone in my old congregation who was like that. That I know of....

That's the problem....these creeps ren't made known to the congregation.

There was an older article that did state anyone convicted of molesting a child couldn't be appointed as an elder or MS.

I'm pretty sure it was worded, "known" pedophile.

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Lies Have Flashed Forth! - rap song by sd-7

by sd-7 in

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friends

from a world that is ending.

dont you ever lose hope and.

from a world that is ending.

jamiebowers

Wow! How long have you been working on this?

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Very poorly dog has been rushed to emergency vets!

by watersprout in

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friends

the dog has been rushed to the emergency vets!

i am really worried... she had started to improve and now has become seriously ill... took her to the vets yesterday and they think her stomach is ulcerated... gave her injections and medicine to take at home... today she is even worse, she hasn't eaten for 4 days... when she does eat she vomits it back up... she is also drinking vast amounts of water.... i phoned the vets and they wanted her in immediately... it's after ten pm, so they must think she is urgent.

carrot has taken her and i'm waiting by the phone for news.... just want her well... this is awful!

jamiebowers

So sorry to hear of your dog's continued health problems. I hope everything works out okay.

Years ago when we lived in another house, one of our neighbors set out cans of tuna with rat poison in his yard. I called the police only to be told that we couldn't prove he did it. Sure he didn't...the neighborhod a$$hole who constantly complained about stray cats in the neighborhood. So my husband proceeded over to his house, pounded on his door and said, "If any cats get sick from the rat poison you put out, I'm gonna come back over here and beat your ass!"

We never had another problem with rat poison in tuna. It's too bad you couldn't do something to shake up that old crone, as well as make her pay for your dog's vet bills.

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I read this on Facebook

by jamiebowers in

http://www.silentlambs.org/rickbrown.htmsilentlambs alert!.

please click on link for photo.

i couldn't copy and paste it from the article below.. inmate photo, id#55989.

jamiebowers

Sorry I haven't been on all day. My stepson was in a car accident, (he wasn't hurt, but his truck is probably totaled...poor kid, this was his first accident, and although the other driver was cited, he was very upset.) And on top of that I've been working to get a stray cat to friendly up to our family. My husband coaxed him into being held, and we're keeping him in a big dog crate on our enclosed porch until we can get his shots tomorrow and neutering on Monday.

Anway, I'll contact Bill Bowen to see if he's contacted any news outlets about this. If he didn't, I suspect it's because the accuser wanted to remain anonymous.