Stuckinamoveent, I was in that situation. My jw husband punched, kicked and strangled me, drove into oncoming traffic and did anything else he could to terrify me. He was forcibly committed to mental institutions twice. Per the elders: I was to either remain in the marriage or stalk the guy who was threatening to kill me until he decided whether to commit adultery or murder. He would have continued to have power over my life as long as I was married to him. And he wasn't the type to be alone. I fied for divorce, made a false confession of adultery, and proceeded to lose most of my possessions, my car, my home and my family.
You're right...this cult really is a piece of work.