Hi Wendy,
I'm sorry to hear that alchohol has had such a devestating effect on your family. I am just
disgusted hearing what happened to your brother. :(
There is such denial about alchoholics in general in the Borg...especially young ones. I remember
that my parents used to argue about who was drinking so much of the alchohol in the house, blaming
each other, never stopping once to ask if one of the kids might be drinking it.
My second oldest sister started drinking at about 13, 14. She'd come home from school, watch
cartoons and unwind with a beer. Where the hell were my parents? Why didn't they figure it out?
Even after my oldest sister confronted my parents about the other sister drinking years later,
they claimed ignorance. Of course now, years later, they say that she was just 'determined to get
into trouble." They refuse to accept any responsbility, or to put blame where a large share of it
belongs, on the organization.
My sister has been sober for nearly three years now. She does not see my parents at all, has seen
them once in the past six years. Says that it's instrumental to her staying on the wagon, and I
believe her. I'm very proud of her for being able to give it up, it's been a struggle. I know that
she will always be recovering.
I hope that your sister will find it in herself to stop one day. It's devestating to have to stand
by, helplessly watching your siblings destroy themselves. I never thought my sister would live
to see thirty.
You know, I just had a strange memory. Of my parents giving me champagne mixed with soda
pop to 'celebrate' when my little brother, who was a premie, finally came home from the hospital.
I was seven.
When I asked my mom about it later she said, "We didn't
want you to be curious about alchohol, we figured we'd take the mystery away."
Good god, what were they thinking? What kind of insane reasoning is that?
Es
p.s. Jimmyjames, the answer to your question is yes. Check your e mail. :)
