Hmmm - a man who looks nice is ok but if he's constantly down the gym keeping fit how much time is he going to devote to ME??? i'm high maintenance! lmao im totally not.
my hubby is quite chubby he's an ex rugby player and has gorgeous legs and even though his tummy is probably not what it used to be (damn that gorgeous ale, guiness, stout, bitter....)ive never seen it any other way. i like to blow rasberries on his tummy and rub my nose in his extremely hairly chest
probably a bit too much info for you but i reckon so far your wife is being proved right!
just as most men dont find stick thin models that attractive - boobs and hips and bums are better - women dont need a guy with abs - love handles will do just as fine