Man, sometimes it's hard for me to come to this site and read the stories... it hits way too close to home. I wish you all the luck in the world. My mom sounds a lot like your mom. I recently told my parents that I want out, and I even took the step to mail the letter in to disassociate myself. They still aren't listening to me... the elders refuse to read the letter to the congregation until I speak with them. When I spoke to an elder in my ex's hall (so I could verify that yes, he does indeed have "grounds for remarriage"- geez) he offered to send some of the local elders here to my house (I moved to another state) and all he needed was my address. I didn't give it to him, and really tried to convince him that THIS is what I want. I am dating a Jewish man, and yet- they STILL think that there is hope that I will come to "my senses"... Then I get a package in the mail from a friend with JW books and photos of us together... and a letter... *sigh* The next hit was a very sad email from my younger sister, who I adore, giving me the guilt trip ("I miss you. You are abandoning your family... Come to your senses...") It just does not seem to be getting easier. I think I will have to change my phone number, not open any packages I receive and pretty much start my life from scratch. I will build my OWN family... and know that I will NEVER do this to my child. I don't mean to hijack your thread, but please believe me when I say I understand what you are going through. It's so difficult. I will be thinking of you.
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hardest conversation of my life
by metaspy inmoments ago, i talked to my mom.. i told her that i was taking some time off from going to meetings and service.. the conversation went down hill from there.. as her usual she just dismissed my reasons as if they meant nothing.. i pointed to the child molestations as my main reason for leaving.. "you are being over-sensitive", "jehovah takes care of things in his own time", "rely on jehovah".
those were the catch phrases of the conversation.. a new one was: "what have you been reading?".
i have a hard time standing up to my mother.
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Hi all, I am new, found a JW
by -Tank inmeet her, and we all go out and have fun it was a great time, and .
went on, we talked more, and more...and more....and more, and .
family issues back home, so she and her friends did not get to see .
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veronica_mars
I really feel for you... loving someone like that... as good as the "highs" are, the "lows" are worse.
I think after 3 times her saying she isn't ready is an indicator. It sounds like she is really "into" going to meetings, being a witness and trying to "do what is right in the eyes of Jehovah"... and if you don't want to get baptized, no amount of studying or reading the bible with her will make that go away.
Please don't think I am saying you are wrong for not wanting to get baptized, in fact- quite the opposite, but you need to know that if you can't commit to the "truth" the way witnesses expect, you are fighting a loss cause.
I wish you all the best. I think it's best to grieve the loss of the relationship now. I am sure you will find some other non-JW girl that you can picture as you are driving those long hauls. :)
Good luck.
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Jw gatherings
by Blindbutnowisee indo anybody miss going to any jw gatherings?
they pride themselves with staying away from worldly people, but they love to dance to music composed by worldly people.
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veronica_mars
Sometimes I do... but, most of the time no.
I can do things with my REAL friends that I could do at a witness party, but it doesn't go the other way around.
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Marrying a "worldly" man...
by veronica_mars init's funny, cause i never thought i would do this.. not that i am engaged, or even dating anyone for that matter... but i *could*.. it's such a foreign concept to me... dating someone who isn't a witness.
who doesn't understand all this.. i don't know why, but it does kinda scare me.
i think that there are certain jw teachings that i will carry with me for a long time... and what if he doesn't get it?!.
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veronica_mars
It's funny, cause I never thought I would do this.
Not that I am engaged, or even dating anyone for that matter... but I *could*.
It's such a foreign concept to me... dating someone who isn't a witness. Who doesn't understand all this.
I don't know why, but it does kinda scare me. I think that there are certain JW teachings that I will carry with me for a long time... and what if he doesn't get it?!
I am single now, and hating every second of it. As badly as my marriage was, I miss being married. It was nice to come home to someone.
It's weird looking at guys now, and thinking about dating. I never had to introduce a guy to my parents, since they always knew them! (from the hall)
Sorry for the long rant... I am just trying to "re familarize" myself to this place... I think the support will help! :)
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I believe (and respect) most of the people's feelings.
I think that how we interpet things could be different from how things really are... and I think that I believe a person when they say they felt a certain way.
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Back again, after all these years...
by veronica_mars inwow.
wow.
i used to post here lifetimes ago, and i just recently came back and read some of my old posts.
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veronica_mars
Sorry for the other thread... I am still trying to get familiar with this site and how it works...
I didn't know how to find this thread, then I clicked on my name. Duh!
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Are you comfortable knowing, that what you write here will stay forever
by JH inlet it be this board or any other board, are you comfortable with the fact that whatever you post on the internet will be viewable for a long time.. maybe when you'll be very old, you'll find posts that you made a very long time ago..
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veronica_mars
Funny...
I found a bunch of my posts here from 5 years ago... by Googling my username (I used it for a lot of different things...) and I re-found this place.
Which was really cool, and really needed.
So, yeah, I think it's cool and I am glad that what I post on the internet will be around... for me to read later... It's like a diary...
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Back again, after all these years...
by veronica_mars inwow.
wow.
i used to post here lifetimes ago, and i just recently came back and read some of my old posts.
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Thanks you guys...
I need to get more familiar with all of you guys...
Is there still a chat room? I could swear I remember there was a chat room... where we all would talk...
Anyways, my mom asked me to go to the "special talk" next week, and I said yes... we kinda traded: me going to the meeting next week, for her help on painting my place today... Totally worth the trade! (right now... I'll let ya know if it was worth it AFTER the meeting...)
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Anybody attended the Memorial last night? What was your experience?
by Cindi_67 infor the first time in a year i set foot on a kh.
the memorial to me is still somewhat sacred so i decided to attend.
i thought i would feel different, in the sense that maybe i would miss meetings, but i was wrong.
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veronica_mars
I went... for my parents sake.
I cried the entire time. It was very hard for me to be there.
I felt like everyone was judging me, plus I was just so sad over my life.
That, mixed with the fact that I was wearing the same dress as this "sister" I despise, was just too much for me...
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Back again, after all these years...
by veronica_mars inwow.
wow.
i used to post here lifetimes ago, and i just recently came back and read some of my old posts.
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Hello All...
Just wanted to give you all an update...
I did move out last weekend.
It's been tough, but I found a place I could afford, close to work- however it's two doors down from a Kingdom Hall... how ironic.
I did go to the memorial with my folks... that was hard.
So, far everyone has been really nice and great to me- they are trying to be a "good witness"... so sad, they are too late...
Anyways, I will try and come on here more. I am sure I am going to need it... Especially when the loneliness finally hits me...