Posts by ex-nj-jw

Oh sweetie I'm not miserable in any way shape or form, so don't get it twisted. I don't need god, or jesus, or the bible or any organized religion to be a whole, complete, happy person.

I'm good, really so don't worry about me, mmmk?

nj

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JW'S Biggest Hypocrites in Society Today

by whatistruth in

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most of its members say one thing in their comments at the meetings, preach one thing in service, and pray yet another to their god.

but on the whole most jw's get drunk, have sex or "fool around" before marriage, get involved in some type of drugs (weed), lie.

and these practices are done on a regular basis by most jw's at one time or another without ever coming forward.. goes to show motive for being a jw is nothing more than fear.

Well I've been out for 25 years but that certainly was the case when I was growing up in it. The "good little dubs" were perfect at the hall, in service and of course around their parents. But get them away from it and they were worse than most "worldly" kids.

Then of course they would confess because they felt soooo guilty and on and on and on. Never growing up, always needing some one to guide them, or someone to purge their guilty little minds and hearts.

nj

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Who Do You Speak To More - God Or JWD Members?

by serotonin_wraith in

if i thought there was a magnificent spiritual being who cared for me, i would pray every day, not just if i felt low and had no one else to talk to.

we don't spend time with friends only when the going gets tough.

we share the good as well as the bad.

ex-nj-jw

Welcome to JWD real one!

I have never enjoyed the bible book of fantasy and why would I waste my time finding god when he doesn't exist?

Your are certainly free to believe just don't try to make me a believer, OK?

nj

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Professional Pregnancy Photos

by Es in

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hello all, a friend of mine came over yesterday she is a professional photographer, and took some pregnancy photos for me, here are a few of the many she took, once i get the disk i will upload more.. .

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ex-nj-jw

Great pics Es. Out of 3 pregancies I have only 1 (ONE) picture of me pregnant. I love my kids to death, but hated every moment of being pregnant and definately didn't want any pics.

I kinda wish I had some now, but oh well!

nj

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Meet Bailey Grace...a 3D Sonogram of my Granddaughter

by coffee_black in

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well, she's not due 'till mid march, but we have a preview.... can't wait to hold her!.

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coffee .

ex-nj-jw

Congrats coffee! My kids ultrasound pics just look like aliens or unidentifiable blobs! 3D is awesome.

nj

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Could You Live Without God?

by serotonin_wraith in

i have said before in past posts - i think a belief in a god is because of two bad reasons.. 1. ignorance (not always deliberate at all) of certain facts.

the universe and life on earth was not designed.. 2. wanting to believe in a god.. so, to focus on the second, i can see why people would want there to be a god.. you see dead loved ones again, you live forever, you have a purpose set out for you, you feel there's always a being with you through even your most difficult times.

for those who believe in a god, could you live without one?

ex-nj-jw

Now that I do not talk to myself trying to connect to an invisible sky captain, life is much better. I now know that what happens to me,good or bad, and the decisions I make are mine and mine alone. I do not have, or need that crutch of the bible or god, to live. Therefore I can't shift blame or give praise to the invisible sky daddy when something goes wrong or right in my life.

Wow, I couldn't have said it better

nj

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Do you consider your time as a JW wasted time??

by karter in

many of us have devoted a lot of time and energy to the jw's at the expense of other things like education , planing for retirement , family time just to name a few.. i don't consider it all wasted time there was a lot of good i learnt however i'm doing things now as a jw i never would have.. i don't have the same time pressure and never fell guilty about taking a lot of time out for myself as one elder said to me"if we don't keep you brothers real busy in the work of the kingdom you get swallowed up by the world" .

karter.

ex-nj-jw

Yes, it was a waste of time. But I didn't allow it to consume me. I got out at age 18 after being raised in, I took control of MY life and did what I had to do to be the person I am today in spite of the cult I was raised in.

So although it was a waste of my childhood years that I'll never get back, I don't wallow in it because I've had a damn good life, my children are healthy, strong, independant young men. My husband and I are still together after 25 years of being together. I have an awesome career, awesome friends and family and we are all healthy.

What more can you ask for? And if there is something else, just go out and do whatever you have to do to obtain it! Don't let your past stand in your way of a happy future, that's up to you imo.

The only wish I have that I have no control over is my oldest son. I wish we had a relationship, I wish I could hug him, laugh with him, cry with him, give him adivse and listen to his worries and concerns and be there to help him emotionally. And maybe one day I will be able to just that, I will never give up on him.

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Who Do You Speak To More - God Or JWD Members?

by serotonin_wraith in

if i thought there was a magnificent spiritual being who cared for me, i would pray every day, not just if i felt low and had no one else to talk to.

we don't spend time with friends only when the going gets tough.

we share the good as well as the bad.

ex-nj-jw

I actually speak to my husband, children and family as well as my real life friends the most. God, well if he's up there he doesn't care much for me. He's been pretty non-existant for all of my 43 years. So the big sky daddy is not even a consideration in who I talk to.

From what I've been told from believers, he's more occupied with them then those that really need help and guidance. Like children who are being mistreated and abused, people who are really going through bad times that don't have a place to live, food to eat or warm clothes in the winter. But he always seems to be around for those that got a new job or managed to get a good health report from a doctor. Or like the girl that works with me, she found 20.00 in her coat pocket yesterday and immediately said that Jesus was really looking out for her because she had no money Or like my Jdub sister-in-law, thank Jehoober because she was able to get out of work in time to make it to the special talk

Thank you Jebus, Jehober or whomever is the current skydaddy for the little insignificant things you do for those who give you credit for everything and for those who really need help that you continue to ignore

nj

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Bye for now

by freedomfighter in

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to everyone who is part of this forum.. i won't be on here for a while as i am seperating from my wife.

i have found a place with a workmate.. thanks for your comments and support through difficult times.

i am starting a new chapter in my life.. jw's have "destroyed" my life and seperated me from my friends and family.

ex-nj-jw

Good Luck FreedomFighter take care of yourself and let us know how you are doing.

nj