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Has the WTBS ever written YOU a letter when you made no request for one?

by gubberningbody in

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me.. i'll tell you in a bit..

SnakesInTheTower

ok.....you have my attention.......what's the deal? PM if you like..

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Please help me to chill .... quit bouncing off the walls....detox...

by SnakesInTheTower in

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in some ways i am add....bouncing from thing to thing...i think i have always been a bit add, even as an kid.....never diagnosed formally, but i have the symptoms.. being a jw, especially an elder, did not help that one little bit.

i was always busy doing something as a jw...field service, "studying" for meetings or some part, elder business, helping others in the congo, etc.

i rarely took the time to just unwind, relax, do something for myself..... i was always worried about doing something for others.. on the other hand, on some things, i will be ultra focused on what i am doing to the point that i will let 8 hours go by and have to be reminded to go eat....this was the case when i was a billing specialist.. i would be in the middle of some fascinating adjustment (i love numbers, data analysis, stats, etc.

SnakesInTheTower

Life is indeed unfolding nicely... not without emotional collatoral damage.... ...will have to share some sad but interesting stories from the weekend regarding former JW friends. Some real eye opening incidents...... tells me I made the right choices regarding the cult....Its too early in the a.m to write coherently.

....but the net gain is having someone I love and loves me unconditionally.

however, I had an excellent weekend with GF and her son... except for Chuck E Cheese.... they should call it Chuck up Cheese. I am contacting their corporate office this week... that was the worst pizza I have ever eaten...and it made the GF sick to her stomach.

Off to bed....Monday is our day together...sans kids.....

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another Michael Jackson joke... add yours (no accounting for good taste :P

by SnakesInTheTower in

so you heard that with all the surgeries michael jackson had over the years that he was probably 99% plastic?

after the autopsy is done, the body is to be shipped to the lego factory.

...yeah, they are going to melt him down into legos........ .

SnakesInTheTower

shamus:

I thought the title was self-explanatory.

exactly.... I knew that when I posted it..... .. and humor is the only way I can deal with a person like MJ. I quit watching the news because it was MJ all over the damn place. He was just a bit too weird around kids. Mental illness or more? Never know.. Pedo or not..ever proven? He was a sick individual, perversions or not. I am not an unfeeling, uncaring person.... he was a human being....a strange one...but human..... I did not know him personally so have no feelings about his death. He was not my friend. He was one of 6 billion people. However, if he was a pedophile.... I hope hell is created and a special place found for him. If not, then he is merely maggot food.

The jokes were mostly sick, often funny..... sometimes strange.....much like MJ.

History will judge him.... there is no higher power to do it.

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another Michael Jackson joke... add yours (no accounting for good taste :P

by SnakesInTheTower in

so you heard that with all the surgeries michael jackson had over the years that he was probably 99% plastic?

after the autopsy is done, the body is to be shipped to the lego factory.

...yeah, they are going to melt him down into legos........ .

SnakesInTheTower

so you heard that with all the surgeries Michael Jackson had over the years that he was probably 99% plastic?

After the autopsy is done, the body is to be shipped to the Lego factory. ....

...yeah, they are going to melt him down into Legos.......

...so little kids can play with him for a change.

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Please help me to chill .... quit bouncing off the walls....detox...

by SnakesInTheTower in

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in some ways i am add....bouncing from thing to thing...i think i have always been a bit add, even as an kid.....never diagnosed formally, but i have the symptoms.. being a jw, especially an elder, did not help that one little bit.

i was always busy doing something as a jw...field service, "studying" for meetings or some part, elder business, helping others in the congo, etc.

i rarely took the time to just unwind, relax, do something for myself..... i was always worried about doing something for others.. on the other hand, on some things, i will be ultra focused on what i am doing to the point that i will let 8 hours go by and have to be reminded to go eat....this was the case when i was a billing specialist.. i would be in the middle of some fascinating adjustment (i love numbers, data analysis, stats, etc.

SnakesInTheTower

OUTLAW:

Sleeping pills knock me on my ass!.............................LOL!!...OUTLAW

One glass of wine, even with the pill, has little effect....more than one glass of wine..with or without a pill and I am lights out.

Coffee has little effect on my sleeping patterns.... I went 2 years without coffee..once I got past the withdrawal headaches.... just non caffeinated herbal teas for 2 years....still couldn't sleep...4 hours max.......now with the pills and the sleep number bed...I get 7-8 hours, depending on the mood of my cat...lol

sleeping pills do not so much put me to sleep as much as they do shut my mind off from racing.... only reason I am still on the computer, with most of the lights out in the house...is that I am no where close to sleep..and I cannot lie in bed wide awake....that makes me crazy.... I will listen to BBC America on the radio and drift off shortly...

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Please help me to chill .... quit bouncing off the walls....detox...

by SnakesInTheTower in

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in some ways i am add....bouncing from thing to thing...i think i have always been a bit add, even as an kid.....never diagnosed formally, but i have the symptoms.. being a jw, especially an elder, did not help that one little bit.

i was always busy doing something as a jw...field service, "studying" for meetings or some part, elder business, helping others in the congo, etc.

i rarely took the time to just unwind, relax, do something for myself..... i was always worried about doing something for others.. on the other hand, on some things, i will be ultra focused on what i am doing to the point that i will let 8 hours go by and have to be reminded to go eat....this was the case when i was a billing specialist.. i would be in the middle of some fascinating adjustment (i love numbers, data analysis, stats, etc.

SnakesInTheTower

ynot... I was actually massaging her feet the other night...I loooovvvee giving massages...and not bad at it...and it feels good to my hands to be kneading muscles........problem is she feels so guilty that she is getting such a good end of the bargain....she wants me to be happy...she does not yet get it that making her happy makes me happy. Maybe that makes me one strange guy...I dunno.....

here are some things we already do...we do go to museums, coffee shops, etc...sometimes just us, often with her son.....she and I have started going to the gym..at first she wasn't so sure about it...but today (since my last post earlier)...she really enjoyed it.... we do that on Tuesday/Thursday after she gets off work but before I have to go to class... its a way for us to spend time together, be healthy, and not rush...and since the gym is literally in the same shopping plaza as her work and only a mile from my house...neither of us is rushing...today, I matched my speed on the treadmill to hers, but upped my incline for a challenge..and we were able to just talk while excercising...did a few other machines too...just starting to get a routine...

She is a ball of fire at work...moving constantly..so when she is done with work, she for good reason wants to slow down. I, on the other hand, do not move fast while working, especially in the heat. We are both biding our time for career moves...lol

nowman...I have always been too hard on myself.... she is helping me mellow....

purps... my fader friend also recommended that book again to me this evening ironically.....but also a variation on the book that is more condensed...I may revisit it. I get that it probably does some good.... this was part of a review for Practicing the Power of Now: "Are you always trying to get somewhere other than where you are? ... Is most of your doing just a means to an end?" yep..that sums me up pretty well.... and that second book may also be interesting...I will check into ordering both through the local library before purchasing this time.

restrangled....we should chat some time...lol.... I need a project...right now my "project" is: getting through the next 47 days of college and 4 classes without strangling anyone (tonight the online server crashed and my quiz was due at midnight...oops)

flipper... we have some similar tastes in music..we both like jazz and blues....... a movie has to be interesting to keep my attention...netflix and blockbuster memberships were a waste of money for me......lol......today at the gym she recommended a movie that I think will be interesting....she is going to send her son to his friend's house for his sleepover....rent the movie Saturday night for us.... I will fix us dinner...and yes, I can cook.

dinah:

Snakes, you are just fully "Awake" right now. Let me tell you now, it's been a pure joy watching you wake up. Your story is amazing.

thanks dear...maybe I should be writing this stuff down more...write a book one day..... I think experiencing all the new things is a bit overwhelming...like giving a hyper child even more candy and bright shiny things.... She is looking forward to all of my first holidays and birthdays..LOL.... its fun and frustrating for her at the same time...poor girl...

Oh and the sex idea was a good one too. Tee hee hee

As a gentleman, I'm not saying much on that topic...LOL ....other than this does not seem to be a problem...other than I need to live in the moment......ADD does not mix well.......and I am pretty certain those weren't complaints I heard...

elsewhere...huh? LOL... politics not so much... and I hate this f'ing town and its lazy ass politicians..I heard they laid off 26 employees today.

OUTLAW...mountain man, a good ice cold beer is nice occasionally...neither of us are big alcohol drinkers... messes with her diabetes and I cannot drink much in one sitting and be any good at anything.... coffee, on the other hand...my beautiful GF is always well-caffeinated ...LOL...she is addicted and I have to have coffee again too.

its after midnight..I sure hope this damn sleeping pill kicks in soon...I have to work all day tomorrow...

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Please help me to chill .... quit bouncing off the walls....detox...

by SnakesInTheTower in

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in some ways i am add....bouncing from thing to thing...i think i have always been a bit add, even as an kid.....never diagnosed formally, but i have the symptoms.. being a jw, especially an elder, did not help that one little bit.

i was always busy doing something as a jw...field service, "studying" for meetings or some part, elder business, helping others in the congo, etc.

i rarely took the time to just unwind, relax, do something for myself..... i was always worried about doing something for others.. on the other hand, on some things, i will be ultra focused on what i am doing to the point that i will let 8 hours go by and have to be reminded to go eat....this was the case when i was a billing specialist.. i would be in the middle of some fascinating adjustment (i love numbers, data analysis, stats, etc.

SnakesInTheTower

i had to fix that last post...OCD ya know.... I had the quote boxes on the same line as the poster instead of the next line...ahhhhaharrghh... lol lol lol lol

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Please help me to chill .... quit bouncing off the walls....detox...

by SnakesInTheTower in

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in some ways i am add....bouncing from thing to thing...i think i have always been a bit add, even as an kid.....never diagnosed formally, but i have the symptoms.. being a jw, especially an elder, did not help that one little bit.

i was always busy doing something as a jw...field service, "studying" for meetings or some part, elder business, helping others in the congo, etc.

i rarely took the time to just unwind, relax, do something for myself..... i was always worried about doing something for others.. on the other hand, on some things, i will be ultra focused on what i am doing to the point that i will let 8 hours go by and have to be reminded to go eat....this was the case when i was a billing specialist.. i would be in the middle of some fascinating adjustment (i love numbers, data analysis, stats, etc.

SnakesInTheTower

sylvia....I would be willing to try a natural remedy. I take pharmaceuticals only when I have to. I take a mild sleeping pill (generic simply sleep) to shut my mind off at night... I went from 4 hours a night to 7-8 hours a night. Between that and the Sleep Number bed I really started sleeping better.

rebel8:

I do things that are "not productive" but keep me busy. I do intricate artwork

I'm not good at busywork. I do enjoy reading a good novel from time to time.

witness007, please stop hitting on snakes. He is spoken for.

yeah, I am... nice to be "spoken for" after so long not. It felt good to hear my GF tell me the other day when a customer hit on her that she was spoken for... she has a BF.... I got the warm fuzzies hearing that...

w007:

I believe in going drug free so try sex aleast 3 times a day....makes me sleepy and sedated....no, seriously

lol... maybe when we move in together.... meantime, we have to carve out time from our days.... spontaneous is always best...lol

zombie:

you should be able to keep your mind pretty busy

noooo...that's the problem...lol. She wants my mind focused on the hear and now... you propose my current M.O. lol

Exercise is essential, go for a 30-60 min run 3 times a week, that will help with stress and the whole bouncing off the walls thing massively.

she and I have started going to the gym...I have a membership...but rarely go. Now I have someone to go with. We both have excercise goals (mine: regain muscle tone; hers: lthe last few stubborn pounds she wants to lose...I promised her if she did that I would buy that "little black dress" she promised herself if she did it....yeah... I got huuuuge brownie points for that ...lol).

VE:

Let the mind be in service to the heart, not running the show.

I am sooo writing that down and posting it on my refrigerator and computer.

Bee:

Perhaps draw up a Franklin "T" for yourself - pros and cons

I like that idea....but I waaay overanalyze things now....

scully:

Try reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.

purplesofa recommended that book to me a year or so ago......I ordered it from Amazon...got it.......read about 10 pages...hated it. That stopping every so often and thinking about it? Couldn't do it. Sold it back on Amazon for a small loss...lol

when it's important to focus your thoughts and energy on one single event (like a romantic evening with your girlfriend).

yeah...that's what she is going to help me "work" on....she has no idea the task she is undertaking...lol...good thing she loves me.

heaven:

suggest avoiding high sugar foods and caffeine. Chamomile tea is calming.

even during the 2 years I was completely off caffeine and drank herbal teas....I was still a bouncing... I drink coffee again now..that's how I met Toni.... she drinks 5 times as much coffee as I do. In the evening, I switch to herbal teas...I like Sleepytime (spearmint).

restrangled:

know a guy probably wouldn't want to pick up needlepoint, but its the most relaxing thing I know of.

surprisingly...when I was in my early 20s, I picked up counted cross stitch from my mom...I should have chosen an easier pattern...no patience for it at all.

I am always jumping up and start doing something else. I tell him just keep talking... I can't sit still. When I'm on the phone, I pace, dust, empty a dishwasher etc. Is this the kind of bouncing off the walls you are talking about or something more severe?

E X A C T L Y... last night after we ate (Subway that I brought over..too hot to cook), I got up and did dishes that were in her sink from earlier as we talked....she was sitting, I was standing doing dishes.....she hates doing them and I love it.... ("love it" in that I dont love dishes in the sink...I dont mind doing them).... she really likes that I do the dishes....she didnt like it so much that I was bouncing up to do it instead of sitting next to her at the kitchen table.... though when I got done...then I sat down and we could talk, hold hands, kiss...for 2 hours after.....lol....but the dishes were done..lol.

sigh...... keep em coming...

Snakes ( Rich)

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Please comment on Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

by compound complex in

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the ocd thingy came up hugely in this old thread ... http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/137404/1/time-and-distance-a-guy-thing.

do you have a touch of the mania?.

i'm going on a walk now and timing each segment [ from street sign to street sign].. coco ocd.

SnakesInTheTower

I am limited on OCD.... when I was a kid, it was bad...counting was the worst... checking and rechecking when I was a young adult...

When I post you may note that I very rarely have typos, etc. I probably check and recheck spelling and grammar 3 times before I post. If I post and see an error I edit until I no longer am allowed. ...guess that's OCD.... I do the same when I am doing homework.

I do it a little now..mostly the checking to make sure stove is off, lock is really locked, etc.

It't the ADD that is making my GF a bit crazy....she loves me anyway...off to check that thread...LOL

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ps... I just thought of this....when my screen name was sankesinthetower...that drove me crazy...thankfully it was corrected....LOL

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Please help me to chill .... quit bouncing off the walls....detox...

by SnakesInTheTower in

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friends

in some ways i am add....bouncing from thing to thing...i think i have always been a bit add, even as an kid.....never diagnosed formally, but i have the symptoms.. being a jw, especially an elder, did not help that one little bit.

i was always busy doing something as a jw...field service, "studying" for meetings or some part, elder business, helping others in the congo, etc.

i rarely took the time to just unwind, relax, do something for myself..... i was always worried about doing something for others.. on the other hand, on some things, i will be ultra focused on what i am doing to the point that i will let 8 hours go by and have to be reminded to go eat....this was the case when i was a billing specialist.. i would be in the middle of some fascinating adjustment (i love numbers, data analysis, stats, etc.

SnakesInTheTower

In some ways I am ADD....bouncing from thing to thing...I think I have always been a bit ADD, even as an kid.....never diagnosed formally, but I have the symptoms.

Being a JW, especially an elder, did not help that one little bit. I was always busy doing something as a JW...field service, "studying" for meetings or some part, elder business, helping others in the congo, etc. I rarely took the time to just unwind, relax, do something for myself..... I was always worried about doing something for others.

On the other hand, on some things, I will be ultra focused on what I am doing to the point that I will let 8 hours go by and have to be reminded to go eat....this was the case when I was a billing specialist.. I would be in the middle of some fascinating adjustment (I love numbers, data analysis, stats, etc.) and I would get a tap on the shoulder to go take my lunch....... so in that way maybe I am a bit OCD.....I want to get something done, I stay with it until it is done. I read the same way....

Now that I don't have any of that JW stuff keeping me busy. Having a job with a very unstructured schedule, it is causing me some issues. My GF told me last night (and today at lunch) that she notices that I bounce off the walls....worse than her 8 year old son. lol He can at least sit in a chair and focus on his NintendoDS. Despite the fact that I absolutely enjoy every minute I am with her (and her son), I do have a hard time staying focused on the moment. I certainly can understand why that bothers her. She tells me I need to detox and she is going to help me out. LOL She is a very patient woman indeed. I don't want to take that too much for granted.

So, what do you do to help you, relax, enjoy being with the ones you love, enjoy the moment... how do you shut your mind off from the other things and just be there.? How do you focus?

It's a serious question. One I have to get a handle on.

Snakes (Rich )

I am only in front of the computer right now to post this. After that I have to go.... I am going to do laundry and read my homework chapter...too many distractions at home...even that ...I am doing 2 things at once...sheesh...lol