Friends:
Long time lurker, very occasional poster. I have done the fade thing for 4 years now, and have not attended a meeting in over 2 years. I had a group of nice friends in "
the truth" all of whom have since forgotten that I exist. My parents are in their 80's and zealous as the day is long. My brother in-law is an elder...You get the idea - I am surrounded with nowhere to escape their "loving wrath". My dear mom is now in a desperate race to save me before the wonderful day arrives (is it tomorrow really?).
Bottom line - I was not prepared for life on the other side. I feel like I live in another dimension, like there is a vacuum of space between me and everyone else. I know I am depressed, riddled with guilt and anger. Why can't I just be accepted for who I am? Why can I not disagree with some of the teachings without reprisal?
I reach out to those ones who are fading, reminding them that if you are not prepared, life on the other side of the ORG is a lonely place. I used to be an outgoing, happy person. Now I am a hiding soul, locked up, without answers. I have thought of returning, and "faking" it, doing the bare minimum.... I cannot - the last time I was at the hall it gave me a stomach ache, I was done, walked out at the halfway song, and have never gone back.
I know I need to find a pair of bollocks and get on with a new life, but its tough. I am psychologically scarred. This healing will take time. Family is a lost cause, I am the black sheep. God I wish they would stop shoving the tower and awake in my face - been there, done that.
Thanks for listening. Putting this in writing is somewhat therapeutic. Where do I go from here? I'm not sure.