NYerGirl

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  Playing the lottery. Why does the WTBS ban it?

  by quixote in

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  the megamillions in new jersey (where i work) and other states is up to u.s.$260,000,000.

  got my ticket, my hopes and my dream.

  i can't remember the reason why as a jw i was told it was wrong to participate in the lottery, bingo and other such games.

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  NYerGirl

  You just reminded me to check my numbers for Tuesday's drawing. I know that no one won the big prize, but I'll take $100,000!
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  JW's ruin your sex life?

  by NYerGirl in

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  after a year or so of being a "lurker" (since i know some of you despise that word, say, instead, window shopper?

  ), i finally signed up.

  for the last week or so, i've come to the sight every day and i've learned a lot and also remembered more than maybe i wanted to.. so here's my issue: i've been married for 1 1/2 years, together with this man for 5+ years.

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  NYerGirl

  Hello All

  After a year or so of being a "lurker" (since I know some of you despise that word, say, instead, window shopper?), I finally signed up. For the last week or so, I've come to the sight every day and I've learned a lot and also remembered more than maybe I wanted to.

  So here's my issue: I've been married for 1 1/2 years, together with this man for 5+ years. When I first met him, I was just leaving the religion and experiencing my newfound sexual freedom, so I was up for anything. As we settled down, though, I fell back into some of the old thinking. Specifically, oral sex. Anytime my husband tries to talk dirty to me, I automatically freeze up and wish he would just STOP. I only want oral sex when I'm drunk. Other times, I can't bring myself to enjoy it.

  I know that this has a lot to do with my upbringing. I was raised in the "truth", became a pioneer at 17. Publicly reproved at 19 and married the guy. Divorced without elders' approval and eventually faded out. As far as I know, I haven't been DF'd and I haven't DA'd, but I still get shunned by the JW's (I live down the block from the Kingdom Hall where I grew up--sucks, right?).

  I've been in therapy for 8 months, now and I don't feel like I've made too much progress. Moving away from the Kingdom Hall is not an option, so I still see the Witnesses I grew up with at least 2-4 times a week. Does anyone have advice? How do I get over them so that I can discover my own life, my sex life away from them? I'm only 26 years old!