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Persephone69
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Who is up for silly?
by Sparkplug inmaybe, maybe, it is just me, but we need some fun!
so persephone and i are logged in.
two sillies for one.
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by Persephone69 ini'm kind of a newbie.
more of a lurker, i suppose.
i mostly just read over sparkplug's shoulder.
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carla, sorry, didn't see your post. Yes, ma'am! My 15 year old saw it first hand until she was 7. She's asked every question she can think of and I've given her honest answers. She's made her decisions regarding that mess. Her dad just doesn't take her opinion into consideration.
My son, on the other hand, just wants to have a one on one time with his dad. He's going to do whatever he can to keep that. He doesn't like going to the meetings but he's willing to put up with it to see him.
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by Persephone69 ini'm kind of a newbie.
more of a lurker, i suppose.
i mostly just read over sparkplug's shoulder.
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Doofdaddy. He HAS started a whole new life. He still wants the kids in his life but he's made it very difficult to be supportive in that endeavor.
OTWO. Thanks for the welcome. I've tried the religious path before (legally) and it cannot be used in court. Since there is no history of violence or abuse, that the legal system is willing to acknowledge, it's been thrown out. I cannot control what happens when they are with their dad. The kids know that they can talk to me about anything when they get back. I am now trying to be the mediator between my daughter and him regarding the meetings. She has refused to go to his house if he is going to make her go to "the hive".
LOL just a few minutes ago she was running around the house looking for anything that looked like a pentacle to wear when she goes down there. Totally NOT the way it should be handled but borderline amusing all the same.
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by Persephone69 ini'm kind of a newbie.
more of a lurker, i suppose.
i mostly just read over sparkplug's shoulder.
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maybe in georgia it isnt - but as a kid my mom got threatened by child services because we were home alone constantly while she was at work. This is New York im speaking of. What are YOU talking about? Can you site a law? Or just what you think? IP: ItUvp5ZEaX6Q8ss1
Solace, did you miss the part where the kids wouldn't be by themselves? Even if they were, the laws in the state in which we reside dictates that children above the age of 12 can stay by themselves. At the age of 14 they are allowed to babysit.
Is there a problem here? I'm sorry that your mother had a hard time while raising you. Please trust in the fact that my children are not unsupervised for any length of time, much to my 15 year old's chagrin.
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by Persephone69 ini'm kind of a newbie.
more of a lurker, i suppose.
i mostly just read over sparkplug's shoulder.
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Persephone69
We have communicated successfully in the past. Within the past couple of years though, that isn't the case.
We've tried mediation. It didn't work at ALL. His requests were completely unreasonable. He moved 230 miles away and wanted the kids to travel every weekend to be with him. He wanted them from the day summer vacation started until the day before school started and the entire Christmas break, spring break, Thanksgiving, etc.
I have asked him on numerous occasions to come to family therapy for the kids and he refused.
Little background. After we divorced, we lived in the same area so the kids could see both of us every day. They spend 2 weeks at his house, 2 weeks at mine but I would pick them up from school everyday regardless of whose week it was. Everything seemed to be working fine. We had our moments where we got on each others nerves and didn't speak BUT it worked out. Then, he quit his job and moved. It's been really hard on the kids but he didn't think to take them into consideration.
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For those that don't know me.....
by digderidoo ini have known many previous incarnations.
i walked the earth as nostradamus, uther pendragon, count cagliostro and rodrigo borgia, although not in that order.
i speak seventeen languages, i have played darts with the dalai lama and shared my sleeping bag with rasputin, albert einstein, lawrence of arabia and george formby.
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Persephone69
ding ding...round's over. stop, please. I thought we were supposed to be having fun, not taking jabs at one another.
There's too much drama and mess on the earth caused by individuals with anger issues. "Why can't we all just get along?" lol
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by Persephone69 ini'm kind of a newbie.
more of a lurker, i suppose.
i mostly just read over sparkplug's shoulder.
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Persephone69
FS, yes, I've told him. No, he doesn't care. She has told him that she doesn't want to go. She's gotten to the point where she doesn't even answer the phone if he calls. Solace, lol, no she's 15. It's not illegal and she's old enough to watch her brother. If they stayed home, they wouldn't be by themselves. His 4th wife and her 3 kids would be there. She's a "good Christian woman" (smirk) and doesn't have anything to do with the JWs.
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Lurkers and Newbies Ahem!!! :)
by LovesDubs inwe want to hear from you!
now is the time to finally be heard without fear of reprisals or punishment or condemnation!
you have anonymity here and you are surrounded by the genuine love and concern that you thought you were getting in the jws!
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I have written to him regarding issues like these in the past. He doesn't even consider anything I have to say. I've tried to get along with him and we can't even speak on the phone because of his new wife's insecurities. If he is on the phone with me, she has to be in the same room, listening in on the conversation, telling him what to say and starting arguments.
As for the religious aspect, I know why he has decided to go back. He brought his brother and mother into the fold before he left. They wouldn't have anything to do him, or our kids, until he came back. This has caused serious trust issues with my daughter. She wants NOTHING to do with the borg-sector of his family because of it.
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by Persephone69 ini'm kind of a newbie.
more of a lurker, i suppose.
i mostly just read over sparkplug's shoulder.
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Persephone69
Hi. I'm kind of a newbie. More of a lurker, I suppose. I mostly just read over Sparkplug's shoulder. I wasn't born into the borg. Was just assimilated and after about 7 years of the madness, chose to leave.
My two youngest were born while I was still in the borg. As a matter of fact, my ex-husband has just recently decided to become active again. No EARTHLY idea why he would return after being inactive, pagan, satanist, promiscuous, mason, organized religion going, porn addict, etc.... after 9 years BUT he did.
This is now the dilemma. Since he is going back to the meetings, he makes our kids go with him during his visitation. They HATE it. My oldest daughter (15) doesn't even want to go to his house because of it. My son (10) just wants to be with his dad so he doesn't complain to him about it. He complains to me, but not him because he's afraid his dad is going to be upset or his feelings would be hurt.
What would you guys do? In response JWFacts wrote: Persephone,
You have a difficult dilemma, and it deserves a post of its own as I am sure a number of people here will have ideas to help you.
If I were you I would write to your ex telling him you are concerned about him taking your children to a cult. Outline some reasons why you think it is damaging. You have made a good summary but for more ideas look at http://jwfacts.com/index_files/wrong.htm. There is also a section at http://www.jwfacts.com/index_files/mindcontrol.htm showing the negative affect a cult upbringing has a children. Ask him why would he have even contemplated going back himself? And then end letting him know that the children do not enjoy the meetings and by forcing them to go he is loosing their respect and damaging his relationship with them. That may scare him into re-evaluating the religion for himself as well as whether or not to take the kids.
any suggestions?
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Lurkers and Newbies Ahem!!! :)
by LovesDubs inwe want to hear from you!
now is the time to finally be heard without fear of reprisals or punishment or condemnation!
you have anonymity here and you are surrounded by the genuine love and concern that you thought you were getting in the jws!
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Persephone69
Hi. I'm kind of a newbie. More of a lurker, I suppose. I mostly just read over Sparkplug's shoulder. I wasn't born into the borg. Was just assimilated and after about 7 years of the madness, chose to leave.
My two youngest were born while I was still in the borg. As a matter of fact, my ex-husband has just recently decided to become active again. No EARTHLY idea why he would return after being inactive, pagan, satanist, promiscuous, mason, organized religion going, porn addict, etc.... after 9 years BUT he did.
This is now the dilemma. Since he is going back to the meetings, he makes our kids go with him during his visitation. They HATE it. My oldest daughter (15) doesn't even want to go to his house because of it. My son (10) just wants to be with his dad so he doesn't complain to him about it. He complains to me, but not him because he's afraid his dad is going to be upset or his feelings would be hurt.
What would you guys do?