Due to power-failure signal, I had to stop abruptly. Hence here is an addendum:
When I did my marine engineering, one of my professors was a
visionary. He instilled in me the above line of reasoning. He used to say that
in his native tongue, the word for good conduct is sadachar which is a combination of two words (sada = always + char = performing
something with 100% involvement). Such action is naturally good and effective
and one who performs action in this manner is always happy, he is in kingdom
of God—something that Jesus too implied.
He also said that the word for coconut is nariyal (from the root nar, man) which means both—man and
coconut—have some things in common. Coconut has three eyes—two are useless and
one real through which the sprouting happens. Similarly, man has two eyes which
are in a sense useless as they are capable of seeing only the superficial, and
has one inner eye of understanding that sees the eternal (essence) behind the
ephemeral (details). One who sees himself as eternal spirit in material body,
he will also see others as eternal spirits in material bodies—which would mean
he would always see good in others and do good to others, and will never harm
others and feel that no can harm him either. Also, coconut has a hard shell
which symbolizes ego in man. When it receives a hard hit, the shell is broken—sweet
water flows. So are with people—when they receive a hard hit, their ego is
broken—after that sweet behaviour starts freely flowing. Thus egoless living
means kingdom of God. This explains custom of breaking the coconut
before house-warming ceremony which symbolizes the concept that “from now
onward members of this family will live without ego bringing sweet behaviour.”