Posts by bluebell

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For Those Raised in "Da Troof" Would Your Life Had Been Better If...

by XJW4EVR in

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you had been raised by the same family, but in a different religion, or non-religious home?

i am not addressing birthdays or holidays.

i am thinking about everyday life.. the reason i ask, is that so much of our parents problems may have been caused, or enhanced by "da troof.

bluebell

I think my father would have still molested me, but most probably I'd have never been born as my parents met in da troof when he was studying. I think they'd have split up too if they had met.

I can't see that my life would have been better, in fact i wouldn't change much of it because I have empathy for people that I wouldn't otherwise have had. and i wouldn't have met my partner.

But on the otherhand, I would have had a much bigger family as we only had contact with my uncle who was a witness and his wife and kids and my grandma, that would have been nice, to know the rest of the family. plus i might have met someone that i love alot more because i'd have been allowed to love (if i hadn't been abused) unconditionally.

And i love xmas now and birthdays, i'm like a little kid. not jaded about the whole thing as i would have been if i'd had them all along, it would just be huh another xmas another b'day.

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Anyone heard from emilyblue?

by J-ex-W in

haven't heard anything of emilyblue for a couple weeks...hope she sees this, or someone is able to update.

getting concerned.. .

at the very least: emilyblue...know that we are thinking about you and wishing the best for you.................. .

bluebell

bttt

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Does parents recover?

by Manjana in

i am sitting here watching a video from youtube.

about children who have died, because their parent refused to give them blood.

it's awfull.. but what i am thinking about, does anybody know what become of any of those parents?

bluebell

There was only ever one case in our cong, a little girl had leaukemia (sp?). Thankfully her father was not a witness and she got a blood transfusion and lived. Her father was not a nice man, he was very violent, in the end he killed his wife but he saved his daughters life. None of the family are witnesses any more.

I don't know any other cases, not even in other congregations in the area.

You seem a really nice person. I am glad you are helping people who were abused in Denmark like Silent Lambs helps in the US.

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Does A School Yard Bully Attitude Take Over This Discussion Board?

by The wanderer in

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does a school yard bully attitude take over this discussion board?growing up, i can recall such times when a rival would want to pick a fight .

with me and when we met, he would bring along two of his friends and i .

sometimes, i would knock their block off and sometimes, it was the other.

bluebell

I don't think that it's so much a school yard bully but people with very differing viewpoints all trying to put their point across in their own way and everyone misunderstanding everyone else. There are some trollers but some are jsut labelled as being trolls because their way of putting their point across is not quite so well-honed. I kinda like reading the discussions but get tired if everyone starts bashing someone in particular and don't bother reading any more.

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Data Protection Act 1998

by S EIGHT in

has anyone in the uk sent a "subject access request" under the data protection act 1998 to the bethel or the local congregation?.

i'm very tempted to as this will mean they have to provide any personal information they hold.. i was disfellowshipped, reinstated, appointed and stepped down.

i'd like to know what information is held on record in regard to these incidents.. s8..

bluebell

I am considering something similar but I am not da or df. do you think that by my asking for my records that i will end up df?

I have sent an e-mail on an info website re: data protection asking if I have a right to my files.

Will let you know what their response is.

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now i'm even more confused...

by Missanna in

ok i started thinking tonight which is always a bad idea after i've had a long, really pressuring, day at work.

but i've been in this sort of confused uncomfortable state lately about whether i believe in god or not.

i finally got past the actual guilt of having these questions because i knew that was just what was drilled into my skull in my past.

bluebell

I don't really know what I think - hubby is big atheist and a good debater in putting his thoughts across - as I find it hard to formulate what I think in a sentence let alone debate I try not to think about it instead.

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Does Anybody Read The Bible Here Anymore???

by minimus in

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i don't.

it's not that i won't.

funny thing, is i've collected over 100 different bible versions and translations..

bluebell

Haven't got one in the house :)

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Help

by sexyk in

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not sure where to begin with this paragraph, im just a little dazed & confused.

i was in the jw religion for 20 years of my life, baptized, almost ms, i recently left, i am 20 right now.

living with my girlfriend.

bluebell

Hi sexyk and welcome to the forum.

alot of people here have experianced your situation to a greater or a lesser extent. it is truly horrible to be shunned by those you love, just remember that they are probably very scared of repurcussions should they have contact with you because "the jw religion is at worst a cult and at best a high control group" (that thought is ripped off from a post on JWD that I read, sorry to the author, i don't know who you are to give you credit!). it can get better with time. let them know that your door is always open and that you love them and will always be willing to speak to them, if they won't answer your calls, try an e-mail or letter, they may read those.

i personally know what it is like to feel that you cannot trust anyone, your trust has been abused by the borg and you have been taught/brainwashed into thinking that "worldly" people are untrustworthy too, so no wonder you feel lost.

just remember that things can get better, people here have survived and you can survive too. Talk to your gf - she may not like you being possesive but if she can understand why then you will be able to work through it. i spend ages pushing my partner away but he could see that there were reasons why and just kept on showing how worthy of my trust he is.

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Odd And Unusual Words And Expressions Used Locally Or Regionally

by The wanderer in

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odd and unusual words and expressions used locally or regionallysome time ago, i was sending a personal message to a friend in a different country .

and using the term bubba to address him.

now in the southeastern united states .

bluebell

one from round my area that i just thought of

dannies = hands, usually spoken to a child, give me your dannies to cross the road, or you've got cold little dannies.

(i had never heard of it but everyone i asked had, so obviously i'm just weird)

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Odd And Unusual Words And Expressions Used Locally Or Regionally

by The wanderer in

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friends

odd and unusual words and expressions used locally or regionallysome time ago, i was sending a personal message to a friend in a different country .

and using the term bubba to address him.

now in the southeastern united states .

bluebell

this one is from my part of the world (UK) but not my part of the country

i'm sketched out = im feeling scared

that's sketchy = that's scary

it's from cornwall, i heard it in newquay. i thought it was totally random, maybe "sketchy" has got surfing roots?