Thank you so much for all you really kind comments. I have mentioned a few of my doubts to my wife so she kind of knows some of my reasons.
I am starting to fade but very slowly and subtly. I have also started doing proper charity work that actually helps people.
I have been having professional help as I ended up in a statewhere I had no choice but to get it.
I can't shake my doubts as I know TTATT but still kinda hope deep down inside that it isn't true and the troof is right.
don't hold any privileges anymore as I have turned them all down.... So see what the future holds.
Thank you so much for your support.