You mentioned your wife falls back on "Where else will we go " I quote if I may Don Camerons book" Captives of A Concept" on pge.135 he discusses the subtle deception the WT uses.John6:68 Jesus had just asked Peter if he wanted to follow someone else.Peter answered "..Lord whom shall we go away to? YOU have sayings of everlasting life"
Peter was acknoweledging that their is nowwhere else to go to but to Christ. But note what the governing body does with Peters response.
NOWHERE ELSE TO GO
We will be impelled to serve (God) loyally WITH HIS ORGANIZATION if we remember that their is nowhere else to go for life eternal John 6:66-69
This switching of Peters words from the person of Jesus Christ to the organization of the Watchtower Society without anyone noticing the switch, testifies to how deeply captive everyone is locked into the concept holding them captive
I would highly recommend you read his book,it will set you free from Watchtower bondage forever
smiddy